Eternal Sunshine Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 I met a guy who is a geologist that works in a gold mine at another part of the country. He works there for 9 days and then comes back to my city for 5. He is a total cutie but I don't know much about him yet. I have also been dating someone else for a month or so, dodged the exclusivity bullet so it's all good Would this setup 5 days - 9 days bother you? Part of me thinks that he could be married with kids at the other part of the country or have a steady girlfriend
lifeunderground Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 That's highly unusual... If you're dating him I would definitely not put all your eggs in one basket. Who knows though maybe he's required to travel... Do you hear from him in that time frame?
carhill Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Given communications these days, it's easy to send candids from the mine operation. Gold mining can be pretty interesting, especially large scale alluvial mining. A geologist is a pretty important part of that. Express some interest and see what returns. For casual, non-exclusive dating, I wouldn't be concerned about such schedules as long as the person expressed interest, was consistent with word and action and was available when local. I'd focus on the interactions and grow it slowly over time; time normally reveals all truths. 1
Bigcitydreamer Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 It doesn't sound like an ideal situation but also not the end of the world. My bf of 3 years works a somewhat similar schedule (not quite as bad). It bothered me at first but I keep dating him. Soon I realized there are definite benefits for me in this kind of a setup. I wouldn't rule him out unless you are SURE you can't handle the distance.
Emilia Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Would this setup 5 days - 9 days bother you? Probably not if he was an outgoing, nice guy who wanted to spend a lot of the 5 days with me. If he only wanted to see me for a couple of days out of that the sex/intimacy wouldn't be enough. It's not that different from a military set up really.
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Freaking gold diggers, they're all the same! 2
Titania22 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Would this setup 5 days - 9 days bother you? Part of me thinks that he could be married with kids at the other part of the country or have a steady girlfriend It wouldn't bother me. It would probably work quite well for me. But it would depend if his behaviour seemed genuine.
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