Letter to my ex?

[jdb1811]

Hey everyone! I would like to just run something by everyone. I apologize if this post becomes lengthy; I just want to get everything off my chest.

 

I dated a girl for just over eight months.Back in June, I took her home with me for a family wedding and I figured it would be a great opportunity for her to meet my very large extended family. While home, I discovered a group of facebook messages between her and another guy.They were sexually explicit, to say the least. I was crushed and yes, I consider that a form of infidelity. A week after the wedding, we’re back home and she tells me that I need to get over it. At that point, I ended things.

 

The month following the breakup was rough. I’m in law enforcement and one day she texted me a message saying that she hopes I get shot while working. The next day, I receive another text with a picture of letters and pictures of us, torn into pieces. A week later, I’m over my partner’s apartment, watching a game. She lived in the same complex and when she saw my vehicle, she called my own department on me,stating that I was stalking her. Absolute fallacy! After that incident, I didn’t hear from her in just under a month. One night, while checking emails, I come across an email that she just sent me.

 

In the email, she tells me that she’s moving to a new apartment in a few days and she can’t take her dog with her(actually our dog, I helped raise the pup, she ended up keeping her). She proceeds to tell me that she is sorry for all of the heartache and wants to know if I could watch her just for a week. Well, being the heartbroken sucker that I was, I agreed. She brings the dog over the next day and gives me a big sob story about how she sorry and that she wants to be with me and work on things. So a week turned into three months of me watching the dog. During those three months, she rarely visited her dog, never spent money on food for her,and rarely called me.

 

However, when we did talk, she would always feed me lines about how she loved me more than anything, I was it for her, wanted to be with me- just couldn’t be with me right now. About two weeks ago, I was fed up with keeping the fact that we were talking again, a secret. So I told her best friends/roommates that we were talking again. I get a nasty reply back from the friends and from her. She proceeds to tell me that she never wants to speak tome again. The next day, while I was out, she stopped by and took the dog and hasn’t uttered a word to me since.

 

It was a rough relationship. I was under the pressures of being a rookie cop and dealing with this relationship. But I always gave 1000% to her, every day! In return, she would constantly lie to me, manipulate me, and just treat me like dirt. She valued her friends’ opinions about our relationship over my own and allowed them to get involved with our relationship. Also a few nights ago, I get a call from a complete stranger.This person tells me that they found a picture of me in uniform with a note on the back and my phone number- on their vehicle. I went and picked up the picture and it was torn in half. Who do you think was on the other side of that picture? Completely immature!

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Look, I’m a young guy who fell in love with someone who honestly, did not love him back. I realize I may sound like a pushover and a sucker. And that’s fine. But heartache still hurts, especially when you made your significant other the center of your world.

 

So my question to y’all is this… Is acceptable for me to write a letter or send an email where I just basically say what I need to say? I’m angry, I’m hurt, but I also understand that the relationship was not good. I just need closure!

 

I understand this post is lengthy. If you guys take the time to read it, could you please offer any insight and/or advice? And please, be as honest as possible. I would just love some answers and feedback. Thanks everyone!

Edited November 28, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Added paragraphs, fixed code and added many many proper spaces between words

[AlphaC]

What do you expect to learn from this letter that you have not already learned? This woman is psycho, stay away, she will endanger your career. She doesn't care for you, all she cares about is herself and her dog, stay away.

[CrJsc88]

I have to agree with the post above. Sorry my man, just went through a hard one myself four months ago and it defintely still stings but you have to move on. She contacts you dont pick up at all. This girl doesn't deserve you and you know it. The letter would just create more drama, which obviously you seem like a reasonable person.

 

Don't stoop down to her level. You live and learn. This will just open a new door for someone else.

[Confusedguy81]

just run far far away. In all seriousness, avoid her like the plague. She sounds very crazy.

[Simon Phoenix]

No. Just no. No.

[organizedchaos]

Does no one ever search the forums about sending a letter to the ex? I swear this is asked every other day.