Sparky9 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Just got out of a LTR....I was unfaithful ...we tried to work it out ... She left me three weeks ago. I regret everything about my unfaithfulness, and would still do anything to make my ex want to work it out. I know there is no chance of that happening, so I am trying to stabilize myself , and love for me and the kids. Now that some women have heard I am single... They are being relentless. I have been very firm with them, but nice. Do I need to be mean to them to get the point....I'm not interested in dating, or fooling with anyone.
crederer Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 I dunno. I'd take some time to figure out WHY you strayed. I don't think diving into anything will do you or anyone any good.
ShyGuy5 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Sounds like a good problem to me, but just be honest, don't be mean because you might change your mind down the road
crederer Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Also, be prepared to be crucified by the rest of the board for cheating.....
Author Sparky9 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 Also, be prepared to be crucified by the rest of the board for cheating..... I've gone through more punishment than anyone can give me on here. I know why I cheated, and know it wasn't right. I stopped the affair when I realized that I did love, and wanted to stay, with my ex. She found out about it months after it was finished.
Balzac Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Ski ds as if quite a few women know of your daliance. That's creepy for you.
Author Sparky9 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 LOL, women are crucified for cheating not men. Men's reputations recover much more quickly in the real world too and more people are apt to think it is a mistake rather than a problem when a man cheats than when a woman cheats. If you are a woman and cheat it is so much more worse. You are "incapable of human relationships" but when a guy does it its "oh hes just being a guy" and "oh men are wired to want other women" If your girlfriend was so amazing, you need to do some serious soul searching why you cheated. Im apt to just think you're the cheating type. Its not like you were stuck with some heartless sex withholding biatch from the way you describe her. Impulsivity doesn't change; its a pretty stable personality trait...and you said "kids" so Im assuming you are older and not under the age of 25... I'm 35...she was not a sex withholding biatch by any means. There was. A 10 yr age gap...at one point...I was done with our relationship..had a weekend planned to end the relationship ... So happens, before I said anything...she hit me with the fact that she was pregnant with our son. I was being unfaithful at this time. It was another relationship that lasted almost a year. Before our son was born ...I realized how much she had grown up, and how much I enjoyed being with her ....I knew that I loved her ....so, I ended the other relationship.
Author Sparky9 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 She found out by what means? She had suspected it...she went through my phone and found a couple messages that were questionable. The other woman alwAys called me Hun, or babe. I felt guilty, so I fessed up to it.
Balzac Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 Pardon me if I've got the time line wrong. She suspected infidelity and still got pregnant??
Author Sparky9 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 Yes. He is our second child. Or first, she trapped me with. Had no intention of getting pregnant...she ended up getting prego... Heard from one of her friends later that she stopped taking her birth control on purpose
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