Ztw Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 So my ex emailed me & like a moron I responded few days later. he said that he had a nightmare about me and wanted to make sure that I was okay so that he could sleep well that night. I basically just said I'm alive and that's it. He responded right away asking me how I really am called me a dork and then started some inside jokes& again I waited to respond. Well now he texted me " have a great Thanksgiving!! " few weeks before he texted my sister to get in touch because I changed my number & he dosnt have it. I ignored that attempt. We haven't spoken in 7 months. We were together 8 yrs & he left me for Another girl. I am now thinking he only contacted me to feel better about himself. I also noticed he unblocked me on fb. What the hell does he want? I can't be friends. I literally just sat in my car and balled my eyes out when I saw his happy Thanksgiving text I can't do this. I love him but cannot go through any more pain and anguish these emails are messing with me. 1
nevergoodenough Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Just ignore it if he is causing you pain. You can always tell him that you prefer he stop contacting you so that you don't have to feel badly when he does. However, I think your best bet would be to stop replying to him. He will eventually leave you alone and you don't have to worry about feeling bad anymore. He is likely contacting you to make you an option for the future. If that isn't what you want, you should stick to leaving him alone. If he actually left you for another girl, that would likely happen again in the future. I know you love him, but keeping your distance would be best regardless of what it is you want.
OnTheRightPath Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I see nothing wrong with being firm and polite with him. Take the high road. Tell him he made his choice and you have accepted it and moved on. Tell him you wish him well but it is no longer his responsibilty or privledge to check on you (least of all for his sake so that he could sleep). Ask him to please respect you and leave you alone and tell him that you do not want to be his friend.
cavalier99 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Just go back to NC. No more communication. He thinks you are recovered. Youll get there but only by staying NC. Cav
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