I'm so angry!!!!

[me85]

For those who don't know my story, maybe if you want you can go back & read up on it.

 

Every since I blocked my ex on my phone (this past Fri) he has sent me 2 emails telling me to "chill out on FB" & his "mom is disappointed in me"

 

First of all my ex deleted me from FB and then blocked me & had a girl I don't even know block me too (3 weekends ago.) A week later he calls me crying and begging me to come over so foolishly I did. MISTAKE.

 

Anyways he has been lying to me, using me, leading me on, telling me he still loves me and is in love with me and feeding me false hopes every since we haven't officially been a couple (but been doing all the things couples do) Basically he wanted his cake and to eat it too.

 

So I found out from a mutual friend that he has actually been in a RS with another girl for the past 3 weeks at least and is FB official (big deal these days)

 

So you can imagine the shock I was in. So since then I have posted music videos about liars and cheaters NOT PUTTING ANY NAMES OUT THERE...Not REALLY saying who or what it's directed towards but well you know doesn't take a rocket scientist. BIG DEAL I can post what I want on MY page and you're no longer even on my page and "moved on" so what does it matter??

 

Because I'm "smearing his image" I suppose but it's not like I'm really even saying or doing anything wrong. Sorry your friends and family are still on FB & they have a problem with it...DELETE ME THEN! Do not email me telling me your mom is disappointed with me and how can I do this to you!

 

ARE YOU SERIOUS??? He's acting like he didn't do anything wrong! This guy treated me like complete ****...with me nearly 3 years...slept with me last week, telling me there was no one else when there WAS! So he was playing me and his new GF (LDR too)

 

MANIPULATOR, LIAR...oh I have so much resentment for him.

 

Saying "his private life is his and mine is mine" Well, I'm not putting your name or any details out there AND my private life is MY business so LEAVE ME ALONE. GET OVER IT. He made his bed now he has to lay in it and explain himself. Yea he'll just make it out to be a crazy liar but I don't care. I know the truth. His family doesn't know ****. Let them be delusional I DON'T CARE.

 

I'm not responding to his emails guys, don't worry.

 

Thanks for the read - sorry for the rant.

Edited November 25, 2013 by me85

[organizedchaos]

delete any of his friends and family off your facebook. Or put them on the restricted list so they can't see your updates.

[me85]

I know what you're saying and I'll think about it but it's just music videos and me talking about putting a wall around my heart. Like, literally 3 posts. Wow. Big deal.

 

I shouldn't have to restrict anyone. I feel like if they are offended they should just delete me.

 

They are so biased and have NO idea what their relative/son/friend/

brother has done to me. I wish to God they did.

[PharaohABQ]

Hey, FB has messed up more than a few relationships. You should try to keep your Drama to yourself just like he should. But the fact is that he hasn't. He's already blocked you and posted sheet that's made you look like a fool. So F him, post whatever you want. Try not to be vindictive. If his mom is disappointed, then tell her she can talk to you about it. Put on your big girl panties and tough it out. He's hurt you, that's obvious, but it's who can be the better person here? That's what's going to be important. So perhaps you should post an update and ask that if anyone has anything to say, then please message you before jumping to conclusions. It's sad when things implode. It just doesn't have to be messy. You're happy to talk it out and let people know the real story. Again he already Posted it all on facebook, and blocked you so what more are you to do? Move on and Drop him. Your real friends will be happy about it.

[me85]

Hey, FB has messed up more than a few relationships. You should try to keep your Drama to yourself just like he should. But the fact is that he hasn't. He's already blocked you and posted sheet that's made you look like a fool. So F him, post whatever you want. Try not to be vindictive. If his mom is disappointed, then tell her she can talk to you about it. Put on your big girl panties and tough it out. He's hurt you, that's obvious, but it's who can be the better person here? That's what's going to be important. So perhaps you should post an update and ask that if anyone has anything to say, then please message you before jumping to conclusions. It's sad when things implode. It just doesn't have to be messy. You're happy to talk it out and let people know the real story. Again he already Posted it all on facebook, and blocked you so what more are you to do? Move on and Drop him. Your real friends will be happy about it.

 

Exactly. I'm moving on. Ignoring him and dropping him. I'm not being vindictive, I promise. That's not me.

