deponie12 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 The only way he can contact me is through my office phone at work-- he called on a Sunday ( knowing I work Mon-Fri) to leave me a voice mail of him sounding SO pathetic! For those who know my story- I have been with this guy for 3 years, the whole time I learned he was on dating sites and sexting other woman, the bottom fell out 3 weeks ago, I found out he actually has a girlfriend on the side ( not just online and sexting) but a "real" one, (LOL) I can laugh about this now, but he resurfaced yet again...... I hit delete on my VM and continued on with the NC. He told me he missed me, and loves me very much and that he is doing horrible. ( my friend pulled up his FB account, he seems happy on there, effing liar!) so there you have it.... I have and WILL NOT reply to him, ever again. He hurt me too much, I am in therapy now and I think about how I am crying all the time, while he is out on dates. F THAT! 5
fixing Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Lol, men like him make me cringe. Pathetic, winey, sniffly little no backboned sociopaths. Good, never reply to the loser. He will live a long miserable sad pathetic life. Karma is real, and after all the hearts this ars ehole has trampled on, i bet a grand he ends up utterly destroyed when it happens to him. God willing. 2
xUnknown Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 We all know facebook is Bullspit...everyone tries to up-play their life and make it look all "perfect", when its actually just the opposite. You can't take anything you see on facebook seriously, its not real life. My ex would do the same...make these posts for attention, make her life and her job look "fantastic"..when I know deep down she doesn't like it, she doesn't like how she moved, she's depressed and self esteem issues...all which lead to our breakup. In short, screw FB. Maybe he misses you, may be doesnt, but you did the right thing...screw him. Move on with your life. 4
Pa76 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 I deleted Facebook after he dumped me. Site pisses me off. Miss when social media wasn't around...less bs to deal with. That guy has a tornado of karma coming. Can't go through life treating others like they have no feelings. 2
taramg5 Posted November 26, 2013 Posted November 26, 2013 The 60 day breakup Challenge!! Im doing the nc thing too and it is soooo hard! I find that blogging about it has helped me a lot. If you want to see my story or read my progress it would be great. Any feedback is very very welcome
Author deponie12 Posted November 27, 2013 Author Posted November 27, 2013 day # 22 ( me NC) he decides to call again when I am NOT in my office ( he knows I work 8am-5pm mon-fri) he called today at 6am and said I just want to say "Happy Thanksgiving, and I bet you have nice plans for tomorrow" He then continued to say "I have nothing planned for tomorrow" ( trying to get my on the feel sorry for him hook) and then he says "I hope you can be my friend one day" and hung up...... UGH! Why isn't he with the girlfriend?????? Or if he is.... why can't he just leave me alone? we were toxic ( for those who know my story)
nevergoodenough Posted November 27, 2013 Posted November 27, 2013 He hasn't given an indication that he wants to be back with you. Regardless if he has a girlfriend or not, he hasn't come out and say that. It's possible he just wants to be friends. Regardless of what it is you want, your best bet would be to ignore him. 1
Author deponie12 Posted November 29, 2013 Author Posted November 29, 2013 three voice mails now at my office ( the only way he can get to me- I have blocked him in all other areas) Today I came to the office, played my messages and as soon as I heard his voice, I DELETED for the first time. ( normally I hear his crap and it tortures me when I am down) I WILL NOT BREAK NC! Today is day # 24 and I FEEL AWESOME! He just wants me back because it's the holidays and he wants gifts.... when will he get tired of calling my office on "off hours" to leave me a message?? The coward always calls when I am NOT in the office--UGH make it stop already!!!!
elbe Posted November 29, 2013 Posted November 29, 2013 The coward always calls when I am NOT in the office--UGH make it stop already!!!! Thankfully!! If you keep the No Contact and I mean NO CONTACT eventually the no response will wear him down. Some psychos take longer than others, but it's no fun talking to a wall. Just keep on keeping on. If you have security at work you might want to give them a picture to stop him from coming inside. Depends how far you want to take it.. but don't get police involved unless you feel you are in danger.
