I Hate Facebook.

[greenfairie]

For one reason, you find out **** about your ex that you don't wish to know.

 

I found a post from a really close friend of mine commenting on my ex's wall telling him how excited he is to see him back home next month and all this time, I thought he WAS NEVER going to come back home for a few years like he told EVERYONE (we share A LOT of mutual friends that we grew up together with) he wasn't coming home….

The worst part is, I know when he's coming home. I feel like a stalker for even knowing all of this.

 

I wish it didn't bother me but it really, truly does bother me knowing that he's going to be home, just 20 miles away from where I live. I'm scared that I'm going to find myself running into him somewhere. I feel like I can handle facing him but I don't think I would say ANYTHING and do anything except say hi and walk away. I don't know how long this feeling takes to go AWAY. Help!?

 

- Insane Gal

[Under The Radar]

You need to get off FB and post more on LS .

[greenfairie]

You need to get off FB and post more on LS .

 

Haha. Thought about deactivating FB, to be honest. I've done it before and it helped SO much.

[cavalier99]

Haha. Thought about deactivating FB, to be honest. I've done it before and it helped SO much.

 

Why isnt he blocked???

[greenfairie]

Why isnt he blocked???

 

I feel like blocking him is just going to stroke his ego, I feel like. I don't want to show him that it bothers me to still see his name on FB :/

[cavalier99]

I feel like blocking him is just going to stroke his ego, I feel like. I don't want to show him that it bothers me to still see his name on FB :/

 

Doesnt matter. You need to block him. Ive seen this play out a ton. You wont start to accelerate your healing until you do it. Who cares what he thinks.

 

And how do you know that he will think it it bothers you. Maybe you are in a new RS and am not interested in him seeing?? F*k him. Go ahead and block. This is about you not him. Or do you not have to guts to do it deep down???? Just asking?? Cav

[InnocentMan]

In the past when you wanted to stalk someone, you needed a full survival kit. Wooly hat, gloves, flask of tea, binoculars, etc. Now you can do it all from the comfort of your own home. Kinda killed the fun of it.

 

On topic, Facebook is the last refuge of the brain-dead, and you will be happier without it. It truly is a desperate place.

[Logan oO]

I feel like blocking him is just going to stroke his ego, I feel like. I don't want to show him that it bothers me to still see his name on FB :/

 

Block him the moment you've read this post!

 

He isn't your friend, He isn't your Partner, He is just the thing that causes you Pain! I blocked my ex and have not changed that even once! I don't care if she has an ego boost. She'd also be quite aware that i obviously don't care to know what happens in her life anymore, hence why i can't see it.

 

Just block him, and start being able to use facebook without the worry of seeing that crap.

[me85]

Doesnt matter. You need to block him. Ive seen this play out a ton. You wont start to accelerate your healing until you do it. Who cares what he thinks.

 

And how do you know that he will think it it bothers you. Maybe you are in a new RS and am not interested in him seeing?? F*k him. Go ahead and block. This is about you not him. Or do you not have to guts to do it deep down???? Just asking?? Cav

 

 

Ya, Greefairie, Cav is right.

 

Block him now while you have the chance.

 

I didn't block mine for the same reasons as you and he blocked me...to hide his new RS from me...that he was denying and lying about while still talking to me.

 

Yeah.

 

So BLOCK HIM! For you.

[greenfairie]

Doesnt matter. You need to block him. Ive seen this play out a ton. You wont start to accelerate your healing until you do it. Who cares what he thinks.

 

And how do you know that he will think it it bothers you. Maybe you are in a new RS and am not interested in him seeing?? F*k him. Go ahead and block. This is about you not him. Or do you not have to guts to do it deep down???? Just asking?? Cav

 

 

Thank you. I need to stop thinking about what HE thinks because honestly, he probably doesn't give two ****s.

I just BLOCKED him. AHHHH.

Thank you Cav.

[greenfairie]

Ya, Greefairie, Cav is right.

 

Block him now while you have the chance.

 

I didn't block mine for the same reasons as you and he blocked me…to hide his new RS from me...that he was denying and lying about while still talking to me.

 

Yeah.

 

So BLOCK HIM! For you.

 

 

WTF. My ex did the same thing, denying and lying about while still talking to me. Why do men have to do this? It just makes it seem like they used us the whole time…. Being honest hurts, yeah, but BETTER than finding out another way IF you keep in touch. If you guys don't talk anymore, then its understandable he doesn't have to tell us….

[greenfairie]

In the past when you wanted to stalk someone, you needed a full survival kit. Wooly hat, gloves, flask of tea, binoculars, etc. Now you can do it all from the comfort of your own home. Kinda killed the fun of it.

 

On topic, Facebook is the last refuge of the brain-dead, and you will be happier without it. It truly is a desperate place.

 

I agree.

I can't stand being logged on FB for more than five-ten minutes (replying and typing messages). It used to be alright to hang out on for hours at a time back in freshman year of high school, but ****…. That site just sucks something out of me!

[cavalier99]

Thank you. I need to stop thinking about what HE thinks because honestly, he probably doesn't give two ****s.

I just BLOCKED him. AHHHH.

Thank you Cav.

 

Wooo Hoooo good job!! This is also a proactive step in your healing. This is you taking back your power. It is more than just blocking him. Understand? Cav

 

That being said you might get a little depressed about this. It is another tie cut. Just know that it is normal.