 

I just want him to leave me alone. I'm not hurting anymore. He's a snake in the damn grass!

 

I can post a music video if I want or 2 or 3 or 4...GET OVER IT. Petty and dumb. I hope his friends and family do delete me. I'm just trying to be polite because they added ME so I don't want to be juvenile or rude and delete them. I have nothing against them.

 

I just needed to vent because I was really angry that he sent me an email. It's like, are you kidding?? He really thinks he doesn't deserve any bad treatment from me, well guess what? I'm leaving you alone so ****ing leave ME alone!

 

Do you guys see where I'm coming from? People seriously need to get a life and stop worrying about what I post on MY EFFING FB. I don't air my dirty laundry like that. But if I want to put up a funny meme or a music video, I WILL. Kiss my a$$.

 

I'm just happy I'm finally into the angry, "I don't give a damn" stage.

[organizedchaos]

Exactly. I'm moving on. Ignoring him and dropping him. I'm not being vindictive, I promise. That's not me.

 

I just want him to leave me alone. I'm not hurting anymore. He's a snake in the damn grass!

 

I can post a music video if I want or 2 or 3 or 4...GET OVER IT. Petty and dumb. I hope his friends and family do delete me. I'm just trying to be polite because they added ME so I don't want to be juvenile or rude and delete them. I have nothing against them.

 

I just needed to vent because I was really angry that he sent me an email. It's like, are you kidding?? He really thinks he doesn't deserve any bad treatment from me, well guess what? I'm leaving you alone so ****ing leave ME alone!

 

Do you guys see where I'm coming from? People seriously need to get a life and stop worrying about what I post on MY EFFING FB. I don't air my dirty laundry like that. But if I want to put up a funny meme or a music video, I WILL. Kiss my a$$.

 

I'm just happy I'm finally into the angry, "I don't give a damn" stage.

 

You need to take actions to protect yourself and delete them. I just deleted all my ex's friends from FB. They weren't necessarily reporting things back to her, and I wasn't posting anything to give them any reason to, but seeing them there reminded me of her. So I sent them all a polite note saying in order for me to fully let go and move on, I needed to disconnect any reminders of her. They all fully understood and wished me well.

 

Now do it! And cut all ties to him!

[me85]

You need to take actions to protect yourself and delete them. I just deleted all my ex's friends from FB. They weren't necessarily reporting things back to her, and I wasn't posting anything to give them any reason to, but seeing them there reminded me of her. So I sent them all a polite note saying in order for me to fully let go and move on, I needed to disconnect any reminders of her. They all fully understood and wished me well.

 

Now do it! And cut all ties to him!

 

You're right and I should. I'm sure it will get to that point but there are SO many mutual friends…

 

Tell you what, if he keeps emailing me I will go forward with your advice.

 

Honestly, he could be lying about his mom being "disappointed in me." I mean, after all, he IS a liar & a manipulator. He knows that will get in my head & mess with me. He's trying to play mind games and make ME feel like I'M the one doing something wrong. Screw that. I won't be manipulated by him anymore.

 

I shouldn't have any more problems, if I do…I'm a smart girl. I will handle it the right way. I have it to where I don't see any of his family or friends' posts because why do I care? lol But I feel like, they added me so if they have any problems then they should be the one to delete ME. It will make me look bad & childish (I think) if I delete them.

 

But you're right.

[cavalier99]

Delete all of them off facebook. This is going to cause you problems and who cares what they think.

[me85]

I feel really uneasy. I just want my ex to leave me alone. He dumped me and went and got a new gf so why the hell is he contacting me?

 

Why does he care what I say or do?? He makes HISELF look bad, not me.

 

I wish I could move away.

[organizedchaos]

I feel really uneasy. I just want my ex to leave me alone. He dumped me and went and got a new gf so why the hell is he contacting me?

 

Why does he care what I say or do?? He makes HISELF look bad, not me.

 

I wish I could move away.

 

You can, virtually! Delete them and don't worry what they think! He dumped you, time to take care of yourself. Do it, now!

[Logan oO]

I'm sorry 'Me85' but what you are doing is something that you won't allow yourself to admit to yourself.

