Guitarisgood Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 We've been dating for a month and having slept together etc and things have started to become serious. No exclusivity talk but there was an implicit understanding of trust. She is the proverbial nice girl spending her days locked in her room studying and last night was the first night she has gone out and drunk. Late night clubbing she was messaging looking for me. I come out of the clubs to go find her and just at that moment see a guy go in for a quick kiss. She makes some type of excuse about a friend etc. I walk away, she comes running after me and tries to call and message me that night. She is still not taking the blame but still making excuses. She further tells me the reason she was distant that night was because she does not want to be seen clingy and hates public displays of affection (that part is true from our previous dates). Besides here, I frequent a PUA/ self improvement site and posting there, they've given me a different insight into what happened. I guess I am at odds right now because our implicit trust has been broken yet I know I am infatuated by her and still feel that bond built by deep and meaningful connections we have built up til then. I am not sure how to juggle all these views and mine in how I should go about things. I know everyone makes mistakes, yet it's not that hard to 'behave' when you are out - especially when I held myself back in light of the girls I could of hooked up with. I am not buying her excuse as with the guys on the other sites have said, if it really was a pure mistake by her, then what would have been the things that had happened before leading up to him going in and kissing her not to mention why she didn't push him away. So hopefully instead of drunkenly writing a quick one last night, I write this now to see what your thoughts are? I know many of you guys say that we haven't had the exclusivity talk but how many of you guys actually reach this point and not be as loyal. On the plus, it means I have a 'get out of jail free card' I can use whenever in the future.
ChessPieceFace Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 In terms of lasting relationships, nothing good comes out of drunken clubbing. There's my opinion. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 You said in another post that the kiss was a peck. If the other guy had his tounge down her throat & she was enjoying it, you have a problem that you need to solve. One solution could be to break up. If some guy gave her a peck on the lips, while she was actively looking for you & all she did was walk away from him, wtf are you so upset about? It was a total non-event.
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