Iamhisflower Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 :eek:oops that's a problem. Send a quick txt asking if she has time to skype or talk. I wouldn't get into much via txt. 1
fixing Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I think with your case you have been wasting your time with No contact because secretly you wanted her to call. You were not trying to move on, so the last 45 days are a waste of time and energy. Dont forget, you broke this off, and that is a very big thing for your ex to deal with. You would have hurt her. I think if you really miss her and want her back, you should try one last time. Maybe invite her out for a drink, but be the old happy confident you. And if it seems to be going well, you then tell her you are very sorry for asking for a break.. But only if it feels like its going well. You have to realise though, that if she shows any signs of negativity, you must accept its truly over and do NC properly. Its a big risk to take, and its your choice. 2
Author RegretBreakup Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 Actually I've been confuse myself that's why I posted here. Sometimes I just wanna move on and do NC and sometimes I really want to just talk to her about things happen about the break up and try to get her back.. Or maybe I'm just scared to ask her again for second chance cause she might just reject me and all the NC that I did since we broke up will be a waste and I will be back to square one. I think with your case you have been wasting your time with No contact because secretly you wanted her to call. You were not trying to move on, so the last 45 days are a waste of time and energy. Dont forget, you broke this off, and that is a very big thing for your ex to deal with. You would have hurt her. I think if you really miss her and want her back, you should try one last time. Maybe invite her out for a drink, but be the old happy confident you. And if it seems to be going well, you then tell her you are very sorry for asking for a break.. But only if it feels like its going well. You have to realise though, that if she shows any signs of negativity, you must accept its truly over and do NC properly. Its a big risk to take, and its your choice. 1
Iamhisflower Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Actually I've been confuse myself that's why I posted here. Sometimes I just wanna move on and do NC and sometimes I really want to just talk to her about things happen about the break up and try to get her back.. Or maybe I'm just scared to ask her again for second chance cause she might just reject me and all the NC that I did since we broke up will be a waste and I will be back to square one. Regret, that's why I suggest skype or talking on the phone. You'd get a better gauge by her tone. You don't have to go right into "I want you back". Try something like, "I miss you, how are you?" If she's cold, keep it light, say goodbye and move on. Stop driving yourself crazy and reach out.
Author RegretBreakup Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 Omg guys. she just texted me just now! she said "Happy Thanks Giving! How are you? we haven't been talking in ages. update me :)" another breadcrumbs? guys help???? Do i reply or not???
fixing Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Boooooooooooom. Nice one, now stop playing mind games. Thats twice she's reached out. Take a little while and tell her your great and having a few beers down the bar with some friends. But this time, ASK HER HOW SHE IS, TELL HER YOU HOPE SHE IS BEING SAFE IN YOUR EUROPE. And happy thanks giving back! Be cool 1
Iamhisflower Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 sound happy to hear from her, but don't go into everything. Say "it's nice to hear from you...I miss you" and see what she says back. Good luck!!! 1
Author RegretBreakup Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 I don't know guys but I felt like Ignoring the message.. I think she is just being friendly.. I don't know I'm so confuse
fixing Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Facts: You ended this relationship 45 days ago. She has messaged you twice already, the last time you didnt ask her anything back = She cant reply. She is now in Europe, and she is texting you again... It looks pretty good for you in my opinion. You obviously love her and want her back. So, if you completely ignore this message than what else do you expect from her?? Take your time, but if you keep pushing this mind game of acting cold and uninterested than she may just give up completely.
strive Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Look. You broke up with her. If you really want her back, why are you making her do all the work? If you really REALLY want her back, then you should MOVE MOUNTAINS to get her back. If you're just confused and unsure if you want back in the relationship, chances are you won't last long anyway. So stop with the games. Stop giving her breadcrumbs. Let her go live her life and you do the same.
Author RegretBreakup Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 I never sent her any breadcrumbs. Also when I told her I wanted to work things out while on break she told me she wanted to be by her own and have no relations. I'm basically confuse here and I also think she is just being friendly. Look. You broke up with her. If you really want her back, why are you making her do all the work? If you really REALLY want her back, then you should MOVE MOUNTAINS to get her back. If you're just confused and unsure if you want back in the relationship, chances are you won't last long anyway. So stop with the games. Stop giving her breadcrumbs. Let her go live her life and you do the same.
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