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This is in regards to my previous threads. Day 26 of our breakup. He has been leaving breadcrumbs since day 1 of the breakup & I was doing everything I could to get him back. From trying to talk openly and honest. To ignoring him (for short periods of time) from playing games. Well I finally had enough after this past weekend when he told me he missed me, loved me, wants to meet to talk.

 

Then goes out for a friends birthday and gets drunk & doesn't answer my phone calls and doesn't call me the day after. I sent him a message saying I was done. I couldn't take it anymore and goodbye. He said "we can be friends. Stop being like that" I didn't respond. So yesterday I ignored all this texts and phone calls. And today he sent me messages on fb saying I was being immature and i cant just cut him out of my life. He wants to be friends.

 

Hes still getting me a Christmas present. I didn't respond and he sent me another saying "I love you" he then sent me another "you get on my ****ing nerves some days you know that" ....... and I finally responded (ugh)..... saying "I don't want to be friends I don't want anything to do with you anymore. Maybe we will be friends in a couple months. Stop messaging me" well he hasn't even read the message yet and that was 10 hours ago when I sent it.

 

I don't get this..!! Why does he wanna stay friends so bad... I cant do that obviously when I still have feelings for him & I'm still angry at him for all of this bull**** that has been going on in the past 26 days. Can anyone read between the lines. One minute he says he loves me misses me etc the next he wants to stay friends.

 

I'm doing no contact but when he sent me a bunch of messages I felt bad for not giving any kind of response. Did I make a mistake by even replying.

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smuggy95 Established Member

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he's been wishy washy and rude to you. no contact is the best way. he doesn't feel guilty about ignoring you...why should you feel bad?

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Confusedguy81 Established Member

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sounds like you are both drinking poison. Want to not be poisoned? Ignore him for good.

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What part of No Contact is unclear?

 

No Contact means NO CONTACT. He feels bad because you're ignoring him? Call a waaaaaambulance. He should feel bad for jerking you around.

 

Stop responding to him. Block him on Facebook. Have you got a smartphone? You should have a spam list/auto reject list function on your phone that should take care of him calling.

 

Big girl panties on. Now.

 

He said "I dont know why you're treating me this way" in one of his messages today. I guess I felt bad I didnt wanna hurt him in anyway but I just want to send the message loud and clear that how he has been acting is unaceptable & I'm not tolorating it anymore. By not being there when he calls ot texts but when hes begging for a response I guess I just felt bad.

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From your photo, it looks like you are pretty girl. There's millions of guys out there who would worship the ground you walk on. I really don't understand why you would waste your time with a guy jerking you around. Go out and find someone you deserve.

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Gotta have more will power and restrain from caving in to his BS....you are prolonging this longer then it needs to be. You said you can tell if he read your message right? obviously you have a iPhone block him. Settings > Messaging > Blocked. Add his number if you need that to help you last thru the NC period.

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Did I make a mistake by even replying.

 

Yes (10 characters)

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From your photo, it looks like you are pretty girl. There's millions of guys out there who would worship the ground you walk on. I really don't understand why you would waste your time with a guy jerking you around. Go out and find someone you deserve.

 

i dont understand it myself. It's like an addiction or something, i can't stay away and i'm the one getting hurt in the long run. I know he doesn't deserve me. But all i can think about is how we were when we were together which was great. I was happy.

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Gotta have more will power and restrain from caving in to his BS....you are prolonging this longer then it needs to be. You said you can tell if he read your message right? obviously you have a iPhone block him. Settings > Messaging > Blocked. Add his number if you need that to help you last thru the NC period.

 

i blocked his number etc. He messaged me on facebook. Even though i dont have him as a friend he can still send me messages. I guess i will have to block him completely. He was i was being immature by ignoring him. I dont get what he wants from me. lol it's like a form of torture

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I'm going through the same thing with my ex. He calls, texts, emails. The other day he sent me three texts, emailed a picture and called me.

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He will grow tired-- if you go completely NC!!! They eventually will go away. ( so I hear, mine is still lingering around too- it's only been 22 days)

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i dont understand it myself. It's like an addiction or something, i can't stay away and i'm the one getting hurt in the long run. I know he doesn't deserve me. But all i can think about is how we were when we were together which was great. I was happy.

 

No you weren't, you broke up with him. It's time for you to trust that action and actually stick to it instead of doing whatever the hell you are trying to do right now. Show some discipline.

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Well.. I been wondering why he hasnt read my message. Turns out he was arrested for breach of probation. He'll be in there for a few weeks. Guess nc will be a lot easier now.:confused:

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Err...seriously?

 

Unfortunately

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What is he on probation for?

 

Do you seriously think this is a guy worth pursuing? Worth having a baby with?

 

Here it is! The wake up call. Enforced NC. Use this time to get yourself together and make him a distant memory.

 

He got into trouble when he was 25 selling drugs etc. He was in jail for 4 years, got out last Jan. Met me. Hes been staying out of trouble, hes not the person he once was but he wasn't aloud leaving a certain area of our city and he did. Which was the breach.. and yes I will be using this time to move on with my life.

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Time to re-evaluate your screening process.

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Time to re-evaluate your screening process.

 

Believe me.. I know my taste in men is very very off.

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went to jail for selling drugs and violated probation. He sounds like a winner...I mean don't take this the wrong way. If that is your profile picture, you are an attractive young lady. You should just really change your outlook on what guys you date.

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went to jail for selling drugs and violated probation. He sounds like a winner...I mean don't take this the wrong way. If that is your profile picture, you are an attractive young lady. You just really change your outlook on what guys you date.

 

Thank you. Every relationship ive been in the guy has been. Er, um.. "bad boys". Meaning they have all have chosen the wrong path in life... I wish I knew why I been attracted to these types of guys but I really dont.

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Thank you. Every relationship ive been in the guy has been. Er, um.. "bad boys". Meaning they have all have chosen the wrong path in life... I wish I knew why I been attracted to these types of guys but I really dont.

 

Because you find them exciting and you find them to be a challenge. Young women want exciting, bold guys, however, most have no idea how to tell the difference between a confident, successful, charismatic guy and an arrogant douchebag.

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Because you find them exciting and you find them to be a challenge. Young women want exciting, bold guys, however, most have no idea how to tell the difference between a confident, successful, charismatic guy and an arrogant douchebag.

 

Arrogant douchebags.. pretty much sums up my dating history

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