Minnie09 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Ok...been on a few dates, nothing really interesting among them (at least I get to practice)..... BUT: Here's this guy - hot hot hot. I'm extremely attracted to him, we're both in our 40s, he's like 6 yrs older, we phone, we text, we flirt, the whole nine yards....and then - first date.....nothing. No moves. And I mean: not even a compliment. With other guys, innocent flirting and such sometimes happens before the actual date, but it ALWAYS results in something flirtatious when we meet in person. They always compliment. They always try something. And sometimes - if I like them - I let them kiss me. This guy: nothing. I looked great that night, seriously, I looked better than I usually do, I wasn't any more or less nervous, I talked like I usually talk, we laughed etc etc. nothing. We said goodbye and I thought that's it then. He didn't like me. Can happen. I'm fine with that. Then I get a text MSG after I thanked him for dinner and drinks and there he gives me some serious compliments (using words such as: Gorgeous, amazing personality, incredible, he thinks he's "smitten", I am oh so physically beautiful blahblah....and he hopes to see me again). Note: this was probably only sent because I had sent a thank you text before. Otherwise he would've probably never spoken to me again. That was the only guy so far that I was physically attracted to. And nothing. How's that fair? But then he texts me he's interested and hopes he'll get to see me again, without suggesting anything???? What's his problem? Is he letting me down gently? He was your typical alpha male all the way before the date, so I expected something wayyyyy different. I mean he was still very alpha in person......but totally off standish/not touchy/indifferent/aloof. Not sure what his behavior means - anybody? I'm thinking he's either afraid / intimidated / insecure or not interested. WTF - gaaaaaah 1
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Do you know his dating history? if he hasn't been "out there" all that long & came off a LTR / Marriage that started in his teens / early 20s, he may simply not know how to date as an adult. Don't write him off yet. My DH didn't make a move other than to hug me until our 3rd date. I was going to dump him if nothing happened that night. 1
todreaminblue Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I agree with donnivain dont write him off some times it takes a a little while to settle in to dating if you have had a break.....i am always nervous but have been told you cant tell....if a guy showed no physical interest by affection i mean, like hand holding a hug anything..... by the third date i would assume that its a no go.......i am shy if i am attracted to someone...i would still make an effort to reach out and touch.....i am ocd about hands..havent really had a guy who hasnt moved on me.......but.....i wish they would put their tongues back in....i am disillusioned about this......feel really old fashioned.......smilin.....deb
mikecr50 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 For sure give him a chance, especially if he's hot! Why rush :-) 1
Author Minnie09 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 Recently divorced w/kids......long-term M. I think he said 22 years. But honestly he didn't seem to be the quiet shy inexperienced type. I initially thought no wonder she D him. He's such a go-getter. He probably cheated. I shouldn't have sent that text message. Then I would know for sure. This way.....he had to send me a reply. And what's he gonna say? You are ugly and boring - I don't want to see you again?
Author Minnie09 Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 Mine really talked a big game before the actual date.....
Author Minnie09 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 Anyways.....haven't heard a word since Sunday. That pretty much says it all.
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