Gretl Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 I think in hindsight my expectations were way too high in thinking that after two years of NC that we could simply jump back in to being a couple, well I was wrong. So after I sent the letter he finally reached out on the 15th and arranged to go on a coffee date with me. It was great seeing him and we had lots to talk about, but after asking him if we could start seeing each other again he shied away and suggested we stay friends for now and see where things takes us. The conversation quickly died down from there which left the both of us feeling awkward and uncomfortable not knowing what else to say. I can't help but think that he has moved on and I was left behind to pick up the pieces. Is it even worth it to hope for a relationship if he was quickly to suggest a friendship?
Blastbeat Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Hi Gretl I for one, would not agree to see an ex of my past if I had no feelings for her anymore. Because, to me it would seem obvious that she still likes me, even though no intentions were made. But that's just me. I think just agree and leave it for some time. It sounds like he was caught off guard by the question. If he changes his mind he will let you know. But do you really want to torture yourself by hanging around and waiting? I mean you may hang out as friends hoping for the best, but what happens if there is someone else that comes along or is already there? Things could go well, or things could go horribly wrong. It's up to you if you want to keep your hopes up.
Never Again Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 You can't jump right back into the deep end - too much too soon can freak people out and turn them off. Think of this as a new relationship - you wouldn't ask someone to be your boyfriend on the first date, would you? For now, all you can do is give him time and back off. Be relaxed and stop worrying about what the outcome is. If you're this worried about it, you may not be ready to try for it. However, if you're going to try...you need to relax and stop forcing it.
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