[greenfairie]

Wooo Hoooo good job!! This is also a proactive step in your healing. This is you taking back your power. It is more than just blocking him. Understand? Cav

 

That being said you might get a little depressed about this. It is another tie cut. Just know that it is normal.

 

 

What do you mean it's taking back my power? I still feel weak but RELIEVED that I did block him.

[me85]

WTF. My ex did the same thing, denying and lying about while still talking to me. Why do men have to do this? It just makes it seem like they used us the whole time…. Being honest hurts, yeah, but BETTER than finding out another way IF you keep in touch. If you guys don't talk anymore, then its understandable he doesn't have to tell us….

 

OH MY GOSH! I know, it's dumb.

 

I'm 28, I'm too old for this shhht

 

I have never been involved with someone so immature and deceitful.

 

It really my fault in all honesty, he more than showed red flags and true colors. I knew better.

 

My ex is one of the worst things to have ever happened to me. I'm so glad he didn't want me afterall.

 

Shame on me for begging, crying and pining over that BOY.

[cavalier99]

What do you mean it's taking back my power? I still feel weak but RELIEVED that I did block him.

 

Well after having the sh*t beat out of us by a break up and a huge plummett in our self esteem we need to rack up small victories where we can. You are recovering your self esteem and independence and things like this are a step in that direction. Cav

[me85]

Why do men have to do this?

 

 

MEN don't do this, BOYS do.

[greenfairie]

Well after having the sh*t beat out of us by a break up and a huge plummett in our self esteem we need to rack up small victories where we can. You are recovering your self esteem and independence and things like this are a step in that direction. Cav

 

 

You're right.

 

Actually, I see him online right now on Skype… I should probably delete him shouldn't I?

[greenfairie]

OH MY GOSH! I know, it's dumb.

 

I'm 28, I'm too old for this shhht

 

I have never been involved with someone so immature and deceitful.

 

It really my fault in all honesty, he more than showed red flags and true colors. I knew better.

 

My ex is one of the worst things to have ever happened to me. I'm so glad he didn't want me afterall.

 

Shame on me for begging, crying and pining over that BOY.

 

 

 

Seriously. SO DUMB. We all live and learn from our lessons to take to the NEXT relationship. It should be better ONLY IF we are aware of what went wrong and what could help that in the next relationship. It took so long for my heart to catch up to my mind because in my mind, I was SOOO furious. In my heart, I was just so sad and broken.

 

I'm so gladyou realized that you guys are not together anymore for the best. I am sure you have found or WILL find an amazing person to be with.

[cavalier99]

You're right.

 

Actually, I see him online right now on Skype… I should probably delete him shouldn't I?

 

hahaha YES. Delete everthing. It is very liberating. I deleted 8 years of.emails. MY hand was shaking as i did it. I also blocked EVERYTHING!!! 7 month NC to recover 100 percent never broke NC nor saw anything about her. I made her into a bad dream i could barley .remeber.

 

We didnt have a choice in the BU. But in this we do!!!!

Edited November 26, 2013 by cavalier99

[greenfairie]

hahaha YES. Delete everthing. It is very liberating. I deleted 8 years of.emails. MY hand was shaking as i did it. I also blocked EVERYTHING!!! 7 month NC to recover 100 percent never broke NC nor saw anything about her. I made her into a bad dream i could barley .remeber.

 

We didnt have a choice in the BU. But in this we do!!!!

 

 

A bad dream that you could barely remember!? I do not wish to be your ex girlfriend right now.

You brought up the email thing and I went straight to my Gmail….

I just deleted ALL of the emails we've shared since 08…. That's CRAZY liberating. I felt a sense of shock once I deleted him on Skype… like that's it. I won't be ever to see HIS name come alive anymore. It's over and DONE. It's probably the best thing I've ever done this whole week.

[cavalier99]

A bad dream that you could barely remember!? I do not wish to be your ex girlfriend right now.

You brought up the email thing and I went straight to my Gmail….

I just deleted ALL of the emails we've shared since 08…. That's CRAZY liberating. I felt a sense of shock once I deleted him on Skype… like that's it. I won't be ever to see HIS name come alive anymore. It's over and DONE. It's probably the best thing I've ever done this whole week.

 

Its funny we are friends now she tells me about her new rs eeceter and i do the same about my dating. I just did what i needed to do at the time. And that was erase her and morurn ecetera

[greenfairie]

Its funny we are friends now she tells me about her new rs eeceter and i do the same about my dating. I just did what i needed to do at the time. And that was erase her and morurn ecetera

 

Friends with your ex!?! I don't see that as a possibility anytime in the future….

 

But how you handled the breakup sounds like you really recovered in enough time to be friends with her again. That's awesome you guys can be cordial and mature

[SincereOnlineGuy]

For one reason, you find out **** about your ex that you don't wish to know.

 

- Insane Gal

 

 

This could not be more inaccurate. The only reason you have Facebook is because you wish to know...

 

 

And now, please explain for everybody exactly who signed you up for Facebook???

[greenfairie]

This could not be more inaccurate. The only reason you have Facebook is because you wish to know...

 

 

And now, please explain for everybody exactly who signed you up for Facebook???

 

I signed myself up obviously but I meant I can't help what I see on the newsfeed. I could control my time on the site but could I control what others post??? No, I can't. Not especially when a mutual friend posts a picture of my friend and my ex. Could I delete it? Sure, but by the time I do, I've already had a dagger in my stomach and my heart. So what's the point of deleting or hiding those posts?

 

I feel like I should just deactivate my FB now.