smuggy95 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 So my ex and I had an ambicable break up. However, after any relationship you know you just question yourself, what if this had been done, etc. I confided to a friend in mine during these times. Some of my venting was real, some of it exaggerated. I got to the point where I told some stories in self-deprecating humor. Well this friend told me she liked me. and I friendzoned her. So she goes and tells my ex things I said. She said my ex asked about it, but the fact they hung out just the day after I turned her down, to see a movie she was supposed to see with me, was just curious timing ot me. My ex sent me a letter, saying it was definitely over, but it was her not me (again), and that I need to regain my self-confidence. I had been doing really well. Had a flirtation/sexual vibe with a new girl, just gave a kickass presentation- going to LA for thanksgiving in a few days. I'm just really really pissed at this friend. And I'll be honest, my ego is a little hurt because obviously my ex thinks i'm in a really vulnerable state when I'm not. I was still missing her, but was finally happy with NC. NC felt healthy. We are back to NC. I guess my ego is a bit bruised. I confronted this friend, who left upset. I bet she will contact and blame my ex for spilling the beans now. I hope no more drama ensues. /Vent
Phantomu Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Well once you friendzoned her what she did was very unfriendly. That's not something a "friend" would do and she was obviously not happy with your decision and she showed you that in a spiteful way. It's happened to me before too. Confide in someone you think you can trust and when things don't pan out the way they want them to ie: her having feelings for you, then they do something cruel like go and talk to your ex and make you look bad. Messy situation man, I hope you can figure it out.
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