alex007 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 (edited) She broke up with me and it seemed like she wanted to hang out with her girlfriends and party more then she wanted me... but the thing is i treated her great... we had a lot of fun together... and i really do no understand how she could just dump me... it makes no sense to me. She said I was the first BF she actually saw a future with. I settled for her but lately I have been feeling like I really want her back in my life but she is very stubborn. She peaked in at me at her work when she didn't have to then she texted me an hour and a half later on her break telling me that I should chose another store to get my coffee from because she does not want to see me." Something to that affect. I wanted to text her so bad right now something like "I really do not know why you have decided to be like this. I have never wronged you. Never cheated on you or lied to you. Have always been there for you and you know I would do anything for you. I would even do little things for you like get you pizza on your lunch break or get you flowers or took you to concerts. I really don't know where and when you decided to be so crule to me. I really do not deserve any of that. You know how much you meant to me and I don't see how you just did a 180 so fast. We had a lot of good times together and some fights but could have worked things out. If you want to just party with your friends then cool. But I gave you space and you still are acting different towards me and treat me like dirt." She if very stubborn and will not text me much since the break up because it "makes her look weak" So I was thinking I would have to go after her if I wanted anything to work... Edited November 27, 2013 by alex007 added more
r321148 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Have a little self respect. This girl is treating you badly. I know the heart wants odd things but take some time and think clearly and you'll see you can do much better. Definitely don't send her that text. You don't need to justify yourself to her and it's unlikely she'll respond positively. As for changing where you get your coffee from...why should you? If she doesn't want to see you then she can go somewhere else (unless you just started going there in the hope that you'd run into her....in which case don't do that!) Just keep going as you are. Live your life as you want to, get coffee wherever you like and try to forget about her. Someone better will come along in time! 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Has she started hanging around another dude?
Sososad Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 You seem like a decent guy. I get where your coming from with the text To let her know how unfair she is been. I don't think it will do any good . By the sounds of things she seems Bitter still.. I'd just ignore I'd say it will drive her mad .. You've nothing to feel bad about .. Hold your head up high and keep moving On...
bedelgeuse Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 It sounds like you are being treated like ****. It is best to avoid her and cut all contact. I would not send the text. It would actually make you appear weaker. Remember that it is better to have nobody right now than someone who is half there, or as stated, does not even want to be there. The strongest thing you can do for yourself is to go NC and focus on you. That means do not text, call, email, and remove her from all social media. Give her what she wants by letting her go her own way. Your selflessness will only make you stronger and better for whoever chooses to love you in the future.
Author alex007 Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 Thanks everyone who replied. And no she is not with another guy yet that I know of. She does not get hit on often. I ended up feeling very weird... Like I wanted my old relationship back so bad, as if it was so right. I ended up texting her but it was none of what i previously posted. I was feeling good so I just texted her. It did me good because I got everything I wanted off my chest and finalized everything for my self in a matter of about 15 words. She has responded saying things that did not really make much sense and I was looking very good and she was making an ass out of her self saying bitter words and blaming me for things and I was just telling her how I agreed with the breakup and told her she should go live her life and have fun months before the break up and now she is. Basically I was really humble and nice about things and I think she feels bad about the whole thing to a certan degree.. Everything was no so bad I am actually glad I texted her. I told her at the end that this was the last time I would contact her and that I am going to leave her alone because that Is what SHE wants. And that I am fine with that. revealed.
Confusedguy81 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 girl sounds like my ex. Im sure she usually dates guys that treat her like garbage; its a strange comfort for them.
Author alex007 Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 Yeah, I have been very good to her and all i got was treated like i was some sub human piece of trash who was worthless. Ahaha i really don't know how someone could be like this to someone. Its like someone helping a bum out and then the bum just talks **** and treats the person like crap... makes no sense and kinda makes me sick.
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