coming off too strong-

[blhgs]

Hi All,

 

I know this has been a common thread but would love to get some more insight from ppl. Ive been browsing these forums after abig break up and found support so wanted to also reach out this way.

 

A few weeks back i got with this girl. We hooked up twice on consecutive weekends after a few drinks and a night with friends. I slept over both time- first was fine but second i did come off a bit strong and i knew it just didnt care much. But eventually before leaving she tells me at some moments i come off too strong which is why she pulls back and that she doesnt not want to see me again but ya im sure you get the gist. By too strong i mean i was being a bit too touchy which is true i was just tired.

what i hate is that after that she gave me this strong hug and i parted.. im obvs not expecting much now and no talk for a few days just want to know if this means its over and she wasnt into me etc.. And should i ever reach out in a few months or what? What sdoes this mean for girls too out of cuirosity? Not into me perhaps as well?

 

Thanks i appreciate any feedback

[fixing]

Not really sure im understanding what 'too strong' means here?

As in, you physically acted too forward with trying to touch her or did she mean, your being a bit to oppressive for her after a second date?

[blhgs]

Well I was just telling her to come here for a kiss. Was needy appearing and I mean I've always been a believer that if they like you back none of this matter. Just the way we left it. Curious if this clears it a by and any insight from anyone

[twinkie0]

Hmm I can relate to gettting "too touchy" being a turnoff for the girl. But as you said, if they like you back they'll usually don't care.

 

But it's odd that you care whether she likes you or not. I think it was no regular hook-up, then. You like her at least a little. Talk to her in a few weeks, tell her you know you came on to strong and see where it takes you.

 

If it really is just curiosity, then just let it go. She liked you, it was just physical. You didn't attract her emotionally, so there.

[blhgs]

That's actually awesome advice. It is mostly curiosity and a quick crush just want to make sure not to repeat this with the next. I was just taken aback by the honesty I guess. But I do feel where she came from she was def right it'll get figured out generally just wanted to see if anyone else had had this. Thanks again please let me know if you think of anythig else this is great!