irc333 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 I have this friend of mine, he is of the mantra of not being too eager when he meets a woman. In fact, currently a friend of mine has started getting to know this woman the past month or 2, but guess what, he's yet to officially ask her out. He's about the "slow build" , into piquing a woman's curiosity instead of just being direct. In all honesty, the woman he's been talking to is a knock-out curvacious lady that's conservative (hardly a heavy drinker). (He's into the same type of women I'm into....at least characteristic-wise). Anyway, they had been getting to know each other, through group events or hang outs. One time she invited him along with her friends to a haunted house gathering in the area. Another time he "bumped" into her at a BBQ Pool Party, he told me he wasn't going to be there they day before, then I was like "Huh?" all of a sudden he shows up. She was there, too...so they went off away from the crowd to talk. Other men were hovering over her as well, but she seemed to have taken a particular liking to his low key approach.....though other men in the group were quite eager to talk to her ( even me )...he has been telling me of his correspondence with her. Anyhow, he was talking to her last Thurs on the phone about getting together for coffee, so he could be alone with her away from these groups and loud music. I thought "You've talked to this woman the past 2 months at these events and all you want is coffee?" He said, "Yeah, but I did express and specifically stated that he would like to get to know her better" As if that statement was a serious indicator of interest he was showing her....who knows if she picked up on it though. Anyhow, she said she'd let him know what her schedule is like on Friday. Come Friday, I call him up to see had anything going on, he said he was kind of waiting on that woman to call him, but if she didn't he'd probably join me with some other group of friends to go dancing. He said he'd let me know what's up....later he texted me and said he was feeling rather tired and his knee was hurting. I was wondering if his woman of interest had ever caught up with him. He then told me she never did call him, but he did have a private party that he was going to that's privy to "invite only" type of an event. Tickets were required. He went to the event and guess who shows up? It's her....he recalls her saying that she didn't plan on being at said event, but she had changed her mind and he had reason to believe she showed up only because he was going. Anyways, he walks her to her car at the end of the night, and he somehow gets into a conversation about her windshield wipers on her car. The man has known this woman for almost 2 months and as of yet even gotten to REALLY know her to ANY extent. Nothing of politics, belief systems, etc. I recall him telling me that he'd never date a liberal, and he has yet to find that out or even her religious beliefs. He said he doesn't like to interrogate women...and I'm like "I know you don't do it all in one conversation, but you had 2 months to do this...but yet you talk to her about her windshield wipers and what is the best brand to get?" Oh and get this, he STILL doesn't seal the deal at the end of the private party after walking her to her car. I don't get this guy, but apparently he thinks this is the best method to attract women, but honestly I think he's gotten them to vear off due to seriously loosing interest and not being direct enough. In the nick of time, I had seen her dating profile online and take over from there. ;-) lol So, what do you think? Better options to getting to know a woman better? "Group events mulitiple times?" "Getting her curiosity up and running" "Keeping conversation light?"
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