ShopingBarbie1984 Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Hi I know I haven't been on here much lately I have been very busy since it's the holidays and all... Also I met a guy a couple of weeks ago I thought he liked me but, I guess I am just dumb I am blonde so I guess that settles it. I am going to try to keep this story short so it isn't so long... Anyways I met this 19 year old through my step cousin she is 16 years old. So it makes perfect sense for the guy and I to be dating right? Well when my cousin was telling me more about him I decided he wasn't my type at all... But I also thought what harm could it do if I meet him he also wanted to meet me that badly as well so did I... My step cousin also told me how he and her were "F buddy's"... I don't like to swear certain words so, I hope you get my point already. So I finally did meet the guy and, I ended up liking the guy and I know big msitake. My step cousin kept telling me that, she thinks he is ugly and doesn't really like him and, that she liked his friend. Well one night the guy and I were talking through text messaging on cell phone and, my cousin said to me give the guy a decent answer... I replied back asking her what are you talking about? She said he wants to know if he and I were boyfriend/girlfriend, or dating whatever. I told her to tell him friends because, I only met him one day and, then told her the next day that, he and I weren't even on that topic until after my cousin asked me the question. I finally told the guy ok we can date and he said that, scared him cause of what my step cousin said. I asked him what did my step cousin say. He said that I just wanted to be friends I told him yeah, I did say that because, I only met him one day was what I told him but, would like to get to know him more. Well a couple of weeks ago on a Thursday we ended up talking some more and, he asked if he could kiss me! He asked and he said that the reason I ask is because, I don't want to put you in an awkward postion. Since how he and my cousin already did it... I told him he wasn't and, I figured in my head I better put the drama aside meaning telling him no would be drama. Because I don't like causing drama myself and, I figured that would be causing drama and, I also put telling him no aside because, I did like him now I don't know and I am confused! Because that Thursday he said he would be coming down to see me then, he said he couldn't make it *he got busy* then it was that Thursday night he asked if he could kiss me but, we still ended up talking a lot anyways. Then Friday he called instead of texting me and said he was totally coming down but was going to be late. I haven't heard from him since Friday morning last week or, couple of weeks ago don't remember. But I started to get sick the next day which was Saturday, I finally found out why he didn't come down on Friday. My cousin called me on a Sunday saying he was sorry he didn't come down my cousin told me drama happened on Friday and, that she couldn't tell me anymore then, after he started to avoid my cousin. She told me that he toltold his truck! I am guessing whatever happened to him and my cousin that day on Friday he is avoiding both of us. I textd him once on his cell then I called only once on his cell and when I called he was acting like he was loosing service on his cell phone I was going to say something to him about that but, I just ended up hanging up on him I froze is what I mean. He already has a new car so, there is no need for him to be embarassed about him not having a vehicle... Also I only tried to get in contact with him twice and, I guess my cousin has called hiim a billion times I don't know what is going on... I also wasn't supposed to know that he got into a wreck that day, then I found out even more that he didn't want anyone to know... I thought he and I liked each other I guess I am just dumb any advice???
Pocky Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 OMG - that's one massive blur of black and pink. Please, quickly before the edit expires, add a few paragraph spaces and enlarge your font. Then I'll be able to read it.. <squint>
Author ShopingBarbie1984 Posted December 29, 2004 Author Posted December 29, 2004 Sorry about the font... Hi I know I haven't been on here much lately I have been very busy since it's the holidays and all... Also I met a guy a couple of weeks ago I thought he liked me but, I guess I am just dumb I am blonde so I guess that settles it. I am going to try to keep this story short so it isn't so long... Anyways I met this 19 year old through my step cousin she is 16 years old. So it makes perfect sense for the guy and I to be dating right? Well when my cousin was telling me more about him I decided he wasn't my type at all... But I also thought what harm could it do if I meet him he also wanted to meet me that badly as well so did I... My step cousin also told me how he and her were "F buddy's"... I don't like to swear certain words so, I hope you get my point already. So I finally did meet the guy and, I ended up liking the guy and I know big msitake. My step cousin kept telling me that, she thinks he is ugly and doesn't really like him and, that she liked his friend. Well one night the guy and I were talking through text messaging on cell phone and, my cousin said to me give the guy a decent answer... I replied back asking her what are you talking about? She said he wants to know if he and I were boyfriend/girlfriend, or dating whatever. I told her to tell him friends because, I only met him one day and, then told her the next day that, he and I weren't even on that topic until after my