lyeex Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Ended a very unhealthy relationship 9 days ago. We knew eachother for almost 4 years, and were in a relationship for 5 months. We started out as FWBs when we met, and ended up here. He broke it off because he's depressed/unhappy and our relationship was not healthy, although it had its good times. Day one no contact completed after a setback. After he broke up with me, i didnt talk to him for 2 days. He sent me multiple drunk texts and called me the night after he ended it with me. We resumed no contact until sunday where i caved and asked if we could talk because i missed him. He ignored me. The next day we talked a little bit. He said he still doesnt want a relationship and that we could be friends. I told him no. That night he wanted me to hang out with him and a buddy of his but i was with one of my girl friends. I told him no. He tried to persuade me by saying "we can talk if you come". I told him it would be pointless because he doesnt want to be with me. I told him if he was serious, we could hang out and talk the next day. The next day, he says talking would be pointless. I went no contact. It's been easy so far not contacting him. I was very unhappy in that relationship. He doesnt work, hes an alcoholic, selfish, unaffectionate and i cant even recall more than one or two things that hes done for me. I did so much for him and he did nothing for me. He belittled me, made me cry all the time, flirted with other women. I had no trust for him. He hasnt worked for more than a few weeks in the past year. He's broken my heart more times than i can count since i met him. He was my first relationship at 19 years old (now almost 23) and i almost regret meeting him. Not sure why i'm posting this other than to get it off my chest and keep a journal i suppose. For the most part, i feel angry more than sad. He didnt deserve me. Here's to moving on! 1
Salvatore85 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 It's weird really but I completely understand what you mean. My ex-girlfriend was mean, flirted with other guys, texted other guys, most likely cheated, spent a ton of my money, had terrible attitudes towards me and just was an horrible girlfriend for the last year of our relationship. We were together for over 5 years and during that last year I thought of dumping her a million times but I just couldn't do it. While I was devastated when she finally dumped me it was somewhat relieving, she did what I wasn't capable of. 4
Author lyeex Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 It's weird really but I completely understand what you mean. My ex-girlfriend was mean, flirted with other guys, texted other guys, most likely cheated, spent a ton of my money, had terrible attitudes towards me and just was an horrible girlfriend for the last year of our relationship. We were together for over 5 years and during that last year I thought of dumping her a million times but I just couldn't do it. While I was devastated when she finally dumped me it was somewhat relieving, she did what I wasn't capable of. Exactly how i feel. I wanted to end it with him but i kept hanging on, hoping he'd change and love me back one day. But i'm relieved now that he did it. 2
MrBossMan Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 fwb is never healthy or sustainable. It almost always ends bad. Sooner or later, someone either desires something more meaningful or starts to consider why they are wasting any time at all with someone whom they've deemed unworthy of a real relationship. 1
Author lyeex Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 (edited) fwb is never healthy or sustainable. It almost always ends bad. Sooner or later, someone either desires something more meaningful or starts to consider why they are wasting any time at all with someone whom they've deemed unworthy of a real relationship. True. I know it usually doesnt work, but i think it had more to do with our personalities than anything else. We argued horribly even when we were just FWBs (big red flag lol). All of his ex girlfriends had complained about the same things i did during our relationship (the lack of affection, the selfishness, manipulation etc). He's a very cold person and extremely negative. And i was angry because of the lack of affection so we argued too much and he probably felt i was "needy" although i just expected what would be considered normal in a relationship lol. Edited November 28, 2013 by lyeex
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