AngelicAria Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Ok so I got him a present for Christmas and he dumped me on the spot because he was angry and didnt want to get back together. His friend told him I got the Power Rangers thing he wanted for Christmas and he got mad at me and told me to return it because he wanted to get his own. It was $60 and he said If I gave it to him he would pay me back. He said it was because we are broken up and not even his friends pay that much for gifts for him. Throughout our relationship I paid for dinner and whatever else for the most part. I don't understand why a guy would get angry for his girlfriend (now ex girlfriend) for getting him a Christmas gift.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Ok so I got him a present for Christmas and he dumped me on the spot because he was angry and didnt want to get back together. His friend told him I got the Power Rangers thing he wanted for Christmas and he got mad at me and told me to return it because he wanted to get his own. It was $60 and he said If I gave it to him he would pay me back. He said it was because we are broken up and not even his friends pay that much for gifts for him. Throughout our relationship I paid for dinner and whatever else for the most part. I don't understand why a guy would get angry for his girlfriend (now ex girlfriend) for getting him a Christmas gift. Wait...what? Power Rangers? He broke up with you because you spent $60? How old are you two? :confused: 4
d0nnivain Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 He's angry because he views it as a bribe or as a way for you to try to worm your way back into his life, which is clearly something he doesn't want. He's not a user. Take the gift back or accept the money from him & stop buying EXs gifts. 1
Author AngelicAria Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 I'm 20 and he's 21. I bought it for him before we broke up. I'm already in his life we are both cosplayers. We have about 20 mutual friends.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 So he broke up with you before you gave him the gift? Yeah, just return it and move on. Not a big deal. Good on him for not keeping it. I wouldn't feel comfortable accepting a gift from someone I just dumped, either. 3
Author AngelicAria Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 I still like him though, it's been a month and a half so far.
Art_Critic Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 AA, Take him at his word and don't give it to him... give it to the next guy you are going to date in the future... He is your ex is the reason why he turned it down, the gift I'm sure he feels would have strings even if those strings are your "hope" to get back together.
Author AngelicAria Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 I still like him though, it's been a month and a half so far.
Author AngelicAria Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 AA, Take him at his word and don't give it to him... give it to the next guy you are going to date in the future... He is your ex is the reason why he turned it down, the gift I'm sure he feels would have strings even if those strings are your "hope" to get back together. I'm not interested in other guys.
mikecr50 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 He's a dick! Run and never look back! You deserve and WILL find better-NEXT!! 1
Janesays Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 I'm not interested in other guys. You don't have a choice but to be be interested in other guys because this guy DOES NOT WANT to be in a relationship with you. You are going to have to respect his decision and move on. 7
Author AngelicAria Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 I'd rather die at this point.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 I'd rather die at this point. This is probably the issue worth discussing, not your gift. Are you aware that this is an unhealthy and self-destructive mentality? Trust me, I've been heart broken before, too...but you display a lack of awareness and are seemingly in denial of the situation at hand. 2
Janesays Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 I'd rather die at this point. Aaaaannnnnndddd, this is around the time you should call a therapist. 4
Author AngelicAria Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 (edited) Everyone in here is telling me to give up. And I feel hopeless. It's not making my depression any better. Edited November 27, 2013 by AngelicAria
Eivuwan Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Why is your happiness so dependent on the feelings of one single imperfect being? That is the real issue. 1
Eivuwan Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Everyone in here is telling me to give up. And I feel hopeless. It's not making my depression any better. Would you rather that we give you lies and platitudes? Are you seeing a therapist?
Mr.Mango Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Everyone in here is telling me to give up. And I feel hopeless. It's not making my depression any better. We're not telling you to give up, we're telling you to face reality. Like Eivuwan said, would you rather have empty words of encouragement or the truth? 3
d0nnivain Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Everyone in here is telling me to give up. And I feel hopeless. It's not making my depression any better. We're realists. If he liked the gift perhaps we would giving you different advice. You called him your BF. He's your EX. You need a reality check. Yes, the end of a relationship sucks. But false hope sucks more. Whatever you do, don't kill yourself over this. Talk to somebody about how you are feeling. Call the national suicide prevention hotline if it is that bad.
Blade96 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 give it to the next guy you are going to date in the future... No please don't Its kind of tacky "I bought a gift for my bf now ex but we broke up so I'll give it to you instead" Yeah. Doesn't sound nice does it? 1
Targetlock Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 You are trying to grasp on to something that simply isn't there, you need to wake up and move on. reality can be harsh sometimes. 2
mrs rubble Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Please don't go feeling all hopeless and worthless because of one male (who's into the power ranges!!!!!of all things) has dumped you. He was never meant to be for you! I'm sure there is a fine man out there who will be perfect for you. While you're waiting for him to cruise into your life. Keep yourself busy, make some goals and set about trying to acheive them.:)
Author AngelicAria Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 We're realists. If he liked the gift perhaps we would giving you different advice. You called him your BF. He's your EX. You need a reality check. Yes, the end of a relationship sucks. But false hope sucks more. Whatever you do, don't kill yourself over this. Talk to somebody about how you are feeling. Call the national suicide prevention hotline if it is that bad. 1) it's something he wanted 2) I got it for him before we broke up. 3) he dumped me for being depressed
winny Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 1) it's something he wanted 2) I got it for him before we broke up. 3) he dumped me for being depressed You got it for him before you broke up... but still you shouldn't have given it to him after breaking up...
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 i lolled hard at the power rangers comment but to be honest i live with a friend who spends £200 on anime statues and he's pretty mature. i wouldn't worry about this gift, i wouldn't accept it either because even if i WANTED to i couldn't cause i'd meant to be MAD at you. it's just like RPing, the dumper has to play their part and act like one or nobody will take them serious so he can't accept the gift because he dumped you, if he did it would make him like a heart breaking moron! 1
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