I looked at his Instagram...

[Ethereal]

I had a weak moment and looked at my ex boyfriend's Instagram for the first time since the BU tonight, and my suspicions were correct. He is back with his ex girlfriend who he only dated for 3 months (he told me he broke up with her because she wanted to move in together and have a baby and he wasn't ready). We were together 2 and a half years on and off. He dated this girl for 3 months during one of our break ups.

 

It seems they got back together the day I broke up with him (for neglecting me). Now I understand why he ignored all my emails wanting to understand why he neglected me and cause me to break up with him. It's because he is busy with her. He isn't giving me a second thought.

 

They look as lovey dovey as ever in the photos and he has been buying her gifts and perfume, something he never did with me, and it appears they are moving in together next month too. It's only been 10 weeks since we broke up.

 

I texted him and told him exactly what I think of him. Probably a mistake but I was shocked and upset and couldn't help myself. Straight after I sent the text I blocked his number and all his emails addresses so that's it now. No more.

 

I was devastated when I first saw these photos. Absolutely crushed. But a few hours have passed now and strangely I've found myself laughing. Is this just a weird set of moods I'm going through? Surely I can't be over it already. I bet I'm not - I'll probably end up feeling depressed tomorrow. Grief comes in waves after all. Maybe I was laughing because of relief? Relief that I've found out the truth and got my closure?

Edited November 27, 2013 by Ethereal

[me85]

First of all, I'm sorry to hear your story.

 

Hang tough chic!

 

Second, you are going through the motions. You are right about it coming in waves. But you will be fine.

 

What a jerk! My ex did me wrong too. Way way wrong. Just not with his ex…yet…that I know about.

 

And third, I think you DO feel relief because you DO have your closure. The moment I got mine that was IT. Blocked him and never looking back.

 

I'm sure one day his guilt will get the best of him and he will try to reach out maybe even ask me to take him back but NOT A CHANCE IN HELL.

 

Please be strong. Love yourself to pieces and KNOW in your heart that you deserve way better than this guy. If he REALLY loved you, he would have NEVER hurt you. Or let you give up for that matter.

 

Come here often to vent we are here and happy to help!

[greenfairie]

I had a weak moment and looked at my ex boyfriend's Instagram for the first time since the BU tonight, and my suspicions were correct. He is back with his ex girlfriend who he only dated for 3 months (he told me he broke up with her because she wanted to move in together and have a baby and he wasn't ready). We were together 2 and a half years on and off. He dated this girl for 3 months during one of our break ups.

 

It seems they got back together the day I broke up with him (for neglecting me). Now I understand why he ignored all my emails wanting to understand why he neglected me and cause me to break up with him. It's because he is busy with her. He isn't giving me a second thought.

 

They look as lovey dovey as ever in the photos and he has been buying her gifts and perfume, something he never did with me, and it appears they are moving in together next month too. It's only been 10 weeks since we broke up.

 

I texted him and told him exactly what I think of him. Probably a mistake but I was shocked and upset and couldn't help myself. Straight after I sent the text I blocked his number and all his emails addresses so that's it now. No more.

 

I was devastated when I first saw these photos. Absolutely crushed. But a few hours have passed now and strangely I've found myself laughing. Is this just a weird set of moods I'm going through? Surely I can't be over it already. I bet I'm not - I'll probably end up feeling depressed tomorrow. Grief comes in waves after all. Maybe I was laughing because of relief? Relief that I've found out the truth and got my closure?

 

 

 

What a freaking ASS. It's okay you texted him and you blew up. You wouldnt certainly do that if you weren't in love. We all do things that aren't logical when we're in love. I'm like you in a similar way, my emotions go through the motions just like you do. I find myself LAUGHING, then crying, then I'd crack up so hard. It's weird. The second I say, Okay. I'm over this all. The next second, "I'm like okay never mind. I take that back. This is still a work in progress, probably for many years to come." It does get a lot easier though. I've been coping for about a year now with the BU and I have way more good days than bad days. You will be strong. Stay strong. Keep connected with good friends. Do things to kill time. But when you need a break to rest, rest….. Take all the rest you need too. I'm here for you, and this LS forum has helped me so much. I hope it helps you too

[Ethereal]

Thanks guys...

 

The laughing was just a phase. I've woke up today and I feel so awful. Just sick to my stomach how he could get back with her the day we broke up.

 

I feel so used and like a slut. He was the guy apart from one other who I've ever slept with.

[d0nnivain]

As you predicted . . . you have your closure. You know WHY your relationship ended & you know it wasn't you. That's more than most people get.

 

You weren't used & you shouldn't slut shame yourself. You made an adult choice to have sex. It was the right choice for you at the time. You're not promiscuous. Give yourself a break.

[Ethereal]

I found out from Instagram last night that on the day we broke up my ex got back with his ex. They dated for 3 months straight after we broke up once, so this is the second time he's jumped into a relationship with her the minute we broke up. We were in an on-and-off relationship for over two years but every time we broke up he's always come running back saying he misses me and wants to try again.

 

The minute I saw this I sent him an angry text telling him exactly how I felt about him. The pain was just so excruciating the moment I saw the photos I just couldn't stop myself. I'm angry for myself too, for being such a fool and allowing him to do this to me again. I told him we should just block each other, that way he will never be able to run back to me again, and that I would rather forget he ever existed.

 

He eventually replied saying "ok done."

 

????? I didn't expect him to reply at all to be honest. I thought he would ignore it just like he ignored all my other texts a few weeks ago when I was seeking answers about the break up (before I looked at Instagram and found out the truth). Those two words are the only thing he's said since the day we broke up...

 

I ignored it, and blocked and deleted his number. So that's it now. It's over for good. It's weird though, I keep checking my phone still, to see if he has sent anything. But he's blocked now so nothing would be there. It doesn't seem to be sinking in my head! Has anyone else ever blocked their exes number and still found they were checking their phone out of habit?

 

I know this was the biggest step for me. Now his number is blocked and deleted, that's it. There is no way I will be able to find his number to unblock it either because I don't have a clue what it is. He's blocked from my Facebook and Twitter too. I need that toxic out my life asap. The sooner my heart realises that, the better. It's been a tough 24 hours......

Edited November 27, 2013 by Ethereal

[cavalier99]

Thast great. Good for you. I dont think healing really starts until you block and delete them. It is a big step forward. More people here on LS need to follow your lesson. They think they are NC but they really arnt. Rock on! Cav

[Ethereal]

Thanks guys. Your comments make me feel better and stronger. I felt weak a few weeks ago when I kept contacting him for answers.

 

There is only so much a person can take, and I've suffered enough pain from that man. I did what had to be done. I'll be ready to start 2014 fresh with no more toxic in my life. I can't wait to see where I'll be this time next year!