TylerC Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Alright, I haven't seen Lauren all week and the contact between us has been minimal. We've talked online for a little bit or she has called me/I've called her, but that's it. She spent all day/the night at a friend's house one night, had her cousin spend the night last night and was out shopping with her all day yesterday. More of the same today, she was out shopping all day and her cousin is over there now. I didn't make plans all day because I wanted to hang out with her tonight, but I just got done talking to her online and her cousin is still over there. Now, if this cousin lived out of town, that's one thing, and I'd totally understand, but this cousin lives in the next county over, about 30 minutes away from here if that. I asked what she was doing and that's when I found out her cousin is still there and I told her I'm playing poker at a friend's house tonight (one she doesn't like that much). She said 'why are you going to his house? You don't like him either.' That may be true, but I told her I didn't make plans because I wanted to hang with her, but that didn't work out and he asked if I wanted to play cards so I told him yes. She's made plans already, so I can too. After I told her all of that (from the last two sentences) she said 'well you knew she would be here'-no I didn't. Then she got mad at me for trying to make her feel bad, which I didn't, I just told her the truth. She pulled the "she's my family!" card and I'm not exactly very happy with her right now. What do I do? Am I over-reacting?
curiousnycgirl Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Did she know you were hoping to hang out with her tonight or did you just assume? Sounds like you two don't communicate your plans enough. I would just let it go and schedule a date with her. If she pulls more of the same - then you have an issue.
Author TylerC Posted December 29, 2004 Author Posted December 29, 2004 I didn't tell her because I didn't get to talk to her all day, she was out and she doesn't have a cell phone. I'm hanging out with her Friday, but if she misses me like she says she does, what's her deal?
curiousnycgirl Posted December 30, 2004 Posted December 30, 2004 She could be playing hard to get, or she could really have been busy with family stuff. Why are you waiting until the day you plan to see her to let her know? What is the big deal with making plans? To be honest you are taking a lot for granted assuming she will be waiting for you - better to make plans in advance. I am sure she misses you, if that's what she is telling you - but you need to communicate plans ahead of time - it is simple repsect.
Author TylerC Posted December 30, 2004 Author Posted December 30, 2004 Again, the contact between us has been minimal. As in, 5-10 minutes on the phone/online per day.
DewDrop Posted December 30, 2004 Posted December 30, 2004 Maybe she's enjoying her time with her cousin. Don't read into things or she'll lose interest in you. Be patient.
Author TylerC Posted December 30, 2004 Author Posted December 30, 2004 What do you mean by reading into things?
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