Posting videos / pictures or whatever about liars and cheats etc is like 'Poking a Bear' you won't admit to yourself on the surface, but you know deep down he WILL find out, because of all your mutual friends / family.

 

No you shouldn't HAVE to restrict peoples view, but in this situation where your 'ex' is a part of the current problem, you have to do so, or delete them.

 

You truly want to show him and everyone that you are getting on with your life.

Delete and Block any of his FAMILY / Close Friends of his, and Restrict the view of ANY friends you shared that you can't bare to delete.

 

I hate FACEBOOK - if you are in a relationship, nothing but problems, when you lose one, it's like having to go through a divorce over who gets to keep the friends lol.

 

Do yourself a favor me85 - Let the past go. Try and have a nice xmas and new year. Never look back at that piece of trash ex again.

[yorkie]

me85,, i know how you feel my ex dumped me and i believe it was her biggest regret she walked out on me and my kids and everyone she speaks to she slates me! yeah i dont understand i really dont but what i do understand is you need to think about you! block and delete anyone who is connected to him. he is trying to make you look bad when it was him who left yes he left you so why put up with all his ****! and regarding his mum again i know how you feel my ex parents keep saying to me dont use the kids as a tool and im thinking what? i havent done anything and my ex is again spouting ****! so i have fallen out with them and gone NC on them! just read this : THE FACTS ARE HE LEFT YOU, FOUND SOMEONE ELSE AND USED YOU! SO KICK HIS ARSE INTO TOUCH AND ANYONE ELSE WHO IS TRYING TO MAKE YOU FEEL BAD! YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG! MY FOOT HURTS NOW FROM THE AMOUNTS OF PEOPLE I HAVE KICKED INTO TOUCH!

[Simon Phoenix]

I understand why you are upset but putting videos up about it and putting the dispute out there for all to see isn't the right way to deal with it. It's fighting drama with more drama and does nothing but get you riled up more. I think it's best that you keep your business with him out of the public view. Don't engage him, don't poke at him with videos or not-so-subtle jabs, just leave him be and move forward.

 

I know you want blood for blood, but you aren't going to win this battle. You still have feelings, which is why you are so hurt and angry. Vent all you want privately, vent on here, vent to your friends who have little to no connection with him and who will have your back, but you are playing with fire right now. And you are getting burned.

 

The best way to get your point across is to say nothing. Let him mindf*ck himself -- you attempting to do it to him is only going to backfire on you further.

[me85]

Thanks for all of the feedback.

 

They are restricted.

 

It's just so dumb because it was like 2 music videos.

 

I am not petty nor am I trying to "fight fire with fire" there is no point.

 

And the only feelings I have are regret and disgust for my ex. & I don't feel bad about that because he deserves it. He did this to himself. I am angry and yes, I admit, I do want his family to know what a 2 faced prick their kin is. & I don't feel bad about posting a video about being hurt by a cheater up on MY page.

 

Never-the-less, it's out of my system now and I feel better.

 

He just better not email me anymore.

 

But Simon, how is it "backfiring" on me? Actually, I feel quite satisfied knowing that he is all disgruntled over it. What would be the "right way" to deal with it? I do not wish to see or speak to him ever again. What I did poses no real threat just hurts his image...but wait, no, HE did THAT to himself.

 

Past is past and I am moving forward. When things are so fresh it's completely normal to have the feelings I am having and really, I am handling it all rather well. I come here to vent and I focus on work and leaning on family and friends for support. I have been through A LOT but I am making progress. I know that I am the bigger person and that I deserve better.

 

Just because I put up a few songs on FB doesn't mean I was being immature or petty. The fact that people are making an issue out of it is, however, immature and petty.

 

There is no comparing that to what he did to me. If his mom really is "disappointed" in me for that then she can just get over it because I promise she'd be WAY more disappointed in her son if she knew what all he has done and said to me. He was abusive, he's a liar, a cheater, just all the way around hurtful, disloyal and selfish.

 

Sorry for the long rant but it helps me move forward recalling all the negatives about my ex.

Edited November 26, 2013 by me85

[Simon Phoenix]

Thanks for all of the feedback.

 

They are restricted.

 

It's just so dumb because it was like 2 music videos.

 

I am not petty nor am I trying to "fight fire with fire" there is no point.