cousin asked me the question. I finally told the guy ok we can date and he said that, scared him cause of what my step cousin said. I asked him what did my step cousin say. He said that I just wanted to be friends I told him yeah, I did say that because, I only met him one day was what I told him but, would like to get to know him more. Well a couple of weeks ago on a Thursday we ended up talking some more and, he asked if he could kiss me! He asked and he said that the reason I ask is because, I don't want to put you in an awkward postion. Since how he and my cousin already did it... I told him he wasn't and, I figured in my head I better put the drama aside meaning telling him no would be drama. Because I don't like causing drama myself and, I figured that would be causing drama and, I also put telling him no aside because, I did like him now I don't know and I am confused! Because that Thursday he said he would be coming down to see me then, he said he couldn't make it *he got busy* then it was that Thursday night he asked if he could kiss me but, we still ended up talking a lot anyways. Then Friday he called instead of texting me and said he was totally coming down but was going to be late. I haven't heard from him since Friday morning last week or, couple of weeks ago don't remember. But I started to get sick the next day which was Saturday, I finally found out why he didn't come down on Friday. My cousin called me on a Sunday saying he was sorry he didn't come down my cousin told me drama happened on Friday and, that she couldn't tell me anymore then, after he started to avoid my cousin. She told me that he toltold his truck! I am guessing whatever happened to him and my cousin that day on Friday he is avoiding both of us. I textd him once on his cell then I called only once on his cell and when I called he was acting like he was loosing service on his cell phone I was going to say something to him about that but, I just ended up hanging up on him I froze is what I mean. He already has a new car so, there is no need for him to be embarassed about him not having a vehicle... Also I only tried to get in contact with him twice and, I guess my cousin has called hiim a billion times I don't know what is going on... I also wasn't supposed to know that he got into a wreck that day, then I found out even more that he didn't want anyone to know... I thought he and I liked each other I guess I am just dumb any advice???
GirlDown Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 your cousin is trying to hook you up with someone she is screwing, gets you somewhat interested in him, confuses you and then sabotages the whole thing...? what exactly is good about this arrangement?
Pocky Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Since it is so new in the relationship I would suggest ending the entire thing. I don't think this situation is good - there is too much between the your cousin and her sexy partner. You would be better off finding someone else. Entering into a relationship with him is going to be a lot of drama - something you said you hated.
tiki Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Run Forrest, run! Stay as far away from this situation as possible. Also, if you're like me, you'd probably always have a hang-up about him porking her.
Author ShopingBarbie1984 Posted December 29, 2004 Author Posted December 29, 2004 Otay stay away from him is a good answer but, he is the one that is staying away since he met me, and he is avoiding my cousin as well don't know why either. What I am also concerned about and trying to figure out is how come every guy disapears when he tells me that they like me and I normally tell them that I like them back. What's the big deal on that one? That they run away after we tell each other we like each other? Also my step cousin never attended to try to hook me and this guy up. The guy I guess just grabbed my cousin's cell phone one night and ended up texting everyone he could get out of her cell phone only he was using his own cell phone... That was how the meeting ended up but, at first I thought they were just being goofers and, I figured I would never hear from them again and, well I did end up meeting him after I figured that I wouldn't end up meeting them... I don't know this is just too confusing for me and still lost but know to stay away from him... I also guess that her friend J told her that R just decided he didn't like my cousin anymore I don't know what happened between him and my cousin that day on Friday but, my cell phone is turned off because, I am planning to get a new one under my name instead of someone else's and, I told my cousin not to let anyone have my new number. I told her that if R wants it he is going to have to work for it but, other then that he still won't have it but, really how come every guy I meet disapears after we tell each other we like each other?
Naive Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Maybe he is just not interested in you or your cousin. Let it go. Better yet, LET HIM GO!!!! If he would be interested he would not be avoiding you.
Author ShopingBarbie1984 Posted December 29, 2004 Author Posted December 29, 2004 It's Kinda Hard To Let This Go When This Just Barely Happened And I Can't Avoid My Cousin Really Either... What Did We Do To Get Him To Not Like Us Anymore? That's All I Want To Figure Out...
Naive Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Maybe it's just too weird that he was or is your cousin's f-buddy and now he is going to date you. Plus, sometimes you just don't click with certain people. Maybe you were nto his type. By the way, how old are you?
