need a game plan!!

[shaqataq]

Met a girl at the gym back in June. She had this huge look of anxiety on her face, like unmistakable. Looked really upset, every time I saw her. Like she looked like she needed a leader to say its all okay.

I was obnoxious as all hell. (ALPHA)

My first approach I went up to her when she was doing crunches, took out her ear phone out and started giving her pointers. Annoyed her, wouldn't talk.

Did three more over several run ins.

My last attempt I pushed her out of the way when I when she was doing oblique standing crunches with a 45lb plate and I said, "Sorry I need to use the leg press" HAHA

 

Stopped trying after that point. Shocked she didn't report me actually lol.

She approached me like after two weeks of ignoring her cold shoulder.

We hit it off, I led, gave her a thirty minute one way talk of my philosophy of love and light and she duggg it.

 

Took her out that night and instantly tried to make it a relationship. My first mistake. We hit it off and she really was way more into me than I was, which is funny. She looked at me like I was I rock star, she looked like she was in love, like I was a leader and she felt safe. these feelings faded, but the sexually attraction and emotions were so strong she stayed. I needa get back to the original grounds.

 

I was in the not giving a damn, alpha non-needy category and slowly started give 143's and idk shouldn't have committed so fast. Should've not accepted behavior I didn't want.

Like not responding to her drunk texting or when she was being attention seeking. Laying boundaries for what behavior id accept in my world.

 

Should've paced it.

 

I am very sexual and would sleep with her 2-5 times a day 5-7 days a week for from june until september.

 

We split for school and I opened up over the phone, mistakingly not in person way before she leaves.

She still loved it and we texted profusely.

I didn't limit contact, we told each other when we were taking a piss for crying out loud, toooo much interaction, not enough mystery.

 

Over time she began to feel smothered because I made her the center of my attention. I told her all my insecrurites about my family, narcissistic father and curretn situation. okay, but I didn't stfu about it.

She came over and visited after 2 months of school. we slept together.

she left her vitamins and I had her come pick them up, problem is I took her away from time with her visiting grandfather.

I also had her talk to me and txt me when she was trying to spend time w family and friends.

Only understandable when you considering the amount of physical and passionate intamacy we shared. Like I read a lot about female psychology and sex. I was really into it and missed that connection, because we were in the attatchment phse over long distance howw painful lol

 

Not having that around sucked and I'm at a small state school with no abundance of women and guys and no it's not my outlook its a fact.

I became very negative about the school because, well everyone is negative it's a known fact. I went here with the intention of taking classes and transferring except i didn't get all the classes and it screwed with my head. I was in a rut, with no focus and all negativity and put those feelings on a very busy nursing student/girlfriend in a sorority OVER long distance sheesh

 

She broke up with me and I didn't know about no contact, kept bugging her, she kept talking so I was like okay, she wants space but still likes me.

She just didn't respond immediatley, basically the role I should've played ALLL SEMSTERRR MYSTERIOUSLY!! or the whole relationship, nc, lc, instant answers mystery ya know

After a week of being broken up she called me non stop texting how much she missed me. I was the same and ****ed it up, accepted her, didn't act high value. was too easy.

 

I didn't learn about no contact until like last friday, a month after she dumped me for the second time.

 

I said I miss you, tried to talk, explain. you know, the deal. pushed her away, annoyed her, pissed her off, dug a hole.

 

I was panicking for a month! and showed it.

Then I sent her a get well package with a written note, chocolate and icy hot patch for her back.

She liked it the first time I put one in her bag the first time she broke up, probably helped in her coming back in the first time.

 

But at this point, she didn't want me back so much.

I decided I wasn't going to respond when she thanked me for the gift.

Then as I always do, typed my thoughts into google and sure enough found no contact.

WHY DIDN"T I FIND THIS CHARM EARLIER.

She's been blowing me up like crazy, but after 5 days has stopped trying.

shes not giving IOI's like I miss you like the first time, more like I'm really worried if you're okay.

I was pissed I saw her in a rebound on facebook, like lots of pics, really trying to move on and heal. Dunno if it matters that she didn't get into one right away, probably means she was busy, hurt and still confused about me and what she wanted.

I realized I eased her ego and out of the relationship with talking and pleading.

DAMNNN

But she's been really worried. Which isn't what I want, I want missing,

but I guess any strong emotion is good enough to get her thinking especally in nc.

 

 

I want her back, but wanna set it straight. She's in a rebound so I need to just go full ghost right? And if it doesn't end, move on like anyways. I can find others, but no need to, this is a good girl here.

She texted my mom who I advised not to respond so she didn't.

IDK should I respond on my mom's phone saying how great "He's" (ME) is doing?

 

She left me cause I was needy, became supplicative got overly emotional and didn't know what I was doing with myself this semster. I was in a transitional period of needing to take prereqs for my dream program at uconn. She digs the passion but action wasn't following suit, I followed her, not the dreams.

She dug me all summer and I KNOW she still has strong feelings, they're just unsure and consfused because I stopped powrfully follwoing the path.

 

Any idea's on how to mend this get back to square one fresh. idk i don't wanna move on. It's not bugging me that bad, like I CAN MOVE on, and I know it comes off like I'm obsessing, but these are all the details that needed to be explained.

I don't want an answer like just move on.

This is something good.

That's obvisouly why I am here.

 

How do I use no contact to get her back to me. do I text on my mom's phone lol

 

also the trouble with distance is I'll only run into her at the gym during xmas break. Like physicality is a lot more powerful, that's where attraction started after all. then she found out I was smart and was like ok letsss keeep talking

GD LOOKS FRIENDS

Edited November 27, 2013 by shaqataq

[TylerDurdenn]

You don't really give your 'smart' claim much credit.

[shaqataq]

she just said she has my stuff and is asking if i want it back but i'm in day 5 of no contact. she wouldn't throw it away. idk

[Haydn]

Tyler you did it again! These one liners you come out with. I suspect we will see your name in lights one day!

 

 

You don't really give your 'smart' claim much credit.

[Never Again]

I thought Tyler's original message had a small quip in there about being glad he wasn't an alpha male lol.

 

To be honest, the alpha male is entirely a myth, but I won't go into that now.

 

OP, you're done. And you sound obnoxious.

 

I you actually embraced the alpha bullsh*t you spew, you'd be embracing this breakup as a chance to sleep with more women and wouldn't even be posting here.

 

That being said, there's no getting her back unless she decides to just come back on her own.

 

Give up and move along.

[Haydn]

Obnoxious is an understatement.

 

Why didnt i think of using these tactics to get my ex back? Err because they would not have worked! I with you with alpha male bollocks. Utter nonsense. Tyler, take the stage.

I thought Tyler's original message had a small quip in there about being glad he wasn't an alpha male lol.

 

To be honest, the alpha male is entirely a myth, but I won't go into that now.

 

OP, you're done. And you sound obnoxious.

 

I you actually embraced the alpha bullsh*t you spew, you'd be embracing this breakup as a chance to sleep with more women and wouldn't even be posting here.

 

That being said, there's no getting her back unless she decides to just come back on her own.

 

Give up and move along.