oopsiedoop Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I am still mourning a relationship of four years two years after it ended. I still cannot accept it. He was everything I ever wanted. I DO TRY. Everyone tells you get out and do things, well I do as much as I can. I can't spend every waking minute active because I don't have either the energy or money.
Philosoraptor Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 So everything you have ever wanted was someone who didn't want you? You wanted someone who could bail at any time? Someone who would give up on you? Take off the rose colored glasses, he wasn't perfect. You deserve someone who is as willing to work through things as you are. *Disclaimer: Very vague post gets a very vague response based on random assumptions.
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Two years later, it might be time for some professional intervention. Everyone heals at a different pace but that seems long. In the short run on your own try making a list of all the things you didn't like about him. Don't tell me there aren't any. At the very least you don't like that fact that he broke up with you. Get somebody else to help you with this list if you have to. Then read it over & over again, until you believe it.
mercuryshadow Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Distraction is only temporary relief, a bandage of sorts. I think the only way to fully get over a loss is to allow yourself to experience the emotions, even if they are painful. Some people are in fact very good at keeping their emotions at bay, only to have them surface months or years later.
fixing Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Sorry to hear that you are still so distraught after two years. You probably heard it alot, but the truth is, time is the only way you get over it, and thats not before you go through those stages, denial, shock, depression, acceptance etc. After two years though, i really think you should talk to a doctor. He isnt worth this much of your time, and emotions. Meanwhile though, you must force yourself to stay active.
mikejensen3355 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 freinds and family can be a great help. work fulltime. trow away things that are related to the person or relationship. and be open to let it go. stop listing to love songs sad songs/ plan your days till sleep time. dont give yourself time to daydream about it etc. before you know you will think less about him. I can't wait till I think less of her. I don't even care about finding someone else right now. I wish I could just stop the constant thoughts about her. That's the worst part. Especially because I know she's happy and not thinking about me anymore.
Logan oO Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I personally think that you can only get over the 'grief' once you have truly accepted that your former partner is no longer a part of your life and will never be again. If you hold onto any hope for some future of you and them together again, it's just an eternal torture :/
Jmk21 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I agree, your holding onto something and you should probably see a therapist/councilor. What I did was literally erase her from my life. Pictures, voicemails, gifts/my social circle.she got me and wrote a long list of how she pissed me off and what she did to me. I read it every time I'm feeling weak. I still think about her alot. But the emotions of crying/ sadness are no longer great enough to make me upset or cry anymore I pushed the big red button and reset it all
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