Art_Critic Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 No please don't Its kind of tacky "I bought a gift for my bf now ex but we broke up so I'll give it to you instead" Yeah. Doesn't sound nice does it? It's not tacky, its a game... It isn't a piece of jewelery of something sentimental like that, keep what the gift is in perspective.
Eivuwan Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 If he is suffering from a mental illness, this can make sustaining a relationship very difficult. If you love him enough, you will let him go and sort himself out. He may come back, or he may not. But when someone wants to leave, we must let them go, no matter how hard it is. You should have just returned the gift, but no matter now. At this poin, you must cut off all contact and look after yourself. You'll meet someone else. I think she meant that he dumped her because she was depressed. OP, it is very important that you get some help for your mental health.
Letgo_ofme Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 I think he might have gotten angry because you were always providing to him. Now that you two are broken up, he probably wants to reclaim his space and dignity. By buying him the gift, you are implying that he is incapable of taking care of himself. Give him some space and focus on yourself... because being nice to him will only make him hate you more. I'm sorry
Author AngelicAria Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 I do get help, I'm too scared to date anyone new. I'm afraid of men in general. I opened up to dating him and he dumped me. He would always say things like "no girls will go out with me becuase they think I'm gay" or "girls always dump me"
bubbaganoosh Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I'd rather die at this point. Come on now! Your 21 and acting like a 10 year old. You have to come to grips with this and let go. There are a lot of guys out there and nice ones too. Believe me when I tell you that. You just need a bit of confidence in yourself. IMO, take the present back and buy yourself something. You can't buy love and if you do, it isn't real. Someday you'll meet a guy and know what love is. Best of luck to you.
strive Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I do get help, I'm too scared to date anyone new. I'm afraid of men in general. I opened up to dating him and he dumped me. He would always say things like "no girls will go out with me becuase they think I'm gay" or "girls always dump me" Yes everyone is saying that there are plenty of other guys, and it's true. But where you are right now, you aren't fit to date other guys. You should work on your confidence and self esteem first before even thinking about dating. Because if you try another guy, you'll most likely end up clinging to him just as hard as you're clinging to your current ex. That's isn't healthy. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I do get help, I'm too scared to date anyone new. I'm afraid of men in general. I opened up to dating him and he dumped me. He would always say things like "no girls will go out with me becuase they think I'm gay" or "girls always dump me" I am sorry that you are hurting. It's OK to feel scared. Fresh out of a break up throws everybody for a loop. It knocks down the self esteem of the most secure person. You don't have to jump back in right away. You should talk to your therapist about your general fear of men.
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