crazybestie101 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 So i am almost two months NC . I haven't checked my email for 2 months now , deleted all ways of communication except calling. So i don't know if my ex has reached out to me so far. Everyday i cry , hate and anger gets into me but i am strong enough not contact him. No urges to contact him anymore! His bday is coming in februrary , i am definitley NOT planning on contacting him on his B'day. Nope , he doesn't deserve any sorts of good wishes. Though i love him but he hasn't treated me well recently. But definitely in future like after 6 months , i do want to emails him if he doesn't reach out with "hate email" like how he treated me bad , his faults , silence treatement, all ignoring , all words he could possibly say. I really don't care how he feels after reading this because he deserves this . And YES i do hate him for treating me bad. I am NOT wishing anything bad for him but i just hate him. Many people have pushed me to contact him but i am not listening any body and wont do it .So what do you guys think ?
Haydn Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Please dont do this. 2 months is hard. Keep going or you will be back to square one. Dont do this friend. Keep strong and post here instead. 3
Zahara Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Please don't contact him. The guy literally chased you away.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 It hasn't been two months since you drove 700 miles to confront him. That happened a few weeks ago did it not? And no, do not set any time to talk to him.
reddragon588 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Not sure what they would achieve. Based on your previous posts, the likelihood of a reconciliation is pretty much non-existent. I wouldn't actively "plan" on it. You'd be surprised that at that point you probably will have no desire to reach out to him. If you plan todo it however you will still want to. Let it go, release it, and if you still feel that way after that, then consider it. 1
Shadowburn Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 So i am almost two months NC . I haven't checked my email for 2 months now , deleted all ways of communication except calling. So i don't know if my ex has reached out to me so far. Everyday i cry , hate and anger gets into me but i am strong enough not contact him. No urges to contact him anymore! His bday is coming in februrary , i am definitley NOT planning on contacting him on his B'day. Nope , he doesn't deserve any sorts of good wishes. Though i love him but he hasn't treated me well recently. But definitely in future like after 6 months , i do want to emails him if he doesn't reach out with "hate email" like how he treated me bad , his faults , silence treatement, all ignoring , all words he could possibly say. I really don't care how he feels after reading this because he deserves this . And YES i do hate him for treating me bad. I am NOT wishing anything bad for him but i just hate him. Many people have pushed me to contact him but i am not listening any body and wont do it .So what do you guys think ? I think you should plan on moving on and at the 6 months point not even remembering it's been 6 months. I don't know who pushed you to contact him, but this is not a good advise. Stay strong. 2
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 If you think you want to contact him in 6 months you may as well contact him now. Six months isn't a magic number. It's not going to make anything better. Hopefully by the time that mark comes around, you won't want to contact him any more.
fixing Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 DONT DO IT! Keep up the NC. Seriously bad idea.
Never Again Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 The only time you should feel okay contacting him is when you no longer really want to. 1
underscore44 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Setting time frames for stuff like this is a bad idea. All you are doing is hindering your moving on. 6 months is a great time for having moved on why set yourself back with something like this ? Do what you are doing now and keep it up 1
ponchsox Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 So you plan on reenacting the entire breakup all over again? 2
melell Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 People can act f'n crazy in the first months. I will be seriously surprised if in 6 months of nc you will still be thinking like this. 1
Jmk21 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I 14th the motion of no contact. If he happens to reach out, then judge if you'll reply back to him. You should focus on healing your heart in the meantime. Never under any circumstances initiate. Unless its 4 shared finances or children 2
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 So i am almost two months NC . I haven't checked my email for 2 months now , deleted all ways of communication except calling. So i don't know if my ex has reached out to me so far. Everyday i cry , hate and anger gets into me but i am strong enough not contact him. No urges to contact him anymore! His bday is coming in februrary , i am definitley NOT planning on contacting him on his B'day. Nope , he doesn't deserve any sorts of good wishes. Though i love him but he hasn't treated me well recently. But definitely in future like after 6 months , i do want to emails him if he doesn't reach out with "hate email" like how he treated me bad , his faults , silence treatement, all ignoring , all words he could possibly say. I really don't care how he feels after reading this because he deserves this . And YES i do hate him for treating me bad. I am NOT wishing anything bad for him but i just hate him. Many people have pushed me to contact him but i am not listening any body and wont do it .So what do you guys think ? I think posting here about it was a mistake because after listening what you all had to say it just accelerated my urge to contact him. any ways , first all I DIDNT mentioned in my thread that i am reaching out to him because i want to get back together. I want to email him just to let him know the mistake he made while i saw him last time. Else he will think entire life that whatever he did was totally justified and I am the one who is wrong and at fault solely. Also there were misunderstanding that was going through his mind, i feel like it needs to clear up. The wrong blames and misunderstanding he has about me has to be GONE. So Let me repeat again , i am NOT planning on getting back to together . I am not reaching out for that. I just want to stop crying and blaming myself everyday. I have partly moved on , concentrating on school , gym and got new job. Any ways , thank you all for replies.
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 It hasn't been two months since you drove 700 miles to confront him. That happened a few weeks ago did it not? And no, do not set any time to talk to him. lol you remember exact miles , its almost 1.5 month
Zahara Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 lol you remember exact miles , its almost 1.5 month If Simon remembers and so do we, and frown and cringe about it, how do you think the ex remembers it? 3
Simon Phoenix Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 I think posting here about it was a mistake because after listening what you all had to say it just accelerated my urge to contact him. any ways , first all I DIDNT mentioned in my thread that i am reaching out to him because i want to get back together. I want to email him just to let him know the mistake he made while i saw him last time. Else he will think entire life that whatever he did was totally justified and I am the one who is wrong and at fault solely. Also there were misunderstanding that was going through his mind, i feel like it needs to clear up. The wrong blames and misunderstanding he has about me has to be GONE. So Let me repeat again , i am NOT planning on getting back to together . I am not reaching out for that. I just want to stop crying and blaming myself everyday. I have partly moved on , concentrating on school , gym and got new job. Any ways , thank you all for replies. Dude, you drove 10-plus hours to ambush him. He was completely justified. Nothing you write will make him feel bad about it -- in fact, writing to criticize him for it justifies it in his mind that much more. You need to get to a point where you don't care what he thinks. You made a mistake (albeit a pretty crazy one). Stop compounding it. Learn from it and move forward WITHOUT HIM.
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 26, 2013 Author Posted November 26, 2013 crazybestie - what he did was totally justified. You drove 700 miles to 'surprise' him, after he broke up with you, thinking that he would think it romantic, when all you came off as is clingy, desperate and slightly unhinged. If you reach out to him, you will prove once and for all that you don't get the message. This is OVER. It is time to move on. Respect yourself, respect him (even if you don't think he deserves it), and stop this madness. It's fine , he can think all he wants to. I am just tired with everyday crying and blaming. Sometimes it's so hard to live this life. This is second time i gave my heart out , did all but still got dumped. There is point where i feel like i want to end this life to end all this.
cavalier99 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 lol you remember exact miles , its almost 1.5 month Of course we remeber. It was a great story. Now as far a sending anything. BAD BAD idea. Write it down but NEVER send. You will only hurt yourself . You yourself said you dont care if he responds so why do you care that he recieves anything?? It is just weak to do anything like sending him a message... and you need to be strong now. Not beat down your own self esteem. 1
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