Aero-el Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 If a guy goes out with a girl three times, the first two dates is a month apart from the third one, all without kissing, is it time to move on? I actually like this girl but she's too shy and I'm too chicken to make my move. I'm also assuming for the ladies that the attraction/interest is gone at this point and the guy lands in the friend zone.
coffeebean201 Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Does she talk on these dates, does she look relaxed with you? Sometimes shy girls are worth the effort. Keep being manly and give it some time. ???
ThomasD Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 If the dates are a month apart, and ESPECIALLY if she's a shy girl, she may see you in the "I just met him and hardly even know him" zone, rather than the "friend zone" (whatever that is). You haven't given her the materials (mainly sustained interaction) to get her ready for an affectionate, much less intimate, kiss. Your "chicken" instinct may actually be trying to tell you this. When she is truly ready, and you make your move, it might be even better than you could ever imagine! (I've related my personal experience in this situation in another thread you participate in.)
melell Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 No not necessarily... people seem to like each other more when they see each other often. Not seeing her frequently could be the only thing getting in your way.
MalachiX Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Really it varies. Sometimes people want to take things very slow for whatever reason (usually because of being shy or previous relationship issues). I once let this freak me out but now I'm trying to be OK with it because I realize that I've too often fallen into relationships fast that fizzled out just as fast. Recently, I've actually really liked the idea of letting things go slower to see if there might be something more substantial. I'm sure it's different for every person but if you sense that she likes you and you like her then why not keep going? Don't close yourself off to other posabilities though as that would also be foolish.
Author Aero-el Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 Thing is, I can't sense if she likes me or not. There are days where she's attentive and days where she isn't. You think periods hit shy women harder than outgoing ones? Granted, her and I share mutual friends, but we hardly know each other, so we are practically strangers. I guess that's why the first three dates, I didn't make a move. It's like her and I might as well have met through online dating, but minus the profile.
MidwestUSA Posted November 25, 2013 Posted November 25, 2013 Thing is, I can't sense if she likes me or not. There are days where she's attentive and days where she isn't. You think periods hit shy women harder than outgoing ones? Granted, her and I share mutual friends, but we hardly know each other, so we are practically strangers. I guess that's why the first three dates, I didn't make a move. It's like her and I might as well have met through online dating, but minus the profile. Periods? They hit each woman differently, but not based on level of shyness. Why not ask her out again, and make a move this time?
Author Aero-el Posted November 25, 2013 Author Posted November 25, 2013 Periods? They hit each woman differently, but not based on level of shyness. Why not ask her out again, and make a move this time? If you went out with a girl three times without a kiss, how would you do a fourth date? I asked her out before to coffee (again) and on the day of, she texted me she can't make it. She didn't say 'NO', but just 'can't make it out tonight sry' without a counter offer, which is discouraging. No counter offer to a date = her not interested? So I've taken her out to a bar, coffeeshop, and an art gallery thus far. At this point in time, where/what should I do for a fourth date?
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