OnTheRightPath Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Hi everyone, I have been reading posts here for a few months and I finally registered today! Let me start by saying I've gained alot of insight here and found strength in knowing I'm not alone in some of the feelings I've had following a break-up. The age old question......do soul mates and true love really exist? With that being said, I'd like to ask what you all think of the saying......"if you love someone, set them free.....If they come back to you, they're yours.......If they don't, they never were." I believe there is a lot of truth to it. Sometimes in relationships there are factors involved that cause the break up that have nothing at all to do with the love you feel for one another. This is not meant to say you should hold onto to false hope because I guess there is no "real" way to know if the other person truly loved you. Actions do speak louder than words. However, I think you can feel it deep inside if that love was truly real. Anyway, I really believe if the love was meant to be......the bond will never be broken completely and you will find your way back eventually when the time is right. Like a force that will draw you back to each other. I do also believe you should continue to move forward in a healthy way and not wait for it though. Anyone have thoughts on this?? 5
LostConfused123 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I truly believe if something is meant to be it will be. Also everything happens for a reason. Maybe wishful thinking but, it helps me when I'm feeling hopeless. Knowing it's out of my control and I gave my all helps me to keep moving forward. 3
nevergoodenough Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I think someone can love you and still not be with you. Sometimes we hurt people in ways that alter the relationship and make it impossible for them to continue forward. That doesn't mean they don't love us, it means that we messed up the relationship. All of these sayings are cute and provide sometimes false comfort, but I think it's possible for someone to love you and simply not be able to be with you. Love is sometimes not enough. You can mess up love just like a job interview, which is where I think I am sadly. 2
Author OnTheRightPath Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 I don't think there is anything wrong with holding onto a tiny bit of hope......as long as you don't let it consume you and you continue moving forward in healthy ways. The way I see it one of two things will happen...........the hope will fade naturally and you will completely move on from that person and find love with another. (In this case the "love" you felt was not the soulmate kind.) Or you move forward and grow as individuals and eventually end up drawn back to one another. In this case the hope never completley faded......it was always there in some small way. It's the magic of the universe 1
Author OnTheRightPath Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 I don't think there is anything wrong with holding onto a tiny bit of hope......as long as you don't let it consume you and you continue moving forward in healthy ways. The way I see it one of two things will happen...........the hope will fade naturally and you will completely move on from that person and find love with another. (In this case the "love" you felt was not the soulmate kind.) Or you move forward and grow as individuals and eventually end up drawn back to one another. In this case the hope never completley faded......it was always there in some small way. It's the magic of the universe 2
2fargone Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I mentioned before, I don't do cliches. Yes, there is a bond that will never be broken, I have witnessed that with an ex I haven't spoken to in 5 years. The rest is total bullcrap. I don't think 'things happen' and stuff, I make things happen. If someone else, like my ex, can't or won't make things happen, too bad.
Author OnTheRightPath Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 I mentioned before, I don't do cliches. Yes, there is a bond that will never be broken, I have witnessed that with an ex I haven't spoken to in 5 years. The rest is total bullcrap. I don't think 'things happen' and stuff, I make things happen. If someone else, like my ex, can't or won't make things happen, too bad. Well I certainly repect your opinion, as I do everyone elses. Mine just happens to be different than yours...... I have witnessed these things before and yes, experienced some. I have a bond with an ex that will never be broken as well but it was not "true love of the soulmate kind." There is a difference. I also happen to think some people allow their pride and ego get in the way of ever being honest about their feelings. 3
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