isis357 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Background: I was in a 3 year relationship, 2 years of which was pure bless, not to mention she felt like my soul mate, same thoughts, same goals, same vision, finishing each other sentences, and all that good stuff, the third years we both went through some financial hardship, my father passed away which effected me and naturally my relationship, we started to fight over stupid stuff, and we became out of sync. she returned back to states i stayed in my home country to handle legal matter pertaining to my fathers passing, shortly after her return we broke up! Post break up: few months into the break up i tried to keep in touch, calling her for new years, birthday, sending a remembrance note on valentine, knowing we recently broke up and she is probably miserable and it will be nice for her to know someone still loves her and cares for her, anyways all my attempts were received with a cold shoulder and ignored or usually responded after few days with a "thanx" or "you too". Fast forward: A year into the break up i get a massage from her for my birthday, and i gracefully appreciated her text and wish her the best, and then comes another text, and another snap chat video, and another and another and another, from pictures of her dog, her view point, night out with family, selfys, hiking, here and there, so i keep it going by responding the same and chatting her up...at some point we get into a philosophical debate and i call her since i couldn't get my point across through text and she doesnt pick up, then she text me and says she is not over me, and my voice will make her cry, she sends me pictures of us that are still in her phone, and tells me she still loves me and always will but understands we are not compatible and we cant be together... The Dilemma First even though Ive done great since our break up, i still love her! secound to me when you love someone you do everything to make it happen, what kind of BS is that to love someone and quit just because of a few fights or a period of downturn...i mean which relationship hasn't had its highs and lows, usually its the love that makes people stay committed and ride out the rough times in order to enjoy the good times. after a week of chit chat she is awakening feeling that i had moved on from...and now i dont know what to do, is she waiting for me to show interest in her, is she in transition of some sort or lonely and using me as a pillow, does she really love me or is she perhaps as scared as i am about the future I really love this girl, but i accepted the reality and understood i had to move on, and just as i was reaching the peak, she is back and pulling me back into it, now i miss her, constantly think about her, and want her, but from one side she says she loves me and sends me our old pics and from the other says she will not speak with me and just wants to be friends.FML!
Phantomu Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Background: I was in a 3 year relationship, 2 years of which was pure bless, not to mention she felt like my soul mate, same thoughts, same goals, same vision, finishing each other sentences, and all that good stuff, the third years we both went through some financial hardship, my father passed away which effected me and naturally my relationship, we started to fight over stupid stuff, and we became out of sync. she returned back to states i stayed in my home country to handle legal matter pertaining to my fathers passing, shortly after her return we broke up! Post break up: few months into the break up i tried to keep in touch, calling her for new years, birthday, sending a remembrance note on valentine, knowing we recently broke up and she is probably miserable and it will be nice for her to know someone still loves her and cares for her, anyways all my attempts were received with a cold shoulder and ignored or usually responded after few days with a "thanx" or "you too". Fast forward: A year into the break up i get a massage from her for my birthday, and i gracefully appreciated her text and wish her the best, and then comes another text, and another snap chat video, and another and another and another, from pictures of her dog, her view point, night out with family, selfys, hiking, here and there, so i keep it going by responding the same and chatting her up...at some point we get into a philosophical debate and i call her since i couldn't get my point across through text and she doesnt pick up, then she text me and says she is not over me, and my voice will make her cry, she sends me pictures of us that are still in her phone, and tells me she still loves me and always will but understands we are not compatible and we cant be together... The Dilemma First even though Ive done great since our break up, i still love her! secound to me when you love someone you do everything to make it happen, what kind of BS is that to love someone and quit just because of a few fights or a period of downturn...i mean which relationship hasn't had its highs and lows, usually its the love that makes people stay committed and ride out the rough times in order to enjoy the good times. after a week of chit chat she is awakening feeling that i had moved on from...and now i dont know what to do, is she waiting for me to show interest in her, is she in transition of some sort or lonely and using me as a pillow, does she really love me or is she perhaps as scared as i am about the future I really love this girl, but i accepted the reality and understood i had to move on, and just as i was reaching the peak, she is back and pulling me back into it, now i miss her, constantly think about her, and want her, but from one side she says she loves me and sends me our old pics and from the other says she will not speak with me and just wants to be friends.FML! You need to decide what you want out of the relationship and let her know. If you want to be back together with her, let her know. If you don't, LET HER KNOW. Then you both can move on.
mkrainy Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 My ex is just as stubborn as your ex. I think nothing can't work out if both wanted to. However, obviously, she thinks it's not going to work. Let her make her own conclusion and do not give her any pressure. Let it be, and if it's means to be, it will
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