Ansem Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 It's been about 5 months since she broke it off with me and around 3 months since the last time I spoke with her. I guess I've always had her in my mind but recently things have been tough for me. She contacted me about a month ago and, as advised, I ignored it. Looking back at it I kind of wish I would've said something and met with her. I've never seen her as a bad person and I'd like to believe she did with good intentions and not as a breadcrumb. Despite her breaking things off I think I should have fought for her as she was always the type of person to appreciate the gesture. Anyway now I'm sure she's moved on as she probably sees me as a horrible person that doesn't even reciprocate a happy birthday. I hoped NC would make me a stronger person and to some extent it has but I cannot shake this girl from my head. What I really want to do is contact her and hope something is still there even though I know you all would disagree. But if I can't move on now I feel like throwing one last effort out there and see what comes of it.
ILoveVegas Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Don't do it man.. You will be in a worst situation trust me. Just stay strong with no contact. May I know what message you ignored from her?
sun1972 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 my feeling on all the 'nc' stuff is different to most here, i think nc is NOT a way to get reconciliation but a way to move on. She may or may not be missing you, i do find it ironic that 2 people might be missing each other madly, but both might be in NC ?. I guess a lot of it depends on who ended things, the situation (have any issues that split you been resolved for instance) I would say if you do contact her, be prepared for all the upset to come back. She may 1) Ignore you- you will feel bad and have set yourself back healing 2) Chat a little but reveal she is dating someone or something..you will feel awful most likely and give yourself a lot of pain 3) Be open to reconciliation if things have changed... but i think this unlikely. So...after writing this i can see why people say it is a bad idea most of the time...
Author Ansem Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 It was her asking how I was doing, probably seeking to be friends because long ago I sent her an email explaining that I'd like to someday catch up with her and to not hesitate to send me a text. Of course at the time I had different intentions but when she did I just wasn't ready which is why I ignored her. I wish I would've responded by telling her that instead of skipping her birthday and then ignoring her.
ILoveVegas Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 If she wants you back she could have done something already. Not just how are you. So don't contact her man
cavalier99 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Definitly dont do it. Hold strong. The urge will pass. Then it will come again. The longer you go without giving into the urge the less they become. View this like exercise. Or that your mind/body is slowly purging a chemical addiction. Just dont give in and eventually it will be out of your system. These episodes make you stronger!! wooo hooo! Cav
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