wild_dan Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 (edited) HELLO guys and girls my story is epic Well after completing a six month tour of afghanistan i decided to go on holiday with my mates to thailand ... this was in september 2011. I was there to relax have fun and enjoy myself . Of course i met an amazing girl did not think nothing of it at first just holiday romance but then of course when it came to the end of my two weeks i decided i wanted to stay in contact .. so i did i got her facebook ... text her now and again from the uk (expensive) skyped her... 1 month down the line i was back in thailand and back with her. I was begining to realy fall for her i hated leaving her ... again when i was back in uk i was calling her always texting .. she was calling me i was mising her but i was happy she was in my life.. i then found out she was going to norway to visit her mum .. this was in 2013 .. At the time i was based in germany . so i got myself some time off and went to visit her i loved it .. i was so happy to be with her and meet her family..After norway again stayed in touch she was my gf and we loved each other ... bUT early 2013 she started to change .. i was certain she had met someone else .. i was gutted ,, but realy i could understand because she lived s far away and long distance relationships are tough .. so anyway i said you choose me or him .. and she got rid off him .. so i went back to thailand in april 2013 this year.. for a month i was ment to spend a moth with her in her village .. her mum was over from norway we were all happy .. then out of the blue she broke up with me .. I know it was something to do with this other dude. I was gutted it broke me up inside i was lost and lonely.. I asked her if one day we can try again... she said yeah .. it cheered me up a little but i ewas still messed up .. we agreed to remain friends .. and i left her village and went off alone into thailand .... Thats when i realy started to miss her like crazy and ralise what i had with her it was perfect .. I started to call her text her begging for another chance ... 7 months down the line i am still crazy about her.... i recently paid for her to visit her mum in norway .. over christmas ... ... I want her back she says she is thinking about it .. my problem is i find it hard to give her spae because i feel like she may just forget about me and move on ... when i stopl calling her for a few days she talk to me shes cool then i ruin it because i think oh shes being cool now i can ask about me and her .. then booommm back to square one she gets angry ,,, then i try to apolagize then its like she hates me ... i just want to see her and talk with her face to face ... i am currently in day 4 of no contact .. she is in norway ( the trip that i payed for) ... i want to cal her in a few weeks .. do i call her or wait for her to come around Edited November 27, 2013 by wild_dan
emi Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 How old are you two? Do you and her got a stable job? And whats your future plan about moving ?
Author wild_dan Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 (edited) hey im 23 .. i am in the military ... and she works in restaurant .. but now she is in norway which i kindly paid for because i wanted her to be with her family over christmas .. she is same age as me Edited November 27, 2013 by wild_dan
emi Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Im no expert but i dont think that you paid for the trip is a wise idea. Because firstly it make her think she can get money from you. If she doesnt love you, she will stay because of the money. Second, this relationship is on and off, its not stable, you shouldnt invest so much emotion and money on it like that. Personally, if im a decent girl, i woulnt take your money like that. How old is she? 3
Author wild_dan Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 she is 23 .... she never asked for this trip to norway .. i gave to her .. off y own back
nomadic_butterfly Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 she is 23 .... she never asked for this trip to norway .. i gave to her .. off y own back You shouldn't set yourself up to be used. Until she proves she is consistent in behavior no more expensive gifts. You cannot allow someone to toy with you like this. She will not respect you as a person and especially as a man. Stand up for yourself. The next step is to have a solid and sound plan of action to make the relationship work. Feelings alone will not work it out. There needs to be logic. Who is moving where? But before that, you need to make sure she is not dating you and another man at the same time and going back and forth. She needs to show she is absolutely serious about the two of you by sticking to you and only you. You will end up hurt and resentful if you continue this unrequited love situation within a solid commitment on her part to you.
justwhoiam Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 How did you meet her? Are you sure she works in a restaurant? Are you sure she doesn't do anything else on the side? I'm asking this because I know too many stories in details about thai girls meeting guys from Western countries. Bottom line: she's showing zero interest to be with you. So why would you push something like this? It's bound to fail unless she falls hard for you.
Author wild_dan Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 How did you meet her? Are you sure she works in a restaurant? Are you sure she doesn't do anything else on the side? I'm asking this because I know too many stories in details about thai girls meeting guys from Western countries. Bottom line: she's showing zero interest to be with you. So why would you push something like this? It's bound to fail unless she falls hard for you. yes i met her on the beach and she showed me her work ....... i trust her
emi Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I trusted alot of people who proved to me even the closest one also can shoot you in a back. Life is full of suprise, dont be so sure about it. Leave her alone. Go NC, let yourself and her figure this thing out
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