The fear of obsession in a relationship

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Hello,

So there is this guy that I knew for more than 4 years. Well, we studied in the same school but we weren't really friends. We were just acquaintance nothing more.

After few years of graduation, we became friends on Facebook. we figured out that we share the same passions so we started chatting regularly.

At first, I remarked that he just wants to talk to me even if he had nothing to talk about. I felt weird so I tried to keep distance, I even rejected him few times.

At that time I was dating a guy that was a total loser, so I broke up with him. And subconsciously I started comparing the behavior of the two guys. My ex who had no respect for women in general and this guy who kept trying hard to make me feel good.. but yet we only chat on Facebook ! no phone calls ! no meetings ! though our workplaces are not that far !

Anyway, after few months talking to him on a daily basis, I started enjoying my time. And he told me in several occasions that he enjoys talking to me.

Now I think that I like him, I keep waiting for him to text me ! and when I text him and he doesn't answer back like usual I start wondering ! even worrying !!

 

Obviously this can't be a relationship at least not a healthy one ! telling me that he enjoys my company without asking me out seems weird to me !! I'm so aware of that and yet I'm kinda obsessing about the whole thing ! I even feel like I want more ... Help please I'm confused

[FitChick]

Suggest getting together for a daytime activity on the weekend. Don't assume he is anything more than a friend at this point. Let him determine the course of the relationship.

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Yes exactely, I know that I shouldn't think that this relationship is anything but friendship but for some reason I just can't but yet I'm trying. And since I'm confused I didn't even have the guts to ask him to join me in any of my activities or to simply meet around our workplaces, though I would do that with any of my other friends ...