Author deponie12 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 For those who don't know my story: My world crashed down on Nov 5th- I found out after 3 years of dating that my boyfriend was always involved with others someway or another- ( online sexting, dating sights and then REAL LIVE dates for the past few months while dating me.... I found out, he was busted, I started NC Nov 5th- he went three whole weeks and then decided to blow up my office voice mail ( the only way to contact me) and I have NOT responded.... here is an email ( yes, he made a new email address so it would go through, I have since blocked this one as well) but check out how it's ALL ABOUT HIM: Hi I guess with your not replying to me you don't want anything to do with me or anything I text... Email... Or say in your vm.... I only want you to be a friend..... I miss the laughs... The fun stories... I miss everything... I'm sure your having a great time knowing that I'm suffering badly I know you don't care about me or what I have done or lost... I'm sure you think I deserve it all... Thanks for the great memories and the good luck with your next love I remember we used to joke around saying I was a little slow.... I guess I didn't realize you were being serious when you joked with me... I am slow and didn't see what I lost and how much I regret Merry Christmas :-* Sent from my iPhone
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 So make it about you. Take your power back. Continue to ignore his self-centered a$$.
Author deponie12 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 That I will do. I find it funny, they are in the wrong and try to guilt trip. It worked in the past, I always took him back... I am DONE! 1
Author deponie12 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 The funny thing is, again, he waits until I am NOT at my office to leave pathetic voice mails, this time I heard "Hi , it's me" and as soon as I heard that I deleted... I refuse to listen to his sappy crap just to get me to respond. He ****ed with me for three years, had me crying all the time, I AM DONE! FREE! I use to crawl back to him every time he messed up ( even after catching him on match.com) LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!!!!! feeling GREAT! 32 days and counting........ 5
headinthecloud Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Good for you! Stay strong and never give in. He sounds like a class A douchebag. 1
Author deponie12 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 Ok--- for those that know my past stories-- my EX is STILL calling my voice mail at work during off hours!!!!! Today I came to work to hear his VM and I caught Hi (my name) and he was sobbing. I hit delete-- ugh... I did feel bad!!! Been NC since Nov 5th-- that vm was from Sunday- then he left one early this morning ( of course before I got to work) he said in a clear voice "Hi ( my name)" I deleted yet again... I have deleted a ton of messages so far. I am starting to feel bad. I know this is him trying to manipulate me...... help me stay strong!
Chi townD Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Just keep reminding yourself that he was cheating on you. He was going on dates with girls on Match.com WHILE he was with you. And probably meeting up with those girls on Craigslist. Thinking about that should make it easier to hit that delete button as soon as you hear his voice. Sooner or later, he'll buy a clue and the calls will start to taper off. 1
Zahara Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 It's so funny how cheaters cry after they've been caught or let go. They certainly weren't crying when they were doing the deed! Certainly weren't feeling any sort of remorse or compassion for you when they were lying to you. And you feel bad? Please. I bet when you were crying for feeling betrayed he wasn't sitting there feeling bad for you. Delete and ignore. 2
Author deponie12 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 I totally agree Zahara- I think about all those days and nights I've cried, he never cared. He was going about in his happy life without a care in the world. He is a very selfish man, I no longer feel bad. LOL! Thanks!
Zahara Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I totally agree Zahara- I think about all those days and nights I've cried, he never cared. He was going about in his happy life without a care in the world. He is a very selfish man, I no longer feel bad. LOL! Thanks! Good girl!!
Author deponie12 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 UGH!!! He JUST called my office- took him 5 weeks to FINALLY have the balls to call while I was in the office! ( of course I didn't answer it, it went to vm and I heard the typical "Hey ( my name)" and I deleted...) when will he stop????
ponchsox Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 My ex was posting all kinds of "look at me" stuff on her Facebook after our breakup because she knew I was probably snooping and she's such a narcissistic control freak. That was until I deleted her and blocker her for good. 1
BruisedBNBroken Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 UGH!!! He JUST called my office- took him 5 weeks to FINALLY have the balls to call while I was in the office! ( of course I didn't answer it, it went to vm and I heard the typical "Hey ( my name)" and I deleted...) when will he stop???? Wow he really is a piece of work. Stay strong girl, stay strong! I know how difficult it is. No matter what he has done, somehow our brains have a tendency to just remember the good times and nostalgia. Go back and read your old posts when you first went no contact. Think about all he things he has done and how you felt in those first few days. That always helps me. I never want to go back to day 1 again. Silence is power! He'll get bored soon. It's boring talking to a wall. PM me if you need to. And great job!! 1
Author deponie12 Posted December 10, 2013 Author Posted December 10, 2013 I went NC 5 weeks ago, he resurfaced after 3 of those weeks with calling my office and leaving voice mails-- as you know, I delete them as soon as I hear his voice. THIS IS HAPPENING EVERYDAY sometimes twice a day!!!!!! again, when will he get tired? After the holidays??? He needs to move on!!!!! I'm almost tempted to call him and tell him to leave me alone, but I know he would try to lure me back in. Ugh!!!!!!!!!!
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