Author ShopingBarbie1984 Posted December 29, 2004 Author Posted December 29, 2004 Otay it is kind of not right for asking someone's age but, I am 20 and I know I should let this go like you have said. But this isn't the first time this has happened to me and not every guy has F" my cousin. So in ways I am just trying to figure out why the guy and I clicked at first and then all of a sudden we didn't click anymore it's just too weird. I try to help my cousin because, she says that the guy called her a B" the five letter word. He also knows I am a good girl type deal thing. Just try to remember if you were in my situation what would you do? I also just told my cousin and all I can tell her is what I learned from my past and I did tell her that we go through these things to learn. My cousin is real upset about R not talking to her anymore and she says I was lucky for not sleeping with him. She knows I am waiting for marraige for that but, also it wouldn't hurt to date what's wrong with that? The only thing I can think of is that, my cousin got jealous of the guy and I or, something happened that day between him and her that's all I can think of. I am not supposed to know anymore except he totold his truck I wasn't even supposed to know that either like I have said. I know he does like me just something happened on Friday and no one is telling me anything...
Naive Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Originally posted by ShopingBarbie1984 Otay it is kind of not right for asking someone's age but, I am 20 The reason I asked your age was because it seems that you are very young, I guess not. Sometimes the advice you give depends on the persons age. and I know I should let this go like you have said. But this isn't the first time this has happened to me and not every guy has F" my cousin. So in ways I am just trying to figure out why the guy and I clicked at first and then all of a sudden we didn't click anymore it's just too weird. Maybe at first you two clicked because you were starting to get to know each other and once time passed he realized that you are not compatible. Not everyone is going to be compatible you know. The best way for you to know for sure is to ask him. I try to help my cousin because, she says that the guy called her a B" the five letter word. Why would you want to be with someone who disrespects a girl like that? He obviously has no respect for her. Do you think he is a good guy? He also knows I am a good girl type deal thing. Just try to remember if you were in my situation what would you do? I also just told my cousin and all I can tell her is what I learned from my past and I did tell her that we go through these things to learn. My cousin is real upset about R not talking to her anymore and she says I was lucky for not sleeping with him. She knows I am waiting for marraige for that but, also it wouldn't hurt to date what's wrong with that? The only thing I can think of is that, my cousin got jealous of the guy and I or, something happened that day between him and her that's all I can think of. I am not supposed to know anymore except he totold his truck I wasn't even supposed to know that either like I have said. I know he does like me just something happened on Friday and no one is telling me anything... Why in the world did your cousin want to hook you up with someone she had already been with? What was the point of that? Can you really be with him knowing he did it with your cousin? Like I said before, the only way you can know for sure if he likes you or he is not interested is to ask him directly.
Author ShopingBarbie1984 Posted December 29, 2004 Author Posted December 29, 2004 See that you asked me I don't know either I thought I liked him and I think he is just playing mind games with us both and that is sad and, my cousin never attended to hook me up in the first place *long story on that one too*. I also knew at the beginning he wasn't my type either but, why can't we be friends at least that's what my cousin wanted in the first place was all of us to be friends now he is being a jerk. Because she knew that he wasn't girlfriend type and I knew as well so did I. But what we don't know is why he isn't talking to either of us when we could be just friends in the first place...
GirlDown Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 you don't sound 20 at all, so i woulnd't be insulted by someone asking your age. if it makes you feel any better, you don't seem much more than 13 or 14.
Naive Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Originally posted by GirlDown you don't sound 20 at all, so i woulnd't be insulted by someone asking your age. if it makes you feel any better, you don't seem much more than 13 or 14. That's exactly what I thought!!!!
GirlDown Posted December 29, 2004 Posted December 29, 2004 Originally posted by naive_2001 That's exactly what I thought!!!!
Author ShopingBarbie1984 Posted December 30, 2004 Author Posted December 30, 2004 Sorry if I don't sound like I am 20 years old just because, of the situation I am in I may sound like I am younger but I am not young and I really can't avoid my 16 year old cousin either... I don't mean to sound younger I would have also taken the time to make my message sound more older then I am. But I just don't have the time and I hurried and just typed it up as quickly as I can. Also I have tried calling him twice like I have said I only textd him once and I have only called him once so, I don't know why he is being a big baby I don't know if he just got scared about what he and I talked about or what... When I did call he was acting like he was loosing service on his cell I was going to say something about how he was acting to him but I froze instead and hung up. I also let the guy's chase me so, I don't call them a lot I only call them twice or three times then let them take it from there...
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