cold feet? one more sad song

[n0username]

I meet a girl one night at a friend's party. Sadie has a boyfriend of five years whom is with her. Hes a total douche and I get that immediately. we flirt all night and he does not pay attention. a week later we reunite at the same party only he's not there. she tells me how miserable she is and how she has been praying for a way out and that marrying him and settling would never make her happy. we have a good time that night and it takes off.

her ex has cheated on her multiple times. he belittles her and they do nothing but argue and fight. when she says it over he immediately begins seeing other girls. he slept with her friends and even gave her a disease. this broke her heart but she feels she can always fall in love with him all over.

the next day she finds me online and we start talking for a week. we go out on a date and things are perfect. we hit it off and she leaves him without looking back. we fall in love and are solid for three months. one day she has a hiccup and feels guilty about things and has a dream about her ex. she ends up breaking up with me and taking to him again two weeks later. she then hears I am maybe talking to someone and flips out and comes running back to me full speed ahead. I let her back in and explain to her she needs to be certain. she is and we continue she tells me she needed to make sure there was nothing there and there wasn't. she is ready for me to have her heart. . she tells me how she cried at night the last year and prayed for a man like me. she says no one he's ever treated her so well and made her feel so special. we continue to grow.

sadie is very family oriented and close to them.

as we continue she tells me she can't stand being away from me and wants to spend her life with me. sadie moves in with me and we grow close. sadie wants to get married and so we get engaged and make plans. her family did not approve and feels betrayed. we get our rings and announce or plans. two weeks later, she has a dream about her ex and begins to over think things and feels she betrayed him. she feels she tore her family apart. I tell her we can slow down and do things the right way with her family's blessing. she moves out the next day and sends family to get her things with her. she trells me she is confused and needs time to find herself and be sure. she feels sad that all the plans we are making were supposed to be with him but never worked out. she says she doesn't know if this is over but leaves behind all the things I gave her that reminds remind her of me.

this makes me feel as if there is more to the story. I feel she just flipped a switch on me and completely cut me out of her life. I think she is wanting to forget about us and make this work with him. she feels though she owes it because of the duration of their relationship.

what do you think? will she come back again? do I stand a chance? I've applogized to her family and have seeked their forgiveness. I know she must fix things there first. is she looking to heal herself or just clear the slate to return to him when it blows over?

I feel deeply depressed. I can't stop thinking of her and what she's going to do. I can't sleep at night and have been calling into work.

can I get her back? do I chase her? let her miss me? why would she leave behind the shirt I gave her? ((

[2fargone]

You should not even consider this girl. Seen it too many times, they live 'in the moment' and act upon the feelings of that moment. You can never be certain with this type of girl.

[n0username]

she has only been in two relationships. both were very long and very ugly in the end. I am very close to her brother and work with him. this makes things much harder as well because I can't escape her. he's a big part of my life as well.

[n0username]

should I give her space and time but text her every couple of days a good morning or hope you're okay and maybe send her flowers or something to keep me on her mind?

[n0username]

anyone?