Never exceeding or meeting expectations in future relationships?

[AShogunNamedMarcus]

I completely agree!! But this mindset usually occurs long after the rawness of a fresh BU. I believe the OP is still less than 6 months out of a 5+ year RS. He cannot see or understand what you describe.

 

I can't argue there.

 

I guess I'm addressing more the title question and looking ahead, when this can affect his future relationships.

 

If you feel it's what you need to do to get through a rough time, then by all means.

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MY ex created expectations as well. If things come even close to how they were with her it is over.

[Vinsanity1307]

doesnt accepting you had something great just make you long and want it more???? and compare it even more??? And you think 4+ months is still fresh for a Breakup? Worried I should of been somewhat healed now...so hurting this long out worries me....thanks for your replies by the way

[d0nnivain]

Everyone heals at their own pace. Healing is also a function of how long the relationship was.

 

If you keep focusing on how "perfect" it was & how you are never going to have another relationship as good, you won't heal because you will remain focused in the past.

 

I've loved 4 men in my life. Although 3 of those relationships ended they were all pretty solid while they were on going. All of the men were handsome. All were intelligent & well educated even if they had different educations & different areas of expertise. Those past 3 helped me to understand myself, my needs & my limitations so that when I finally met the man who is now my husband, I was emotionally and psychologically ready for him & our relationship. There are things that each of my past & present loves did better than the others. However the strengths of those men in no way invalidates my love & devotion to my husband. It just means that he has other strengths.