Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 I feel like **** today.. How is she so heartless.. **** her (Excuse my language)
Haydn Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Mate keep thinking of the truly horrible. This is my exercise these days. I know how you feel some days. Keep pushing forwards and get yourself a ticket for the Palace match this weekend. Always good to see them worse off than you. Keep the faith mate and enjoy your day. 1
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 Mate keep thinking of the truly horrible. This is my exercise these days. I know how you feel some days. Keep pushing forwards and get yourself a ticket for the Palace match this weekend. Always good to see them worse off than you. Keep the faith mate and enjoy your day. Cheers mate, unfortunately my team are playing Man United at the weekend, so will be another depressing day, unless Arsenal lose haha..
Still Searching Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Regardless of how crappy you feel, DO NOT contact her. I've been there, feeling alone, miserable, and for some reason thinking the only thing that would make me feel better would be to hear her voice. After a few times I learned my lesson. The pain might dull for the first few moments, but once you realize that after contacting them nothing changed, you'll be right back where you started, feeling miserable. Like I said, focus on the bad things about your ex, things she did or said that hurt and invalidated your feelings, made you feel insignificant/unimportant, or things you just didn't like (maybe she was disorganized, whiney, or just a catty b!tch sometimes). Stay strong, bud. 1
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 Regardless of how crappy you feel, DO NOT contact her. I've been there, feeling alone, miserable, and for some reason thinking the only thing that would make me feel better would be to hear her voice. After a few times I learned my lesson. The pain might dull for the first few moments, but once you realize that after contacting them nothing changed, you'll be right back where you started, feeling miserable. Like I said, focus on the bad things about your ex, things she did or said that hurt and invalidated your feelings, made you feel insignificant/unimportant, or things you just didn't like (maybe she was disorganized, whiney, or just a catty b!tch sometimes). Stay strong, bud. No way am I contacting her, all I can think about is her going clubbing every night and being poor because of it. Not attractive. Sorry if I'm sounding like an ass hole, I've been the good guy for too long!
Still Searching Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 No way am I contacting her, all I can think about is her going clubbing every night and being poor because of it. Not attractive. Sorry if I'm sounding like an ass hole, I've been the good guy for too long! No worries, you have every right to feel that way. It blows my mind how people change sometimes after a relationship ends. Almost like, "Who is this person?" I try to be who I always was, smart, responsible, etc. I guess it's an escape for some people, partying, sleeping around, or what have you, but it's just not me. Don't let her actions get to you. Try to tell yourself it's not your problem anymore. 1
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 Can't help but wonder what she's up to right now.. Please can this weekend hurry up
Stay Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 Can't help but wonder what she's up to right now.. Please can this weekend hurry up It doesn't matter what she's up to, if you keep thinking like that your mind will wander into very bad ideas in your head that you do not want to know. Worry about yourself, you might be taking care of yourself with gym and eating right but mentally you're not by doing that. 2
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 I have no urge to contact her, but the thought of her being happy with somebody else is horrible. Nearly Friday..
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 28, 2013 Author Posted November 28, 2013 Good evening ladies and gentlemen Gym done, pizza ordered, music playing.. Happy days Hope everyone is coping well. 2
acidios Posted November 28, 2013 Posted November 28, 2013 Good evening ladies and gentlemen Gym done, pizza ordered, music playing.. Happy days Hope everyone is coping well. good m8 keep it up.havent done my daily walk today was a little off mood to get out,but had good food today fish and Salad healthy food all the way .now is animes time to keep the mind busy cos today i had alot of thinking of her. happy days indeed. 1
cavalier99 Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Hang in there bro. Just caught up on this thread now. Good decision on the NC. Dont pick up any of her calls. it will set you back. She isnt your problem anymore even if she calls at 3am. you need to block her. That is when the true healing begins. Cav 3
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 I planned a 1 month no contact once.. that was 3+ months ago. She has come up with excuses to call me since but I've since decided that I"M DONE. She can make some other man miserable for the rest of his years. Being alone isn't as bad as a future divorce, torn family, etc. Girl is mental. 4
LimboDancer Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Joining in per invite from Tyler. Day 7 comes to an end for me. A holiday - and she did not call all day, all night until just now. I ignored. It's been a rocky road of broken NC for three months. I won't let the holidays or anything else break me. 5
Braveheart01 Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 The key here is to have a strong will to NC despite how much you missed being with her. I'm new here, but I started reading 2months ago and I can very much relate to this. 3yrs of no official relationship but pretty much together almost everyday. Doing things that bf/gfs do, then suddenly she does a complete 180. Broke NC few times, but yeah, it felt good for about 5mins then all hell breaks loose after that. Hang in there buddy, you are not alone in this. 2
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 Joining in per invite from Tyler. Day 7 comes to an end for me. A holiday - and she did not call all day, all night until just now. I ignored. It's been a rocky road of broken NC for three months. I won't let the holidays or anything else break me. Thanks guy! LimboDancer will be joining me on this goal, good luck my friend! 1
cavalier99 Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 (edited) The key here is to have a strong will to NC despite how much you missed being with her. . This is key and the attitude you need to recover. Braveheart gets it. I always said you need to be religous about NC and stick to NC like you life depends on it. If you guys keep this attitude it will get you thru all of the ups and down that you are going to experience in the comong months....Yes ...months. But you will come out the otherside. Good luck on the journey! Rock on! Cav Edited November 29, 2013 by cavalier99 3
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 I don't have the urge to contact her anymore, I just feel depressed and lonely. I need to make some girl friends..