 

And the only feelings I have are regret and disgust for my ex. & I don't feel bad about that because he deserves it. He did this to himself. I am angry and yes, I admit, I do want his family to know what a 2 faced prick their kin is. & I don't feel bad about posting a video about being hurt by a cheater up on MY page.

 

Never-the-less, it's out of my system now and I feel better.

 

He just better not email me anymore.

 

But Simon, how is it "backfiring" on me? Actually, I feel quite satisfied knowing that he is all disgruntled over it. What would be the "right way" to deal with it? I do not wish to see or speak to him ever again. What I did poses no real threat just hurts his image...but wait, no, HE did THAT to himself.

 

Past is past and I am moving forward. When things are so fresh it's completely normal to have the feelings I am having and really, I am handling it all rather well. I come here to vent and I focus on work and leaning on family and friends for support. I have been through A LOT but I am making progress. I know that I am the bigger person and that I deserve better.

 

Just because I put up a few songs on FB doesn't mean I was being immature or petty. The fact that people are making an issue out of it is, however, immature and petty.

 

There is no comparing that to what he did to me. If his mom really is "disappointed" in me for that then she can just get over it because I promise she'd be WAY more disappointed in her son if she knew what all he has done and said to me. He was abusive, he's a liar, a cheater, just all the way around hurtful, disloyal and selfish.

 

Sorry for the long rant but it helps me move forward recalling all the negatives about my ex.

 

You are ranting about them being disgruntled. You are poking the bear and getting upset when the bear fights back. It's unnecessary. Taking the high road is much better. Just because he's a jerk doesn't mean you have to go there. I think you'd be better off just ignoring them completely, because whether you realize it or not, poking at them is just making you that much more angry and keeping you that much more involved in this drama. There's a right way and a wrong way to deal with things. Just because they are wrong doesn't mean you have to bring yourself down anywhere close to that level.

[seekingpeaceinlove]

Me85, I would be angry as well but like others have posted if you don't want to deal with reaction and drama then don't stir the pot. You certainly have every right to post what you want on your FB page but in the same way, others have a right to react to your content as well.

 

Your ex sounds like a D*chebag. Do not give him any more of your energy. Block anything and everything associated with him and rise above his BS. It's ok to be angry but redirect that anger into something positive for yourself.

 

The best revenge is to live well. You are your own source of happiness and love. Remember that. Take this time to focus on yourself, heal and grow.

[me85]

You are ranting about them being disgruntled. You are poking the bear and getting upset when the bear fights back. It's unnecessary. Taking the high road is much better. Just because he's a jerk doesn't mean you have to go there. I think you'd be better off just ignoring them completely, because whether you realize it or not, poking at them is just making you that much more angry and keeping you that much more involved in this drama. There's a right way and a wrong way to deal with things. Just because they are wrong doesn't mean you have to bring yourself down anywhere close to that level.

 

Agreed. But no one is "fighting back" he is just trying to mess with me mentally by saying his mother is disappointed in me (if that's even true.)

 

He is just trying to get a reaction out of me (not fighting back-nothing is backfiring on me) and it won't work. I assure you have no intentions of communicating with him. ZERO desire there.

 

All his "people" on my FB have been restricted even though I don't post anything bad, but whatever. It's done.

 

I really am over it.

[me85]

SEEKINGPEACE "Your ex sounds like a D*chebag. Do not give him any more of your energy. Block anything and everything associated with him and rise above his BS. It's ok to be angry but redirect that anger into something positive for yourself."

 

Hahaha! Ya, he is!

 

I know everyone is right and when I originally created this thread I was so so mad. Very mad. I mean, maaaaaad. I had to get it out. Venting is wonderful.

 

If I've learned anything in life it's that you cannot let things fester and build up inside of you. I used to be that way when I was younger, now I could not be more opposite. We have to feel everything we feel and just let it out.

 

Screw acting tough...if I'm sad now I let myself cry and feel sadness.

 

Not saying if I wana go blow something up I'm going to go do it because I think that's ok, I don't. lol That's different. You guys know what I mean. But I can express my anger properly and even in a healthy way, because there is such a thing. I find that music is my outlet for EVERYTHING.

