Why do i keep making the same mistakes???? help me

[jonyxxxx]

I really need help someone please give me a reasonable answer

 

i got out of a verry abusive relationship 10 month ago well technically 6 month ago cuz we was still seeing each other

 

about 2 month ago i met what I thought was the perfect man only to have him basically get me extremely drunk and to have sex with him

 

i had only had sex with my ex be 4 this

 

i tried forgiving him but i couldn't , i cant

 

well whats worst i messed up this weekend i ended up making out with my best friend ex boyfriend they broke up 10 month ago << there relationship was only 3 month but they had alot of sex>>I know he always had a thing for me he would always try to hug me when they was dating to the point that my ex husband forbided him to come into our home

 

now my dilema is I'm hating men I really am i feel there out to hurt me there making me gag ive met alot of men I seem to loose intrest really fast.. i'm not gay I know this for a fact so what is it am iI determine to wonder on my life lonely and misserable for the rest of my life??????????? Also my friend said it is ok to date her ex i find it disgusting thinking they had sex he tells me he really likes me and that night he was nithing with me than the way he was with her

he never wanted to bring her home or show public affection or even introduce as his lady or pay for her or even open the door

I SUAR it was like i didn't even know him he envited me to meet his parents paid for us when we went out and intriduced me as his lady<< which im not >> to his boyzzz

I saw it really hurt her though.. Give me advice

[Pocky]

Maybe you shouldn't sleep with a guy as soon as you meet them? And let me clarify - I have no opinion of women that sleep with men, how often they sleep with men or how many men they've slept with. It's of no importance to me whatsoever. However, it appears that in the last two sexual encounters you slept with someone you had no feelings for and no prior relationship with. I would have to assume that you are not the type of person that should be having casual sex with someone.

 

You need to understand yourself before someone else can understand you. Are you comfortable with having casual sex with people? And if not then stop. If you are not capable of saying no, then don't allow yourself to be put in a position where your resolve will falter. Don't get drunk on dates. Don't go to their homes. Go a more traditional route for dating and have several dates before you enter into a sexual relationship with someone. You're more likely to know if they are in it for the long haul or if they just want a quickie.

 

Not all men are bastards and out to use you.