I kind of want to end my "relationship" to date another girl, best course of action?

[Emissary]

I say relationship with quotation marks because it's not really a relationship. I'm sort of at least associated with another girl, we've gone of a few dates over the past month which went pretty good for the most part, had lots of fun and everything, easy to talk to, etc... I kind of went in for the goodnight kiss at the end of our third date, I'm not sure if she misread or rebuffed me, but it turned into a hug.

 

Anyway, I have a good enough time with her when I'm actually with her, but that's really the problem, it's hard to get her to spend time with me. She's difficult to get hold of since she doesn't have a cell phone and I've never gotten hold of her from her home phone, my only means of communication is Facebook, I'll send her messages, but increasingly often she doesn't really respond to them, even though I know for a fact she's read them.

 

She seems happy enough when I do get hold of her, everything seems like it's going to be golden, and then the cycle continues as we re-enter this communication dead zone. Needless to say, I'm frustrated, she's just not putting any effort into making this work, and she was the one who wanted to go out in the first place.

 

So enter this other girl, she's prettier, has more common interests, even easier to talk to, and I feel a lot more fuzzy inside talking to her than with the current girl. I don't know if she has a boyfriend or not since she's just a regular customer of mine, I'm rather friendly with her other co-workers as well, I'm hoping one of them can provide me an answer there, otherwise I'll just have to ask her.

 

At any rate, I've decided if she is single then I wish to pursue her and see where things go. Just I'm not sure what I should do about the current girl, I'm kind of torn because a big part of me does want to see things work out, there's never been any mention of exclusiveness, but those aren't grounds I'm used to dealing in, so best I tread lightly. Presuming the new girl is single and interested in me, should I just date both at the same time? Should this be something I tell either party, or should it be kept on the down low?

 

I know if the first girl catches wind of this, I at least have my exit without losing face, after all, what right would she have throwing a fit over losing something she put no effort into? I mean, it's fairly well known that I put the effort in, I'm not the bad guy. Sorry, if this was a bit of a rambling post, I'm such a noob when it comes to stuff like this.

[theediblewoman]

It kind of sounds like the current girl is not that into it, maybe she just likes the attention? That or she's playing really really hard to get,either way she's not doing her part, so it seems pretty natural you'd get sick of doing all the work. Just get things going with the other girl, maybe the current girl will step up a bit more then you'll have to just be straight up and say you lost interest,but at this point, she's not your girlfriend and she's doing nothing to propel your relationship forward,so explore other options.