RDawg Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Today I am feeling such a strong compulsion to send my ex a mean spirited, gut felt email expressing all my anger and sadness. We have been in contact this week by email, sorting out the sale of the house we own together. She has agreed to give me 2 months to make a decision on whether I want to try and keep the place or not. I said thanks for giving me the time, she says "no worries". I feel like sending one back saying Ja no worries for you, you moved on ages ago, you're not the one lying awake at night in a empty shell of a house that was our dream with a flippin gaping hole in their chest.. thanks so much for your part in destroying what we had you emotionally shallow, uncommunicative, self centered woman. Thanks for shattering our lives into pieces Bla bla etc etc Have any of you sent your exes nasty emails telling them the truth of what you're experiencing or does everyone play nice?
Haydn Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 No dont do it. Its not playing nice. Silence hurts more than insults. Indifference my friend. Sure you are in great pain but does she deserve to know how you feel?? 1
Author RDawg Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 No you're right Haydn What she deserves is a lifetime of bad luck and ending up a lonely old woman smelling of cat pee. Hey, isn't the anger stage great?!
fixing Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Hey. I feel you, i was left to pick up the pieces in my house with nothing but memories of our happiness and some of her stuff deliberetly left there. She of course, had already jumped into the next mans bed... I got drunk one night, and sent her a barrage of foul mouthed messages about the cheating and devastation she cause. Guess what? She didnt reply...... That made me feel like a complete loser. So gross, that she didnt even acknowledge me or the suffering she caused So, its definitely NOT worth letting her see your pain. She ends up feel more justified. DONT GIVE HER ANOTHER SECOND OF YOU. Smile and try to act indifferent 1
Author RDawg Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 Shame fixing. Yes let's all just focus on our own lives and look forward to a time where we no longer need to fake the indifference. I know it will come but from previous experiences I know it can take a while and for me I only really reach true indifference when I'm in my next happy relationship. In the meantime I still want to see her suffer. Hey maybe next time she will end up being the one who is dumped.
Author RDawg Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 Today my rage is gone. It has been replaced by sadness. I still feel like writing to her, although I'm pretty sure everything that could be said has been said. I just feel like letting her know how much I regret the fact that we destroyed our relationship and to show her how much I'm suffereing. It is so hard to forget all the good times, the dreams of the future. I have never "fallen out of love" with anyone so I'm baffled by how this happened. One of the things she said to me after the breakup is that "in her heart of hearts she knows that I am not the right person for her". I suppose I should take comfort in the finality of that. Still running the what if's the should have could haves through my mind..
Haydn Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 My friend the `what if` questions can be a killer. What if i turned left or right? Dont be so hard with yourself. Stew if you have to but whatever you do, dont contact. You will feel much worse. (I Know). Hang on and post post post. Have a better day. Today my rage is gone. It has been replaced by sadness. I still feel like writing to her, although I'm pretty sure everything that could be said has been said. I just feel like letting her know how much I regret the fact that we destroyed our relationship and to show her how much I'm suffereing. It is so hard to forget all the good times, the dreams of the future. I have never "fallen out of love" with anyone so I'm baffled by how this happened. One of the things she said to me after the breakup is that "in her heart of hearts she knows that I am not the right person for her". I suppose I should take comfort in the finality of that. Still running the what if's the should have could haves through my mind..
Author RDawg Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 Thanks Haydn. I will hang in there. Gonna try focus on getting some work done. You have a good day too.
throw_away_30 Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I've been dealing with a really bad breakup. I have also wanted to write her, to lash out at her for the lying and betrayal. I started to write down my feelings as a way to release. Eventually they took the form of letters to her. I don't know if it will be healthy in the long run, but it feels good to just get the emotion out as if I am addressing her. I would never actually send them.
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Don't do it! Instead, write that letter on a piece of paper and then when you are done toss it in the trash. Even if it's true there is no reason to re-hash old arguments. You are no longer trying to work things out and the argument is useless.
crederer Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Naw don't do it. Don't give her the satisfaction. You'll probably feel bad about yourself if you do in fact send that to her, also.
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 The wise are never answered and in that, that’s when you find yourself and become a stronger person. You will never get the answer you want. Sending her a letter is not going to change anything, trust me. You have to keep this pain to yourself, lead her on to believe you are doing great without her. "Ex's don't respond to words, they respond to no contact"
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