Kvd92 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 However over the course of our breakup I moved 5 hours away and now we are long distance. We both slept with other people over the few months of our breakup and just randomly a couple weeks ago he brought it up and started acting really cold. We got into an argument and I didn’t want to fight so I just let it go, it was stupid anywas so I apologized and towards the end of a week planned a skype date for us. He ignored me all weekend and spent it with friends. I was having health problems and I learned that my dog had been in the animal hospital for two days. I was really upset and was trying to fix things between us and rely on him emotionally but he blew me off and kept shoving me under the rug he even missed the skype date and never asked how my dog was doing. . I was really hurt. Then he came to visit me for a weekend, I figured Saturday night we would go out and drink and Sunday id spend the day watching football w him since he couldn’t be home with his friends, Saturday came and he made it clear he really didn’t want to go out with me and ended up falling asleep by midnight. I again was hurt, all I had been hearing about was him going out w friends but now he wouldn’t go out with me? Next, his best friends are a married couple and they invited jarrod over to play games with them and her single friend from work. I know his friends wouldn’t try to come between us like that and I know Jarrod wouldn’t cheat but he planned on going, even after he knew I was going to be in town. I don’t think it looks or sounds right to put himself in that situation, even if he was just going to play games. It sounded like a double date and I told him it made me uncomfortable. He then made other plans but ended up stopping by for an hour. I again was hurt. Lastly, He’s OBSESSED with football and madden and every Sunday he and his guy friends watch the games and play madden for literally 12-14 hours, I personally think its pathetic to spend an entire day doing that with a bunch of 24 and 25 year old men who still live in mommy’s basement but I keep that to myself, its his free time he can do as he pleases, but when I drive 6 hours home to spend a weekend with you and you work all of Friday, I don’t think I should even have to ask you to skip out on your Sunday football to hang out with me. I don’t think its too much to expect that he take 1 or maybe 2 Sundays a month and spend them with his long distance girlfriend. The last time I came home three weeks ago, I felt bad so I suggested he go over there for a little bit, but asked that he leave fairly early, especially since I had to be up at 7am to drive back. He didn’t get home till midnight. My thanksgiving break starts tomorrow but I surprised him and my family by coming home Friday. One of the very first things he said to me, a little upset I might add is “what about Sunday?” it hurt me that upon surprising him he was worried about being able to play his stupid game. I kept my cool and just made him promise to spend the morning with me and come home early. He didn’t come home early last night and my week is so busy I wont really get to see him again until Saturday and he knew this!! He didn’t even plan a date or anything for us since we’ve gotten back together…the time we spend together has been boring and uneventful except for his constant groping me… I don’t think its too much to expect my boyfriend to plan a date or make more time for me when im in town? Ive expressed this to him and he thinks im being sensitive and told me that Sundays were the only thing that made him happy over our breakup and that he wasn’t giving that up. I don’t want him to give it up I just want him to treat me better.
Spectre Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 (edited) My question is are you in love? If you are both so into each other why did you sleep with other people, even if it was a break? How many did he sleep with during the break? How many did you sleep with? Do either of you still see the people you slept with? I honestly think the core of these problems goes back to you sleeping with other people during the break. Yes, he did it too so obviously he is no better, but guys minds are weird. Sometimes we really start thinking about things and it bothers us, things in the past,etc. Now he can't get over the idea of you sleeping with another man, even though he also slept with others. I think he's basically kinda punishing you for the sex with other guys. Did you sleep with more people then he did or something? Or did you do it with one person more times then he did with the person he got with? Edited November 27, 2013 by Spectre
justwhoiam Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 It looks like you are pushing things. Did he clearly say that he WANTS to be with you? Because I couldn't get that from anything you wrote in here. Actually, quite the contrary. I only read about fighting, arguing, etc.
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