robtmufc Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 (edited) Basically me and the now ex broke up 2 months ago and for the first 2 weeks after it happened I chased her like mad and now looking back I was an idiot and it was pretty pathetic as she said to me at the time. Anyway the last 2 weeks in october we talked but that was it. Then in november I realised (after a talk with a close friend who has been in the same situation and got her back) that I'm best off letting her get on with it so I did I went a week without talking then I broke NC and went out with her on the saturday day time, the next 2 days we texted alot (she text me first) then I left it for another few days. On the saturday morning she text me but I didnt reply, she then rang me 10 minutes later saying that she regretted it and wanted to give it another try so I said yeah ok. I left her alone for the next few days (which now I wish I'd at least text her to see how she was) Then on the wednesday when we had arranged to meet up I text her saying " are we meeting today" in which she replied "what for" and I said to talk about us and she basically said she didnt mean it what shed said on the saturday morning. I didnt even get a sorry for saying it just said she didnt mean expecting me to just take it in an carry on. Its now been a week and abit since that conversation happened in which I decided I'm going to let it ride and see what happens. My question is does anyone think that it could still happen between us? There was no cheating or abuse or anything in the relationship. Also I feel today anyway that I've turned a corner the past week I've felt like crap and I thought how am I going to get through the next year, but today I feel optimistic that if I didnt hear from her again/she got another bf I wouldnt be affected by it. There just seems to be something inside me that still loves her and want to be with her. Edited December 7, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
ariesgirl-328 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I think rather than using NC to hope that she comes back, use it to move on... As you just saw, she definitely blew you off without caring about your thoughts or feelings.. its not the same as it probably was at the beginning of your relationship. She doesn't really care about you now so why would you want to be in a relationship like that where she might flake at any time? I say let it go, move on, and if she ever comes back, make sure she's into making things work for real or forget it. If she doesn't come back, good for you (; you get to be with some other awesome girl that you find in the future.
Author robtmufc Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 I think rather than using NC to hope that she comes back, use it to move on... As you just saw, she definitely blew you off without caring about your thoughts or feelings.. its not the same as it probably was at the beginning of your relationship. She doesn't really care about you now so why would you want to be in a relationship like that where she might flake at any time? I say let it go, move on, and if she ever comes back, make sure she's into making things work for real or forget it. If she doesn't come back, good for you (; you get to be with some other awesome girl that you find in the future. Yeah its been 2 weeks since I posted on here and in that time I feel like I've made alot of progress for one I got in touch with her about something trivial and she told me she was seeing someone else. At first it was a shock to me but it's actually helped me move on in a way. I realised that all that stuff people say is to work on yourself before you can try and make it work with someone else (old or new) is actually true. I became a very bitter person while I was with her not because of her but because I lost my dad 7 months before I met her and I had alot of anger built up inside of myself over that wondering why it happened to me. It wasnt a very good year for me as I lost my cousin,my dad and my auntie in the space of 13 months. I've apologised to alot of people I pushed away when I was in the relationship and even though I'm not at the top of the world like I was with her I'm slowly getting there, I'm happier in myself now knowing that I am working to be a better person so I can be happy with who I am. I didn't think I'd say this 2 months down the line but I am happy in a way that we broke it off because its allowed me to re evaluate my life and where I want to go with it and who I am as a person.
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