Zahara Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Just ignore. He'll get the message. He'll get tired. If you contact him he WILL lure you back in. He'll cry, and beg and you'll get soft in the knees and before you know it you'll be posting about whether it's a good idea to get back together. They will persist because they cannot take the rejection because after all, he's been doing the rejecting. And it could also be that he doesn't have someone in his life now so he's trying to get you to fill that void. 3
CaliBabe Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Keep ignoring and don't give an ounce of your energy to it. No stressing, no nothing. If possible, try to find out if you can block his number.
Zahara Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 Or it may be that he loves you...... !!! Good grief, read the history first. 2
d0nnivain Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 If he is calling your place of business twice per day, I think you owe it to your employer to direct your EX to stop calling you there. The employer may decide your not worth having the office phones tied up every day.
stillafool Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I went NC 5 weeks ago, he resurfaced after 3 of those weeks with calling my office and leaving voice mails-- as you know, I delete them as soon as I hear his voice. THIS IS HAPPENING EVERYDAY sometimes twice a day!!!!!! again, when will he get tired? After the holidays??? He needs to move on!!!!! I'm almost tempted to call him and tell him to leave me alone, but I know he would try to lure me back in. Ugh!!!!!!!!!! So what are you going to do about this?
LostConfused123 Posted December 10, 2013 Posted December 10, 2013 I don't know about stalking but it definitely sounds like harassment. Not at all making light of your situation because it is a problem. Not only is he messing with your mind and not letting you heal but he has absolutely no respect for the fact that you are at your place of business. Sorry this is happening to you. I would ignore and hope he gets tired and gives up. If it becomes more than a couple times a day then you might want to have another plan. What a weasel! Best of luck to you! 1
Author deponie12 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 He dials my direct office. He use to call me there all the time through out our relationship. I asked our IT dept if there was a way to block numbers there, he said no. Ugh. I just need to hope he'll grow tired. My therapist said he would. He's tried so many times just in these past two weeks. He ignored me all summer long, I busted him on match.com, sexting others, he needs to move on. No more doormat or fallback girl like I have been the last couple of years. I have Legal Shield through my employer, maybe i can have the lawyers send him a letter. Once he finds his next victim he'll be ok. 1
Author deponie12 Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Ugh- and yet another voice mail.......... DELETED once again, should I listen to the next one?? what is he trying to say?? LOL I know what he is doing... trying to lure me back for HIS satisfaction-- he NEVER cared about me......
Author deponie12 Posted December 13, 2013 Author Posted December 13, 2013 and the phone calls keep coming... LOL
Haydn Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 Ignore ignore........My ex is a bit similar. She dropped me but now wants to put me though the mill again. Not going to happen and not to you either! Ignore, they will go away. Take care. and the phone calls keep coming... LOL
Author deponie12 Posted December 16, 2013 Author Posted December 16, 2013 UGH! and yet another--- I have been ignoring. BUT WHEN WILL HE GET TIRED?? It's stalking my office vm! LOL- I need a new job....
Zahara Posted December 16, 2013 Posted December 16, 2013 UGH! and yet another--- I have been ignoring. BUT WHEN WILL HE GET TIRED?? It's stalking my office vm! LOL- I need a new job.... You said you have Legal Shield through your employment. Maybe you can contact them and see if they have a solution to having him stop harassing you at work. Or speak to your employer and seek guidance and maybe if someone called from your office, it will stop him from contacting you.
Author deponie12 Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Just ignore. He'll get the message. He'll get tired. If you contact him he WILL lure you back in. He'll cry, and beg and you'll get soft in the knees and before you know it you'll be posting about whether it's a good idea to get back together. They will persist because they cannot take the rejection because after all, he's been doing the rejecting. And it could also be that he doesn't have someone in his life now so he's trying to get you to fill that void. I am sad to admit this almost happened... and I woke up- He tried to beg, telling me he is a changed man, going to church the whole 9 yards... so my dumb ass unblocked him and sent a text- we texted back and forth a bit, and I thought to myself.. WHAT ARE YOU DOING!!!!??? STOP! So I started NC again- this texting back and forth lasted a day- I wear a rubber band on my wrist to snap the hell out of me if I ever feel like that scumbag is worth a text- back to blocked and moving forward-- for those who want to break NC- DO NOT DO IT! Nothing changes- you can't change the past, all the lies and hurt-- so remember, when the past comes knocking-- DO NOT ANSWER... IT HAS NOTHING NEW TO SAY!!!
jphcbpa Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 for those who want to break NC- DO NOT DO IT! Nothing changes- you can't change the past, all the lies and hurt-- so remember, when the past comes knocking-- DO NOT ANSWER... IT HAS NOTHING NEW TO SAY!!! Love love love this 1
BruisedBNBroken Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 It is my LS signature quote for a reason!! :-)
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