Ashley87 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 I have been 3 months NC with now MM (he was engaged during our time together, which I was not aware of) and recently I added a friend on Instagram (for those that dont know it is like Facebook but instead of posting statuses you just post pics and people can like/comment on them just like they would on Facebook) I know for a fact this is him although the profile is on private and the profile picture isn't of him the alias name is the same name he has used before with me. He's been commenting on all my pictures and I'm confused as to why after getting marriend and I initiating NC, why he'd go through the trouble of making a fake profile and commenting on my pictures. What is he up to? Can anyone who had any kind of experience in this situation shed some light? Thanks!
GypsumSatellite Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 He didn't want to let you go. This is a way for him to keep up with you without breaking NC directly. He's up to getting through to you by any means possible. 1
will-ow Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 If you've been doing so well with NC, why would you add him anyway? 1
Author Ashley87 Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 If you've been doing so well with NC, why would you add him anyway? I didn't know it was him until I added him and after the few comments he posted. I could block him but something inside me wont let me
will-ow Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 If you're serious about maintaining NC and moving on, you have to block him! I know its hard, and I know it hurts, but you really do need to be all-or-nothing about this. ((hugs)) 1
missy268 Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 My ex AP sent me his new number a few weeks back...unsure why especially now he left his long term partner, was with me for a few weeks then got with another girl it was like a kick in the teeth when i got a text from him..... I had the number blocked I spent a long time of my life - too long hurting over this guy...he made his bed, his choice, and he can stick to it! no more coming back It does hurt, I make it sound so easy, but truth be told I think about him everyday, but still doesn't mean I need him here messing up my life x
MorbidFever Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 I didn't know it was him until I added him and after the few comments he posted. I could block him but something inside me wont let me I can understand this ^^^. You want to show him you've moved on and are happy and can live without him. Plus, there is that, I don't know, some relieved feeling that he is still interested in you and your life. Hard to explain, but I think you understand. If keeping him as a follower is making you think more about him, I would block him or delete him. I would seriously recommend removing him though. You might find yourself posting and uploading pictures are more for him and it will just prolong the recovery process. My ex tried to infiltrate my social media with fake profiles as well. I sent the last one a private message, friendly, and 'he' never responded. Then I blocked him. A couple days later he staged some death of this guy and deleted the profile. He tried again and I blocked that profile as well. Nothing since. I just don't want him keeping tabs on my life. Sure, I could've accepted the friend requests and toyed with him, but what's the point. If you love this man, I would delete. He needs to move on as much as you do. Keeping up with your life is just going to prevent him from doing so. Or at least prolong the ability to move on. And you need to do it for your sanity and healing too. *hugs*
cozycottagelg Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Don't block him, post a picture of you and a hot guy. Make sure you look so happy he will want to barf 4
experiencethedevine Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Don't block him, post a picture of you and a hot guy. Make sure you look so happy he will want to barf Oh my! This really tickled me!.........................
Sarabi Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I spent a long time of my life - too long hurting over this guy...he made his bed, his choice, and he can stick to it! no more coming back It does hurt, I make it sound so easy, but truth be told I think about him everyday, but still doesn't mean I need him here messing up my life x Hello! lioness is out of hibernation...lol But the above is an absolutely excellent point. You do think of them...but: you do not need him there messing up your life (and shame on him for wanting to mess up his wife/fiancé/girlfriend's life too)
Author Ashley87 Posted December 23, 2013 Author Posted December 23, 2013 Hello! lioness is out of hibernation...lol But the above is an absolutely excellent point. You do think of them...but: you do not need him there messing up your life (and shame on him for wanting to mess up his wife/fiancé/girlfriend's life too) I know it's easier said than done, but I have reached out back to him and we've had long conversations for the past few days. I can't seem to break loose I was doing so good and now I feel I'm back in square one I love this person too much to just let go...again.
OldRover Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 I know it's easier said than done, but I have reached out back to him and we've had long conversations for the past few days. I can't seem to break loose I was doing so good and now I feel I'm back in square one I love this person too much to just let go...again. Ashely, If this guy were engaged when trying to be with you, and didn't break it off, you really know where you stand. In a lot of situations, I could argue to make things work, but in your case, I could strongly argue you're in a dead end street and need to totally forget about this guy. (assume he' still married?)
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