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 God i miss the old her so much
Braveheart01 Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 Hey TD, your name suggests you are a tough guy. Act like it. This holiday season is gonna be tough so we have to toughen up. Get out for a while. I miss her too today,if I havent read this thread I may have contacted her again already and be trapped in the circling loop of self pity. But I decided not too, I'm feeling better. There are a lot of women out there dude. 1
Haydn Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Tyler you will meet some fit ladies soon. I know a few places my son if your game. Back in London now for the duration of crimbo. Let me know. Keep going. 1
Author TylerDurdenn Posted November 30, 2013 Author Posted November 30, 2013 Hayden I may have to take you up on that offer! Sooooooooo.. I failed, but I don't feel like a failure.. She called me, we chatted and had our usual laughs and then she invited me round to her place.. I went round, we kissed and cuddled and messed around blah blah, then she gave me the usual 'i don't feel anything for you' speech. However this time hearing those words were different, they didn't hurt or make me upset. I came home and went out with my friends as if nothing had happened. YES I failed, but I don't feel bad, I actually feel kinda good that we did what we did and I felt nothing. She wants us to go out together 'as friends', and you know what? I think I could do it.. For now I am going back to NC, she will have to initiate contact going forward. I feel like I've let the team down!!
Haydn Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Mate you havent let the team down. Its very difficult to know what to do. If you could handle being friends then ok but i am not so sure you could yet......Dont be a back up plan mate. But yes let her do all the work from this point on if you are serious. Let her text you a million times. Act like Michael Caine from `Get Carter` Mean. And yes if you fancy a meet over crimbo give me a pm, exchange numbers. Keep going mate 1
cavalier99 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Hayden I may have to take you up on that offer! Sooooooooo.. I failed, but I don't feel like a failure.. She called me, we chatted and had our usual laughs and then she invited me round to her place.. I went round, we kissed and cuddled and messed around blah blah, then she gave me the usual 'i don't feel anything for you' speech. However this time hearing those words were different, they didn't hurt or make me upset. I came home and went out with my friends as if nothing had happened. YES I failed, but I don't feel bad, I actually feel kinda good that we did what we did and I felt nothing. She wants us to go out together 'as friends', and you know what? I think I could do it.. For now I am going back to NC, she will have to initiate contact going forward. I feel like I've let the team down!! Your going to tear out all of your stiches without even knowing it and end up in a world of hurt..worse than before potentially. Trust me. You think you can do this but you cant. But give it a wirl if you like. Just be warned. Cav 5
cavalier99 Posted November 30, 2013 Posted November 30, 2013 Mate you havent let the team down. Its very difficult to know what to do. If you could handle being friends then ok but i am not so sure you could yet......Dont be a back up plan mate. But yes let her do all the work from this point on if you are serious. Let her text you a million times. Act like Michael Caine from `Get Carter` Mean. And yes if you fancy a meet over crimbo give me a pm, exchange numbers. Keep going mate I disagree. Team IS let down. (not me necesarily) It is his choice but this stuff is dead serious if you want to get over it. He didnt just contact her but ending up hooking up. He might be the exception (doubt it) But this is super bad bad bad for his.recovery IMO. Cav PS i like you Hayden just disagree on this one. Tough love is called for. 3
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