kitkat69 Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 when i was 19 i met a lovely american guy.i am english and we met when he came to visit some friends in the uk on vacation.we kept in touch and i visted him in the states and met him in europe over the following year.we had some great times. he then went to mozambique with work and wanted me to go out and stay with him-i would have to give up work and it was all a bit scarey.i didnt go nor to the phillipines where he was next posted.we kept in touch but i was a bit blase about things. a year later he married a girl he met in the phillpines. he called me a couple of years later but nothing since i contacted him out of the blue back in october of this year. i am now 35-he is 40. he was stunned to hear from me but very happy.he said he may come to england for xmas so if so we would meet.he was married for 10 years,now divorced with no children. so we met and we had such a great time-it was so natural and the days flew by.however ,he said that he has been involved with a girl back in the states.he has known her for 2 years.i guess he wanted to satisfy his curosity about me.he said that he wants to marry and have children as i would like to do. he lives in europe and although i would love to see him again i am unsure about him.he said that he loved me after 4 days and was v happy with me ..etc etc. we did get on great . the thing is his girlfriend (who is 25) is now with him over new year.i know that was arranged before we met so i cant really do anything about that. i just wondered what other girls would do in my situation...leave him alone or meet with him....i dont want anyone else on the scene i guess. i also have these feelings of regret of not making more of an effort when i was younger.
missopinionated Posted December 30, 2004 Posted December 30, 2004 Don't regret the past. No matter what you think about it or what you do about it now, nothing can ever change what happened way back when. As for your American, don't chase him. Get on with your life. If/when he calls, ask how he is and how his girlfriend is and let him know, gently, of course, that you're not available to play second fiddle to his middle-aged curiosity.
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