Bad Blood?

[Hyouri]

I've broken up with my ex roughly 8 months ago. Long story short:

 

-It was a "friendly" break-up (she broke up with me, because she lost the "spark")

-She only contacted me once, after 5 days the BU (breadcrumb, used words like "us") Didn't respond.

-Contacted her in August with a "what's up?" Was friendly, answered a few e-mails, but didn't respond after the 3rd one

-She got a new bf in August (mutual friend told me about it, without asking)

-Contacted me in October via e-mail, because she made a mistake of sending a paypal money request to my account. Apoloziged for it, however the e-mail was cold and business like.

-Mutual groups of people, who knows her started ignoring me completly

-Good chance of talking behind my back (her mother was the same, even after 10 years she still talked really bad about her divorced husband like each week)

 

Question: Should I contact her and see her so we should talk and diminish any bad blood between us? (I didn't respond to her firstly, deleted her from social media too, she got angry at that, but she made no effort to reach out to me after that one e-mail)

Would that solve the problem of "talking behind my back"? I didn't see her since the BU, nor we talked.

 

Frankly speaking I've reached the point "I don't want to see her ever again", but this is getting more and more disturbing.

 

What do you think?

Edited November 26, 2013 by Hyouri

[nevergoodenough]

I've broken up with my ex roughly 8 months ago. Long story short:

 

-It was a "friendly" break-up (she broke up with me, because she lost the "spark")

-She only contacted me once, after 5 days the BU (breadcrumb, used words like "us") Didn't respond.

-Contacted her in August with a "what's up?" Was friendly, answered a few e-mails, but didn't respond after the 3rd one

-She got a new bf in August (mutual friend told me about it, without asking)

-Contacted me in October via e-mail, because she made a mistake of sending a paypal money request to my account. Apoloziged for it, however the e-mail was cold and business like.

-Mutual groups of people, who knows her started ignoring me completly

-Good chance of talking behind my back (her mother was the same, even after 10 years she still talked really bad about her divorced husband like each week)

 

Question: Should I contact her and see her so we should talk and diminish any bad blood between us? (I didn't respond to her firstly, deleted her from social media too, she got angry at that, but she made no effort to reach out to me after that one e-mail)

Would that solve the problem of "talking behind my back"? I didn't see her since the BU, nor we talked.

 

Frankly speaking I've reached the point "I don't want to see her ever again", but this is getting more and more disturbing.

 

What do you think?

 

People are going to talk about you no matter what you do, you shouldn't be concerned with that. Plus, you have no idea what is being said. You are making assumptions, which could be incorrect. If you don't want to see her or be with her, just let her be and keep moving down the road you have been.

[Hyouri]

I came to the same conclusion. Meeting her woudn't change anything, not to mention she probably doesn't even care. I'll keep on focusing on my life and trying to get around/over her.

[cavalier99]

Nope. Why contact her?? I also dont think people are talking bad about you anymore. You arnt really that important to her. Especially considering she is in a new RS. It would just be weird i think.