ariesgirl-328 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Basically last year, this 22yo guy found me(I'm 18, 17 back then) on a chatsite and went crazy about me. Regardless of his race and life, he told me loved me earlier on and I fell in love with him within 4 months time. We talked/texted 24/7. And we talked about marriage and children as if there was no other way of living, like we would get married no matter what. In the end, he never actually met me in person and we never webcammed because we wanted to see eachother live for the first time in person. I argued and fought so much for no reason. I was so negative that he got tired of it eventually and broke us up. Blah Blah Blah, the summer was torture, I went through the toughest pain of heartbreak and I BEGGED him like a maniac to take me back and that I was sorry....literally I would stop talking to him for a month then message him and go crazy texting and calling him again for 10 days, then stop again. He finally told me he was engaged one month, then after I made contact again a month later, his engagement to the girl was broken and he was getting an arranged marriage basically like I wasn't an option for him(at the time if he had asked, I would have married on the spot:lmao: but not now ofcourse). I guess I'm asking against hope if a person like this would ever come back or message me again some day even once just to see how things are going or if he would ever regret losing a girl that cared and loved him so much... I know I should move on and I like to think that I have(though I haven't because he is all I think about). Yes, he has said things like "I was so blind dating your boring ass, I feel sorry for your next victim" "I never want to meet you" etc, and he's just distant when texting and talking, and usually ignored my msgs completely except a few...either way it's been 1.5 months of no contact and 5 months after the breakup and the relationship itself was about 8 months long. I don't plan on ever contacting him again btw...no point anymore. But it's just sad how someone can care for you and want you so much one day, and disappear and not give af the next. What do you think about all of this?
CarrieT Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Oh, please, please, please walk away from this person. You never met him. He doesn't exist. He very well could be a middle-aged married man. This "love" you felt was entirely in your head and was never real. 6
Author ariesgirl-328 Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 Oh, please, please, please walk away from this person. You never met him. He doesn't exist. He very well could be a middle-aged married man. This "love" you felt was entirely in your head and was never real. Wish I could believe that, but we made videos for eachother saying certain things so he is who he said he is but im going to go on imagining that he was actually some old man trying to get it in. Thank you!
CherryT Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 At 18, you have so much to learn about love and relationships. I would suggest looking for a local relationship from now on because LDR's are tough not just emotionally but financially. You also need to be extremely cautious about who you meet online. Many predators have found ways to really trick their victims. In my local news recently, there was a young girl (around your age) who fell victim to who she thought was her prince charming online. She never met him but thought they were "in love". He eventually started saying things in a very similar tone to "I was so blind dating your ass. I feel bad for your next victim". She sent him pictures and started blackmailing her. This poor girl eventually committed suicide. Find someone locally and experience what it's like to date and have relationships before considering marrying someone you've never met in person before. 1
Meadowgreen Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Ugh this guy sounds like a total creeper. Run for the hills!
todreaminblue Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 if you truly care fro someone those feelings are extremely hard to remove yourself from.......its a battle and if it just happens out the blue and you can get nasty .....then you never really cared.....i tried to think the guy i have feelings for suuuuucks....smilin ...truth is he doesnt suck....that s what attracted me in the first place, his ability not to suck.....that sounds wrong but not fixing it..... i care about him ...and it sucks i cant show it.....i try to tell myself i dont like him and i actually told him nah dont like ya at all you suck, you are safe and that is the truth, its not a lie, I dont like him ...its much more than that i feel but he is safe because ill never show it and he was quite mean to me too sooner or later you have to move on..... for both of you....when you dont "feel" anything then you know you have moved on ......instead of i am moving on ...you are there ......and done....you HAVE moved on...give yourself time to heal and meet other guys...you never know what might happen ...dont rush anything......but you just might find a guy who treats and really does care about you like he should...if not you might make some new friends to have soem good times with and no i dotn mean sex...i just mean fun...............deb 1
sun1972 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Let me tell you something Before i met my last partner i had a messy breakup.. and wanted to boost my ego So i joined facebook and a dating site, and spent my time chatting up women, working and going to the gym. In the period of a year or two, 4 women told me they loved me...but they didnt really even know me!!!. It was a right mess when i finally met someone and fell in love. (And no im not proud of what i did, when i stopped i realized i had hurt people) When talking via email you only see the aspect of the person that they want you to see, until you spend time with them you dont really know them. I know full well how strong the illusion of love can be when just chatting online, you feel able to open up easily etc But it is an illusion 3
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