Marine0311 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Coming up on 7 months no contact and I am really starting to struggle. We are both in town this weekend for Thanksgiving. She brokeup with me and weve been no contact ever since. She contacted my sister last week asking if I hated her. I am so tempted to contact her, but I dont know. I have moved on and made great leaps, but I still love her. I have felt anxious all day debating wether or not to contact her. I feel as if I do, I'd be let down no matter what. I have been hanging out with another girl as well and really like her, but I feel like I can not move forward with her unless I contact my ex and get final closure. What should I do?!
Simon Phoenix Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Closure doesn't come from others, it comes from yourself. And your closure is that your old relationship is over. It's time to give the new girl a chance and stop holding a candle for the old one. As for the old one, if your ex really wants to know if you hate her, she can ask you, not your sister. Don't contact, you clearly aren't ready to. If you are looking to her for closure, then you are not in the right state of mind to be seeking contact. 3
Author Marine0311 Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 Closure doesn't come from others, it comes from yourself. And your closure is that your old relationship is over. It's time to give the new girl a chance and stop holding a candle for the old one. As for the old one, if your ex really wants to know if you hate her, she can ask you, not your sister. Don't contact, you clearly aren't ready to. If you are looking to her for closure, then you are not in the right state of mind to be seeking contact. thanks for the quick respsonse, i agree if she really wanted to know shed ask me. i am going out with the new girl tonight. the thing that was different with my ex and this girl is that i saw a future with my ex. this new girl has all the right qualities and is a great girl, but i cant see myself in a Ltr with her.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 thanks for the quick respsonse, i agree if she really wanted to know shed ask me. i am going out with the new girl tonight. the thing that was different with my ex and this girl is that i saw a future with my ex. this new girl has all the right qualities and is a great girl, but i cant see myself in a Ltr with her. Stop looking ahead to the future. Just look to the next date, then decide if you want another, wash, rinse, repeat. It's a date, not marriage. 1
acidios Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 thanks for the quick respsonse, i agree if she really wanted to know shed ask me. i am going out with the new girl tonight. the thing that was different with my ex and this girl is that i saw a future with my ex. this new girl has all the right qualities and is a great girl, but i cant see myself in a Ltr with her. you are right now in the danger zone,one of the hardest steps that me and other from here we will face in the future and it is a double edged sword. first. like Simon Phoenix said dont look the future have a good time with the new girl dont rush things.go with the flow and be happy.dont talk about relationships etc with the new girl focus only to have a great date. now about your ex.bro i know its hard,you still love her(like we all do for our exgirls that they dump us)but think the pain think the agony you had for 7 months,think all the negative stuff. if you want to contact her doit talk with her but you must be ready and i dont think that you are. you need to lay a shield to protect your self from enything that your ex will tell you good or bad.right now you must keep a balance to not fall into traps you have your ex in 1 hand and the new girl on the other balance things and keep you head clear,think only your self. i will waiting your news in this thread be strong bro
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