btvdts Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 this is one of the hardest times in my life so far. I've been dumped before but never this bad. ok to the beginning. I had just gotten out of the military and divorced. Ended up moving to Texas in basically in the middle of nowhere with a former military pal. my life was a mess. Didn't know a soul out there besides him and his mom and it was hard to meet people because it was a tiny town! got to be good friends with his mom and we would have long talks about anything. She soon started telling me about her oldest daughter and how Terrible her husband was to her. For months I heard about the things he did. She was basically a maid to the husband and two girls they had together. they came down for a weekend and I saw for myself how much of an ass he was. Fast forward a few months. I'm now thinking of moving away from Texas cause I'm getting nowhere there. the daughter comes down for a week and tells the her mom she doesn't want to go back to the husband. one night she's there she makes a move on me and because I was still somewhat vulnerable from the divorce I went with it. We slept together. I thought that it would end there but we began talking and for the rest of the time she was there we were together. she left and told her husband she wanted a divorce. Told me later the way I treated her was the way she wanted to be treated. from there we saw each other every weekend! It was a 600 mile trip every weekend and we did it for a year! we hid it from the girls for about 8 months so not to hurt them. That was tough cause we couldn't be lovy dovey around them. the thing I realized after the breakup is that I kind of gave up on making friends because I had her, plus it was still hard since no one around was my age. because of this I was used to jus being me and her and the girls. We still saw her family and cousins and she always said how great it made her feel that I'd do thee things with her cause the ex never did. well after a year and a half an opportunity came up for me to move in with her and sne was all excited! but by now she had moved back to where she grew up and knew everyone. after I moved in things went south Bc now she wanted to spend time with her friends which at first was difficult Bc we worked opposite shifts so I kind had to start competing for time to see her. we would argue Bc she would let me know hey I'm out with friends right when I was leaving from work and hadn't seen her all day. to clarify things here I worked on weekends all day and figured hey we could have the evenings together but she wanted for her friends as well. Finally one day I started to notice that she would no longer answer her phone in front of me and we got into a argument. a month later of her still being weird with her phone she broke up with me and asked me to leave that every day knowing I really had nowhere to go Bc I had just moved there two Montserrat prior and had really met anyone except her friends. I asked her if I could have a couple of days to figure things out and then leave but she said no Bc it would be hard on the girls. So I left with barely any money and stayed at my bosses house for a week and then moved from Texas. it was so hard the way she treats me like I was a bag of trash just thrown out!!! there is a lot more to this story that I'll fill in later.
Philosoraptor Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Look man, she started seeing you before she had left her abusive husband. You moved in with her before either of you had even healed from your past relationships. She still needs to do a lot of work on herself before she can be in a healthy relationship and due to the circumstances in which the relationship started... it was pretty much doomed for failure from the start. Moving in with her pretty much was the final nail in the coffin. Just take care of yourself for now, do things you enjoy, and most of all make some new friends.
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