[Simon Phoenix]

Agreed. But no one is "fighting back" he is just trying to mess with me mentally by saying his mother is disappointed in me (if that's even true.)

 

He is just trying to get a reaction out of me (not fighting back-nothing is backfiring on me) and it won't work. I assure you have no intentions of communicating with him. ZERO desire there.

 

All his "people" on my FB have been restricted even though I don't post anything bad, but whatever. It's done.

 

I really am over it.

 

No you aren't. And if you are putting any posts having anything to do with your ex then you are communicating, even if it isn't directly. No contact means radio silence. Radio silence means not doing anything remotely close to poking the bear. It's an emotional enough of a situation and while you are angry, instigating in any way isn't the way to go. Take the high road.

[Simon Phoenix]

SEEKINGPEACE "Your ex sounds like a D*chebag. Do not give him any more of your energy. Block anything and everything associated with him and rise above his BS. It's ok to be angry but redirect that anger into something positive for yourself."

 

Hahaha! Ya, he is!

 

I know everyone is right and when I originally created this thread I was so so mad. Very mad. I mean, maaaaaad. I had to get it out. Venting is wonderful.

 

If I've learned anything in life it's that you cannot let things fester and build up inside of you. I used to be that way when I was younger, now I could not be more opposite. We have to feel everything we feel and just let it out.

 

Screw acting tough...if I'm sad now I let myself cry and feel sadness.

 

Not saying if I wana go blow something up I'm going to go do it because I think that's ok, I don't. lol That's different. You guys know what I mean. But I can express my anger properly and even in a healthy way, because there is such a thing. I find that music is my outlet for EVERYTHING.

 

You can vent, but you don't need to vent in a public forum like that. We all vent, but just not in a place where they can see it directly or people with access to them see it directly. You don't need to let the world know how you are feeling.

[me85]

You can vent, but you don't need to vent in a public forum like that. We all vent, but just not in a place where they can see it directly or people with access to them see it directly. You don't need to let the world know how you are feeling.

 

Haha but then what the heck are we doing on here???? At least I know all my FB friends and they know me. It's all of maybe 200 people on my FB…here it's the world.

 

& Simon, I am taking the high road. Posting Justin Timberlake's "what comes around goes around" music video is not taking the low road. I'm sorry. I hear what you're saying but honestly...

Edited November 27, 2013 by me85

[Simon Phoenix]

Haha but then what the heck are we doing on here???? At least I know all my FB friends and they know me. It's all of maybe 200 people on my FB…here it's the world.

 

& Simon, I am taking the high road. Posting Justin Timberlake's "what comes around goes around" music video is not taking the low road. I'm sorry. I hear what you're saying but honestly...

 

You are missing my point. Your ex, or his friends, don't read this forum. Post all the music videos here if you want to express yourself that way. Nothing wrong with venting, but the way you are doing it isn't constructive. Don't give him any reason whatsoever to contact you. He might anyway on his own, but don't give him any additional motivation to do so and frazzle your mind.

 

I mean, I don't think what I, and other posters, are saying is unreasonable. I mean, why even add even the possibility of drama? It's not constructive in the least.

[me85]

And like I said, I've restricted them.

[Simon Phoenix]

And like I said, I've restricted them.

 

Ok, so maybe you aren't completely stubborn and unreasonable then But yeah, if you are going to continue that, make sure you lock down your page as much as possible. Just not worth the drama.

[me85]

I do agree 100%.

 

I was acting out of pure adrenaline and just thought, "you know what? If I'm not going to confront him (because I really want to stay NC indefinitely) then I'll just post this and maybe wheels will start turning and it will get back to him that I know this way." Sure enough, it worked, it did. Now I promise, I really am over it.

 

Ok, ok, I admit it. You all got me pegged on that. But I don't regret doing it. I just had to get it out of my system Simon!

 

& that funny meme I told everyone I posted was really really the greatest. It was petty but I don't care. It's hilarious! It says "Congratulations on your downgrade she's one hell of a five" & it shows a guy kissing a girl but holding another girl's hand behind his back.

 

BAHAHAHAHA!!!! I know, I know, I'm adult & I need to act like it but come on…that's just funny. I STILL laugh about that! & I came across it the same day I found out & I was like, oh that really is fate! lol

Edited November 27, 2013 by me85