MoroccoMole Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Hey all, This is my first time on a forum and my first post, so I'll try not to ramble. I'm just looking to get a little perspective and words of encouragement from people who have been down this road before. I'm a 24yr old male. This summer I finished my undergrad (yay) but was laid off a month later (aw), and a month after that ended a nearly 2yr relationship with the only girl I've ever loved (and slept with). I'm not a guy who looks to others for comfort, I prefer to suffer in silence lol. However, I've now reached a point where I go to sleep hoping I don't wake up. My ex has a tremendous support system, she has a large family, an overabundance of close friends, gets invited to exclusive parties at NYC hotspots frequently, works full time and is emotionally inept to boot. I on the other hand have had no luck finding a paying job (I do volunteer research at a hospital),my male friends can't really console you with something like this, can't go out to meet people or do anything because of my student debt and I find myself overtaken by tears at the thought of losing this person at the worst and most random times(today I was on line at the supermarket -__-). I don't know how to get over this girl and cut out someone who was such an integral part of my life. I was sexually abused when I was young so physical intimacy isn't something that comes easy to me and now I've lost the only person with whom I ever felt comfortable enough to be intimate with. I know I'm not the first and won't be the last to ever go through something like this, I would sincerely appreciate any feedback from anybody who can relate, going through something similar or recovered from a breakup of their own. Pleaseeee forum peeps I need your wisdom lol Thanks for tuning in [=
ariesgirl-328 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 wow man /: I'm not sure I'm the right person to be replying to a post like this because I'm an 18yo girl just starting college unlike you but I went through a breakup that I was as down as you over, and one of the few things that helped me was being able to call a girl friend once in a while to vent and get her opinions on things. Since you don't have guy friends that would listen and relate(yeah any guys I know are the same way), I really think you need to find a girl you can talk to. If you don't have a close friend like that, I'll gladly listen because I know I couldn't have gotten though what I did without someone and you definitely need someone. Let me know if you'd like to ever voice call somehow like on Skype or something and I'll try my best to be a shoulder for you. 1
Author MoroccoMole Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 wow man /: I'm not sure I'm the right person to be replying to a post like this because I'm an 18yo girl just starting college unlike you but I went through a breakup that I was as down as you over, and one of the few things that helped me was being able to call a girl friend once in a while to vent and get her opinions on things. Since you don't have guy friends that would listen and relate(yeah any guys I know are the same way), I really think you need to find a girl you can talk to. If you don't have a close friend like that, I'll gladly listen because I know I couldn't have gotten though what I did without someone and you definitely need someone. Let me know if you'd like to ever voice call somehow like on Skype or something and I'll try my best to be a shoulder for you. Thank you so much for the kind words, that's incredibly sweet of you [= Glad I found this site.
Author MoroccoMole Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 My ex moved here to my hometown June 1st. Then July 17th he broke up with me. August 15th I found out I had Lyme Disease. I've gone through 4 rounds of antibiotics and may have to go through IV Therapy. I wish I could tell you its been easier over time. But its not at all. Just busy yourself. It will get worse before it gets better. What was worse is my ex said he couldn't wait to see the future with me. Oh wow that is a rough summer, I'm so sorry to hear that. It's almost surreal to go from picturing a life together to picturing yourself doing fine without them. Thank you for your reply it helps put things in perspective. I hope you're recovery goes well, the added stress of your ex probably isn't helping =/
Vinsanity1307 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Hey man I hear you on that. I was dumped in July after 5 years with my ex who was 9 years older than me with 3 kids. Terrible past 4 months. I am in the same boat with the guy friends. My friends arent the leaning on type which is probably why I am still suffering today. Really dont have much to add but I know how this past summer feels a big blurry nightmare.
Author MoroccoMole Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 Hey man I hear you on that. I was dumped in July after 5 years with my ex who was 9 years older than me with 3 kids. Terrible past 4 months. I am in the same boat with the guy friends. My friends arent the leaning on type which is probably why I am still suffering today. Really dont have much to add but I know how this past summer feels a big blurry nightmare. I'm sorry to hear about that man it's tragic :/ I keep hearing from people to keep busy but it's never that easy. Next time I'm in Worcester we'll share a beer haha thx for your post, really appreciate it.
Marine0311 Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 try and pickup some hobbies. my girlfriend brokeup with me when i moved home after getting out of the military. its been 7 months, sure, I think of her everyday, but time makes it easier. I love her still, but i try to keep myself busy with work and my hobbies 24/7. just stay active! 1
Author MoroccoMole Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 try and pickup some hobbies. my girlfriend brokeup with me when i moved home after getting out of the military. its been 7 months, sure, I think of her everyday, but time makes it easier. I love her still, but i try to keep myself busy with work and my hobbies 24/7. just stay active! Oh wow that's terrible, good to hear you're dealing so well. Thx for the encouragement it means a lot, i'll do my best!!
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