A little update :)

[WrinkledForehead]

Here's a little update for those interested. We're now two months out from the ending of the A and bf's R. Things between us are going great. I don't necessarily subscribe to the idea of "meant to be" but we certainly are a match well made.

 

Bf has slowly started telling a few friends that he's met someone (me). It's obviously been a bit easier to integrate him into my life: he's been coming over for weekly dinners with the kids and me, so the bond between them and him is starting to develop. I've mostly guarded them from getting to know him while in the A but since he's a more stable figure in my life, he's becoming more of a known figure in theirs.

 

I occasionally have echoes of being the OW. For example, since we're not openly a couple in his circle, we mostly only text when he's with friends. Some part of me gets nervous he's with her, even though its illogical. I usually talk sense to myself and it never results in me accusing him of anything. I speak open and honestly on my immediate gut reactions and how I work through them to bf, and he's been understanding. We both know that in time and as we are more exposed to the public, that conditioning will fade.

 

Otherwise we enjoy so much time and happiness. We have seen a movie in the theater, enjoyed weekend nights in front of the fireplace, dinner out, family dinners together. My schedule next semester has worked so we'll be able to have a date night once a week. He's recently met my children's father. We discuss future vacations, plans for an addition to his house for when the kids and I move in (which is quite a ways off), my academic career . . . He's a very good man. We work at our R and maintain open communication. We're solidifying our foundation.

 

Anyways. I'm off to work on a thesis. Finals are soon! We'll be in the city tonight and enjoying the holidays, and as I mentioned, our first holiday! Much love to all of you and for any OW spending the days alone right now, my heart goes out to you. I wish you the best, ladies, and pray you find your way through this all to a happy ending, with or without your MM.

[bentleychic]

Wonderful update! Thank you for sharing, Wrinkled!

[LilGirlandOW]

I'm so happy for you girl!

 

My bf and I are about a month into our new R, I totally get the echos of being the OW, I find them sometimes confusing, but it's. Learning curve really... I know things will still continue to iron out as time goes on.

 

You sound like you have. Bright future ahead of you! Xoxo girl

[Speakingofwhich]

Thanks for the update, Wrinkled! You sound happy and energized and I'm so happy for you! Have fun in the city and do keep us posted as you are on this journey!

[Summer Breeze]

Hey WF I'm really happy for you. It sounds like things are going well. I'm just over a year with DMM and since we were barely together a month last year this is our truly first holiday season. We've worked really hard to get to where we are and I'm so proud of both of us.

 

The kids are doing great. We've had time away with some of his kids and also with my D. He made the choice to be totally honest with his kids well before he and I were back together. They knew we had an A and they knew I was his OW. Now they know I'm his GF and that I'm a huge part of his life. They hate what he did to their mother but they are glad to see him happy. I've had some great talks with them and we've all explored each others perspectives. Loads of tears and laughs. I'm very lucky.

 

My meaning in all this. Work hard to make sure you're making your future solid. Go to a counsellor and make sure you're both moving correctly from A to R. Minor things like jealousy can turn from minor to mammoth in moments. Make sure you're both aware of how, why and what to do when it happens.

 

It sounds like things are good now and I want to make sure you're both making sure they'll be good in the future.

 

Rock on!!