Gauranga Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Been talking to a girl for six months, never went on an official date. Finally got around to it last week and it went really well, had lots of fun, good conversation like we have on the phone, and it was nice to be with each other. There was some light kissing through out the evening. Well, when we got back to her place I dropped her off, gave her a kiss, then she pulled me back in and it just turned into a makeout session. Nothing big for me... but she's a 26 yo virgin (she's had oral, no penetration). She told me the next day that if we had been in her house it would've gone oral. I get it's a big deal for her. She sent me a text the next day saying we need a break, not in a big dramatic way but just so she can settle down, gain control of herself, and regroup. Later that night I texted to see if she wanted to talk and she said she did but wasn't ready yet. Part of me wants to just hang with her and develop the relationship, and not push anything sexually and realize if she gets turned on she still may not be ready emotionally. The other part of me just wants to turn her on to the point she's putting out. How will I know when it's safe to proceed down that path with her, I don't want to have regrets on either side. I'm trying to find balance.
ConstantVoyager Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 She sounds confused, but I don't think it has anything to do with her sexual status. You know what we called women who had done oral or anal when I was younger? Not virgins. (I'm 38.) It's not like she's some shy shrinking Violet. She's had a man's penis in her mouth. (Believe me, I'm not saying this from a prudie place, I just think this whole oral/anal but still a virgin thing is absolutely ridiculous.)
d0nnivain Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Keep your dates in public places for a while. Wait until she suggests a change of venue.
Author Gauranga Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 We actually had a big argument awhile back because I feel the same way you do, and she feels like it's still something she hasn't given away. She felt like I was devaluing something very important to her, and said she wouldn't have sex with me because she wants to do that with someone who does value it like she does.
Author Gauranga Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 Keep your dates in public places for a while. Wait until she suggests a change of venue. We went to Museum, Dinner, Movie and then I dropped her off. Could you explain a bit more?
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