Author mortensorchid Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Thanks, MercuryShadow. You said more forcefully what I stated in my "disappear for a while" statement. And I'm going to disappear for a while, and that while is going to be forever. He's shallow and foolish to say such things to me or anyone else. But, I guess he'll be the same way with the next gal or that one in Toronto he mentioned (if their relationship is at all true and it's not something he made up just to get out of it). I have other things in life to be happy about rather than his being an ass**** towards me. 1
mina1687 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 This evening, I was with the guy I have been seeing for the past few weeks. The other weekend he asked me if I see other guys, I told him no. He made reference to another woman who lives in Toronto, as well as a reference to meeting his family on Thanksgiving. See this thread for more information... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/442958-i-think-we-re-going-steady So tonight, he came over to my place and we were, well, you know (without graphic details). I decided to bring it up since he had sort of invited me to meet his family this weekend, I did not really get a clarification on it. He said "Oh, well, I didn't know if you had any family or friends around here that you planned to see and I didn't want you to be alone. But since you do, I think it might be a little too soon if you come and meet my family." I said ok, that's fine with me. Quite honestly I was a bit relieved because I thought it was too soon as well. Then ... Well, we got to talking about other things ... He had asked me if I see other guys, I said no. He made mention of that Asian woman in Toronto. He said he really likes her, but he really likes me as well. I asked if he planned to travel there sometime soon, he said no as he does not have the money. I asked if she plans to come here anytime soon, he said he wasn't sure. I said to him "Well, I am giving you as practical advice as I am able here for a variety of reasons. LDRs do not work out, this is far more practical, don't you think?" He said he thought so. He then said that the Asian woman does not know about me but now I know about her, and that the mutual friends we have here are cheering for me and him. What do I do now?! I want to play it cool, don't want to turn into a jealous shrew and demand something. What do I do now?!?!? If this guy is blatantly telling you that he is seeing or has interest in someone else and not just you then he's not ready to commit to you at all and as long as you continue the relationship in this manner you're letting him know that it's okay to see you and see her until he decides who he wants to commit to. Personally I'd tell this guy to go take a long walk off a short pier. On the one hand he's being upfront and honest with you, on the other hand you need to value yourself enough to walk away and let him know you're not going to be 2nd best. I cannot stand men like this. He is probably feeling good about himself because he's being honest with you and he probably thinks he's doing the right thing - WRONG!! His actions and behavior are wrong. I don't know about you, but if I'm having sex with someone I damn sure don't need them doing it with someone else and if they are then they don't need to be doing it with me too.
OrangeSnack Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 This guy is an idiot and his actions are so immature. Sorry to hear that you're going through this rollercoaster ride. Time to move on. NEXT.
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